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Posted: 19 July 2012 at 2:26pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by koyelbasu

Actually Tanu I am seeing this situation from a completely diff angle and failed  to recognize it as debate. I also feel bad for Anji but for me Nidhi is not selfish anyway but today she failed to control her emotion.  My point of view is Ashu's absence will cause unhappiness in Nidhi's family and Anji will miss badly her jiju. She also want to see Ashni together in her marriage. Ashu is very imp. to Nidhi's family. His presence will bring complete happiness to the ceremony. They want Ashni not Nidhi alone. So, it is not only for her but for the full family she went to Ashu. For me there is no fault in it, I rather support her . 


Going to get Ashu is not a fault.. its a great thing... i m supporting her in that too.. 

but her despondent self during Anjies happy occassions was a disappointment ...  Smile that what m saying.. Embarrassed

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Posted: 19 July 2012 at 2:33pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Sujatha.rao

I would prefer not to get into the argument of good friend-bad friend...we are never the same at all times...there are times when we are all giving and times when we are so absorbed in ourselves that we fail to comprehend the pain of even our dear ones...in a relationship that has clearly lasted a lifetime, I think an instance here or there cannot be reason to make a sweeping assessment..if you look at it like that, Nidhi happily took time off from work and went shopping with Anji hardly a day after joining duty...so she put her career aside for her friend's sake even at the risk of appearing non-serious to her husband/ boss!.

Secondly, one has to accept that post marriage there is a definite shift in equations...at least, in the initial phase, you tend to become each other's world to the exclusion of all others...this couple have been married for less than two months...so this mutual absorption is normal and friends and family do understand...their marriage has just survived a huge jolt by the name of Mallika...so even small tiffs might impact them far more than it would normally...everything is magnified when your emotions are raw...while, Nidhi's role as a friend might seem questionable to outsiders, I think Anji would understand her perfectly...if you see, when she realized that Nidhi was upset because of her fight with Ashutosh, you saw concern on her face and not irritation that Nidhi was not giving her time and attention...that is true friendship...she understood that her friend was far too disturbed to put up an act!

On why Nidhi went to get Ashutosh, it was as much for herself as for him...Ashutosh needs to feel wanted and Nidhi knows that...she knows he is a loner who has not had much experience with relationships...she knows he needs constant reassurance...if you saw, Ashutosh misinterpreted her not calling to mean that she was busy enjoying herself with her family and friends...he is both insecure and possessive here...whether that makes sense to us or not, it makes perfect sense to her...so she knew she would have to go and get him...what is right and wrong between a couple is only for them to decide...they alone understand their equations and what they give and take from each other...an outsider might feel the relationship lopsided but the couple maybe perfectly happy...here, Nidhi understands Ashutosh's insecurities and so she goes to him...both for his sake and hers...for she also knows that she cannot be happy in his absence...it is not just about fielding questions...her heart yearns for him...she cannot be at peace and enjoy herself so long as her conflict with him is not resolved...so she went to him as much for herself as for him!


It is very difficult to concentrate on anything when something important has constantly occupied in the mind... and from Nidhi's face it is palpable... She wanted to participate in Anji's function so endearingly... She knew Ashutosh very well that he would be sitting and sulking at home... guessed it correctly... She had come to take him to Anji's wedding... not to sit and give company to Ashutosh at home...

 If someone asks me, why always Nidhi has to take the first step... I may not correctly answer because of that Ashutosh's behavior when she left home... but, I guess... leaving him is not an option she has...

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Posted: 19 July 2012 at 6:25pm | IP Logged
I couldn't agree with the topic maker anymore. Well, not just for today but yes Ashu and Nidhi are self-centered and it is all about them. I was totally annoyed with what Nidhi did today (not disappointed cause that's how she had been most of the times). Agreed that it is hard to be happy when you are not, but for heavens sake it was a minor fight between them Shocked don't we all have issues in our real lives?? don't we fight with our spouses or family members yet go to work or college and still behave normal?? That is basic etiquette!! Dead If it happens once in a while, I think even people around you understand and try to cheer you up but if it's a regular story then i would get annoyed. If I were Anjie, I would be slowly getting tired of Nidhi's mood fluctuations and stories of her married life problems. Honestly, she sulked all the time today. She is this depressed person when things are not good and this hyper person when everything is okay. Where is the balanced person?? It's about time she learns that. More so if she is going to have a kid in the near future. God have mercy on this kid Tongue As some people have said, Ashu is an egoistic person and makes hardly any effort to solve issues at hand. 

For me, Nidhi and Ashu share a very immature relation where they fight pretty much everyday. So far in this serial I have not seen even a single day pass by without them fighting. I just don't like it. May be there are relations like that in real life too but to me that is just a very weak bonding due to the lack of understanding between each other. This show writer gets a big Thumbs Down. Very soon, am gonna stop watching this show cause every single episode reminds me of what a bad relation these two have. one hour- lovey dovey,  next hour- arguing and mounvrat. Ohhh also they have to make sure that everyone around them knows that they are having an issue...Stern Smile kabhi kabhi ladna is okay par kabhi kabhi hi pyaar se rehna is unbearable. If the show writer really wants to show the ups and downs of a relation, there are many better ways to do that but definitely not this way.

Sorry for the total negative post but it was just my view. So disappointed with this show Unhappy
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Posted: 19 July 2012 at 8:51pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by luv2dance

I couldn't agree with the topic maker anymore. Well, not just for today but yes Ashu and Nidhi are self-centered and it is all about them. I was totally annoyed with what Nidhi did today (not disappointed cause that's how she had been most of the times). Agreed that it is hard to be happy when you are not, but for heavens sake it was a minor fight between them Shocked don't we all have issues in our real lives?? don't we fight with our spouses or family members yet go to work or college and still behave normal?? That is basic etiquette!! Dead If it happens once in a while, I think even people around you understand and try to cheer you up but if it's a regular story then i would get annoyed. If I were Anjie, I would be slowly getting tired of Nidhi's mood fluctuations and stories of her married life problems. Honestly, she sulked all the time today. She is this depressed person when things are not good and this hyper person when everything is okay. Where is the balanced person?? It's about time she learns that. More so if she is going to have a kid in the near future. God have mercy on this kid Tongue As some people have said, Ashu is an egoistic person and makes hardly any effort to solve issues at hand. 

For me, Nidhi and Ashu share a very immature relation where they fight pretty much everyday. So far in this serial I have not seen even a single day pass by without them fighting. I just don't like it. May be there are relations like that in real life too but to me that is just a very weak bonding due to the lack of understanding between each other. This show writer gets a big Thumbs Down. Very soon, am gonna stop watching this show cause every single episode reminds me of what a bad relation these two have. one hour- lovey dovey,  next hour- arguing and mounvrat. Ohhh also they have to make sure that everyone around them knows that they are having an issue...Stern Smile kabhi kabhi ladna is okay par kabhi kabhi hi pyaar se rehna is unbearable. If the show writer really wants to show the ups and downs of a relation, there are many better ways to do that but definitely not this way.

Sorry for the total negative post but it was just my view. So disappointed with this show Unhappy

I completely agree with you - nidhi doest have balance in her life - one minute she is angry and doest wanna talk to anyone - second minute she is over the wall and want to do everything in the world- for her everything revolves about her own happiness- nothing else matters ! 
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Posted: 19 July 2012 at 10:23pm | IP Logged
I dnt think nidhi is selfish, she ws just too concerned abt ashu in all this midst she cudn't keep her mind & heart @ anjie's mehendi.. I dnt understand why anjie didn't gv any advice to nidhi, despited knowing that nidhi is upset bcoz of ashu.. Waise toh humesha koi na koi advice deti rehati hain anjie nidhi ko... Btw, nidhi just can't fake a smile, Her dissapointment on ashu ws written all over the face..

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Posted: 19 July 2012 at 11:07pm | IP Logged
My POV: 
i was not disappointed with Nidhi. It was just rehearsal for sangeet. 
yes she cud have danced for the mehendi.. But she just got gifts for Ash and he yelled at her about spending dusre ke paise etc and insulted her before colleagues .
 It s not easy to get over it when u are newly married and she knew he wud not come on his own.
Sometimes u just can't act normal. And this was just one of those days..

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Posted: 20 July 2012 at 12:10am | IP Logged
There are 2 aspects here... everyone is thinking that the issue is a minor one.. But finances and how they are handled are the root cause of a majority of all problems between couples.. We may laugh that women spend and men crib.. and in my case there is a role reversal where i crib and my hubby spends.. but yes it is a problem.

There was no one person wrong in yesterday's fight. Both were right in their respective stances, so it becomes an issue that one has to live with... it is a big deal.

Nidhi spent the day with Anji and the previous night... because Anji wanted to...  So she clearly displayed her love as a friend. 

Life is never black and white where the person who has made a mistake will apologize... It usually is one person learns to let go.. the other may appreciate it but will turn out to be a little unreasonable sometimes..

New into their marriage... first time spending even the night away and yet when no resolution seems in sight it is a big deal for Nidhi and i liked the way she reacted.  She was there for her friend... 
She got Ashu... right or wrong he is her husband and she cannot be happy without him... Love is a little unreaonsable at time... that's what makes it so special that you can afford to take liberties that you otherwise couldn't.

So glad she went to get Ashu... If i knew my husband was sulking for some reason... why someone else's I wouldn't enjoy my own wedding... 

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Posted: 20 July 2012 at 12:20am | IP Logged
Well said fanktlk.
This is a complicated situation for a person to face - to try to be happy for some one when she/he herself is totally unhappy...It is difficult to give a correct analysis of how one should behave in such times. I only know that jispe beet raha hain sirf wohi samajh payega...

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