Posted: 21 July 2012 at 5:13am | IP Logged
Originally posted by sree07
Originally posted by riti4u
Originally posted by sree07
I see many of my buddies finding her selfish but tell me one thing dear...what selfish trait she has shown till now.?
.I was equally angry with her on her dialogue with my Arnie..
but keeping phangurl aside..she is still fairly understandable and human at this stage...Her world has changed and she doesnt know how and why...She deserves to know every truth about shyam but still it is hidden so her giving benefit of doubt to him is okay too..now coming to selfish part- her husband is thrown out by her very own brother and she is still in his house stating that her chotte will not think bad about her so she tries to cope with trauma only to find that her chotte is oblivious of her pain..she is hurt..a normal person will be..She has not blamed anyone right now..She has even pointed fingers at khushi but she is same person for whom her brother has thrown her hubby out and is celebrating while she mourns and coming to last episode..she is upset that arnav lied to him thats all..not because he chose to spend time with his wife but because he lied..
@bold I can tell you few scenes where I felt the selfish side of Anjali
- Abortion scene - She was selfish enough to torture the baby and the family for the love of one man. She was oblivious to the pain of her brother and the family who are standing by her think and thin during tough times.
- Rose scene - The moment she got the rose scenes, she assumed that its for her. It could have been for anyone in the family. Maama can send one to maami, Akash can send on to payal, then ASR - khushi. But the moment she gets the flower, whats her first reaction? She assumes "It is for her". Period. Doesn't it show a little bit of selfishness trait?
- Celebration scene - First of all I am of opinion that you should not enter into one's privacy without knocking. If she has knocked and waited for arhi response outside the room. May be she was fine. But she choose to go closer. The moment she sees the celebration, she is sad. The moment she sees a happy arhi, anjali is sad. why? Whats do you call a persons insecurity in seeing someone else happy? selfishness. isn't it?
- Again friday, she just wanted to go to temple thats it. It was not an emergency or hospital check up. It was a satsang. Now when she sees arhi together her insecurity is triggered and it is the reason why she is believing arnav's words. The old anjali would have believed arnav no matter what. Whats the insecurity, bro giving more importance to wifey? I could see nothing but selfishness here dear
I lost connection with her long back. So no surprises for me on yesterday. Infact wed and Thu she kind of impressed me. But fri back to square one.
I don't think it's selfish to want to about YOUR own child. At the end of the day she has to be a mother to that child, she is going to be the number one caretaker of it, the guardian. If she want's to abort it it's her decision, not the entire Raizada family. Her body, her child. her choice she can think about everyone else, but she does not have to.
Regardless of that issue, I don't know if you recall but one of the main reasons that Anjali wanted the child aborted was, what was she going to say when the child asked about it's father? That he was a lying cheating scumbag?( That's what I said btw). She did not want to hate the child she wanted so badly, because it reminded her of him. That is not being selfish. She is thinking about the child. Plus in Indian Society there is a greater stigma regarding divorce and seperation, the child would have to bear that too.
I don't think, believing the roses were for her is being selfish. It's being hopeful. I don't think she has fully accepted that whole Shyam truth yet, it takes time to digest. She is looking for a sign that it's all a lie, that Shyam does love her. That's why she thinks the roses are for her, because she want's those roses to be. Plus Aakash is the only man in the Raizada house before that would send flowers, but he's mad at Payal so it's not from him. Mamaji send flowers doubt it and Arnav has never sent flowers before. So it is more of a Shyam type of thing to do , especially regarding the significance of red roses prior, in their relationship. So not selfish, logical and hopeful.
I admit that you should enter someone's room before knocking. This has been an anomaly in Anjali's behaviour though. She used to always knock. I feel the CV's just inserted that because it was convenient for the storyline, because how else would she have walked onto something like that? If Arnav opened the door, after she knocked where would the drama be in that?
I think at that moment Anjali was confronted for the first time that she was no longer the most important women in her Chotey's life. Another shoe had dropped and she is acting irrationally.She is also confronted with the fact that she won't be having that kind of thing again. She is grieving as anyone would when you lose two people that are very important to you. She is going to be jealous, she is human not a saint.
I don't think she want's him to be unhappy, she just doesn't understand how he could move on so quickly when she is in turmoil. He has always been there for her, she has a huge dependency on Arnav. Her line of thinking is that how can you leave me when I need you most? You of all people, when you have never left my side before.It must be a hard pill to swallow amongst everything else.
About the whole satsang thing.Anjali and Arnav's relationship has gone through a major transition. The old Anjali would have believed Arnav straight away. The old Anjali had not seen her brother kick her husband out of her house, the old Anjali has not seen a new woman who she does not like take precedence in Arnav's life. Why would he not lie to spend time with the woman he loves more than her? Again irrational and insecure not selfish.
I think Anjali is hurting a lot, and she want's that pain eradicated so bad. So she hopes and looks for signs and expects Arnav to fix it because he always does. She has attuned herself to her needs more, than the old Anjali, making her seem selfish. All I see is a sad woman wanting to be happy again, if trying to find the means to do that is being selfish, than yes Anjali is selfish.