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Arnav is wrong, Is Khushi right? (Page 11)

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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:15am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Opti

Yes, Khushi should not have hid the fact about Shyam from Arnav but shall we rewind and bit and go to the day when this whole thing blew up on her face?


On that day she was shell shocked to know that the man she was forced to get engaged to was the husband of the woman who brought her into RM to work, a woman she was close to.  In her dazed state she bangs into Arnav and was about to blurt out the truth when she recalled how close he was to his Di. It would have shattered him had she told him that his jijaji whom he respected was cheating on his sister whom he loved more than life. She decided to hold back for the moment till she was clear about the repercussions of her actions. 


When she returned home she was all set to reveal the truth to Anjali (the affected party). Her mom was against it fearing it would affect her sister's marriage but she held on that the truth needed to be told. This shows that she did not mind sacrificing her sister's marriage for the sake of Anjali.  Payal supported her on her decision.  However, when she was about to tell Anjali the truth the next day, she was made aware of Anjali's obsessive devotion to her husband and her paranoia  of losing him. Again for her sake she held her tongue.


This time she did not confide in Arnav for two reasons. One, he was behaving very erratically.  He was being extra mean to her, especially after he came to know of her engagement. She couldn't understand his behaviour when he himself triggered the whole sequence of events by announcing his engagement to La.  In that state he could have reacted violently had she told him that his revered jijaji was a creep. Two, even if he believed her, given his fierce temper, he could have strangled his jijaji for playing with his sister's life and Anjali would have been left shattered. Now at the back of her mind, she was hoping that Shyam would change and Anjali's married life may be good after all.  Was it worth kicking up a catastrophe when that chance according to her existed? She felt it was not.  One can call her naive but her intentions were never bad.  

Her equation with Arnav was swinging back and forth mainly because of Arnav's own inability to give clear signals about his feelings. Having been hurt badly, particularly after the Diwali night, she couldn't take the chance to again trust him with her feelings.

She wasn't aware that Shyam never got over her. She did not witness him lecherously looking at her in Gupta House when Bua caught him.  Yes, he tried to give her a sob story about how Anjali was being over possessive and a control freak but she did not pay attention to it. She was not aware he had made attempts on Anjali's life. No one was aware and still everyone are ignorant of it. So one cant really blame her for it.


When Shyam again misbehaved with her near the pool on the night of the sangeet, she could have told Arnav about it and maybe she would have but when Arnav took a dig at her acting, she felt hurt and clamped up.  

Since the sangeet Arnav-Khushi relationship started looking up. She was genuinely drawn to him and was completely occupied in tackling her budding feelings for him and trying to figure him out that Shyam was the last person she thought of.


After the exchange of kiss on the haldi day, and the now obvious attraction from both sides, she was all ready to hear his confession and admit her own feelings for him when fate took a horrible turn with Shyam landing in the terrace and gripping her in a vice-like hug.  This was the first time she saw the violent obsessive side of Shyam. She knew she could not tackle him alone. After warning him off, the first thing she did was to hunt Arnav out to tell him the truth. She felt their relationship had progressed to the stage where she can confide in him and he will stand by her.  Yes, there still remained the danger that Arnav could act violently but she thought Anjali was better off without Shyam, given that this guy is incapable of redemption.


Unfortunately Arnav was not in the mood to listen to her then despite her best efforts to speak to him. By then she came to know of Anjali's pregnancy and again was forced to maintain silence. She couldn't afford to take a chance at Arnav's violent outbreak especially when his sister was in such a delicate condition. 


So all along Khushi had her chances but couldn't come clean about the creep because of her love for Arnav and Anjali.  Yes, she may have made a wrong judgement and her silence is costing her but  her silence is more selfless. Arnav's silence on this matter, however, is more selfish. He is not spelling out that he knows she is cheating on him because HE cannot bear  to hear her admit it. In the process he is hurting her more.  Even the worst criminal is told what are the charges against him before he is tried and then punished. Here he is not telling her what her crime is, nor did he allow herself to defend herself. He has straightaway punished and humiliated her in every way possible. Yes, he is hurting too but is it lessening her hurt?


Now the more serious issue. Arnav has brought her into the same house where the creep lives.  Her danger is now in close proximity to her. Her problem is further compounded by Arnav's hard attitude, she is not in a position to tell him what she is going through with the creep.  If one knows that one's husband loves and cares for you, you would immediately seek his help in such cases where your chastity and dignity are threatened. On the other hand if one is made to believe that he hates you, you can you seek his help?

There is no point Khushi telling Arnav now about Shyam for he is not going to believe her. He has already assumed the worst of her. The only person she can confide in is Payal.  I hope she does that soon and not try to tackle this menace all by herself. If not at least Payal should keep a close watch on her sister knowing of Shyam's background. In fact it is appalling that she has still not confided in Aaakash about the creep. Unlike Khushi who is unsure of her husband's feelings, she is quite content in her husband's love for her.  Beats me why she is still not opening up.   
 
take a bow. well analyzed and superb points. with u all the way in all the points

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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:17am | IP Logged
Zoha!

Ahem! Ahem(Oye I m coughing!) Serious post frm UShocked! LOL

Of course both r wrong! its like a deadlock!

She hid truth, he misunderstands,he marries and all followed...Y she hid truth?

1. The spineless Raizada ladies who let a 18 year old 2 handle a case of creep

2.The psychotic ever clingy Anjali

but Arnav's misdeeds r no less

1.He never tried 2 clarify wat he saw

2. And his behavior towards the woman whom he claims to luv

Err...wat I was supposed 2 say is yeah! both r wrong and they r facing the consequences of their wrong deeds!

Well written post Zoha!


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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:17am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mlbr

khushi is never at fault
we may think hiding truth from arnav is wrong but for her there is no way
khushi never wanted to hide until she has witnessed anjali's reaction towards the broken mangalsutra
if she had told the truth it may have cause the destuction of two families
khushi know arnav is very emotional telling arnav means knowing everybody remember he also want to tell the truth to annjali but changed decision because she is pregnant and may not bear the truth he also remained silent like khushi for his di.
both are correct in this decision
and when comes to shyam isssue every one is angry because she is silent but arnav is doing the same if khushi is wrong then arnav is also at fault. if khushi is silent thinking he may change for his child arnav is silent for his di
and may he had the fear that she may accept her love for shyam but what diferrence it makes he already thought the same and punishing for it
then the last issue the trust
remember foom the start arnav always mistrusted khushi she is gloddigger which always proved wrong later even then he never  regretted
it is arnav who was mare attracted towards khushi but he never accepted and more over insulted herin every possible way
even then khushi always thought positive of arnav even in marriage decision only she wanted the reason but arnav always not only think negitive of her  and at the same time want her which is the main reason for marriage
being in khushi place she can never dream that he know about shyam and it is the reason of his hatred as  he is behaving normal with everyone and only hating her which is difficult to accept for and also confusing
if he only want to secure his di  there are many ways beyond marriage but their is one more reason which is his love for khuushi  which he never expressed but expecting khushi to understand it which is not correct because he always played with her emotions not telling the correct reasons
but when comes to khushi she always tried to understand him even trusted that their is hidden reason which now is  slowly  vanished with his ruthess behavior
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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:18am | IP Logged
Originally posted by UltimateBarun

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He is hiding I agree he is wrong,,he should plainly confront her, but she is hiding is equally wrong,, now thats what I think! my perspective,, i respect yours, but calling all that a crime,,i dont agree with that, khushi should not have married him, if Shyam would have blackmailed him with something like this she would have married him??,, no ways,,, she knows...

 Arnav in and out, she loves him , her heart knows that Arnav has a golden heart, never took her advantage n always cared for her,so she married, tell me if she'd do the samething, if Shyam blackmailed him  for a secret marriage! 



How can Khushi be equally wrong when revealing Shyam's truth is not her duty.If she didn't break the engagement with Shyam it would have been her fault.But it is not her responsibility to inform Anjali about her husband's Kali Kartoot.Even I would not have blamed ASR if he just accused her of having an affair with Shyam.But here ASR is punishing her.And it is a crime to punish someone without letting them know their fault.
Khushi has done a mistake by not revealing the truth to Anjali.She valued emotion over truth.But it is not such a huge mistake.Poor girl ruined her life by giving Anjali priority.

 
If she can hide the truth of Shyam from Anjali just not to break Anjali's heart then she would have married Shyam if Shyam threatened her by saying he will break PayAsh marriage.



No ways she wouldn't have married Shyam , n if she does that,, then she is weak, weakes girl,,giving into lust!!! Khushi is a tron women,, she'd rather fight back with Shyam,,she'd never marry or give into his demands,, with Arnav ists different, she loves him to the core despite of his flaws n thats what makes thos story for me, flawed characters, not right always, they love each other, n the way she wanted Arnav to confess,, she is not even considering his behaviour towards her in the past,,, all the brutality  he showed, is nothing for her, if he would have said those 3 words,,,the way she looked onto him,,,while he ate,  n the way he cared for her always,, they both are at fault,, who is more is upto one's perspective! 

Bottom line, both have wronged themselves!! u think otherwise, I respect, u dont really have to agree with me or vice versa!!



Sorry to bump in this discussion...but just want to add one point when above it is said it is not khushi's responsibility to tell truth to anjali or arnav..I dont agree at all...well being respectful towards your opinion..but I could not resist myself from posting that yes it was khushi' s responsibility to tell truth...and her character seems to say that she does right and is not afraid to do so...she knew anjali's husband was a cheat and she knew how he is playing with anjali's emotions..how he is betraying love and trust of one family...and believe it or not..she has unknowingly became cause of this betrayal..when a guy tells you how he wanted to marry and keep both relations one with anjali and other wid her..it was indeed her responsibility to tell Arnav at least about it..he needed to know...well if those murderous plans of shyam wud have succeeded...wont then khushi would have been blamed... Just my POV... totally agreed with TM..

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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:19am | IP Logged
you are right, you cannot clap with one hand, and a misunderstanding always happens between two or more people. one person by himself can never have a misunderstanding he has a perseption.
khushi is wrong for not telling Arnav about Shayam. if before she kept quite it was because of Anjali, on the marriage day she wanted to tell Arnav but she didnt because she thought that because of the news of the baby Shayam would change and the was no need to spoil things for Anjali and the Family. but now what is her problem. Shayam is getting bolder and bolder. and she gets upset at that time and then she forgets about it.  thats not consistantent behaviour.
 
(i think the CV's are forgeting about this underlining tention, when they are forcussing on Arhi. so when the harresment happens it kind of seams out of context. the views cannot understand what shayam wants exactly. Arnavs money or Arnavs wife.???????? and his motives seems kind of stupid.)
 
Arnav is wrong because he married the girl, claims he hates her. claims he will never accept her as his wife. tell her she has hurt him. he drops hints and she simply does not get it. as the say if the glove fits it your and you commited the crime. but for khushi the glove does not fit. she does not get what he is reffering to because she belives  she has not done any thing wrong ( which is also a fact, she is a victim of Shayam). Arnav should tell her how she has hurt him or he should understand that she does not know how she has hurt him because she hasnt. he should dig deaper into shayams claims.
 
in their thoughts both Arnav and Khushi are right. but in their actions both are at fault 
 
 

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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:21am | IP Logged
Originally posted by UltimateBarun


IS khushi wrong because Arnav is wrong?

 

If Khushi hid the fact from Arnav becoz of his behavior towards her n thinking that he might not trust her, if she is doing that she is being selfish and anyway it's not helping her

 

If she is thinking that she is doing a favor to Raizada siblings, then on what grounds she thinks that, Shyam is getting bolder day by day, cant she understand this?

You know why Khushi is hiding truth because she thought Arnav loves her sister so he        will broke down . that's it but in my opinion she thinks wrong 


Edited by kmjhatial - 08 April 2012 at 9:22am

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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:24am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mlbr

khushi is never at fault
we may think hiding truth from arnav is wrong but for her there is no way
khushi never wanted to hide until she has witnessed anjali's reaction towards the broken mangalsutra
if she had told the truth it may have cause the destuction of two families
khushi know arnav is very emotional telling arnav means knowing everybody remember he also want to tell the truth to annjali but changed decision because she is pregnant and may not bear the truth he also remained silent like khushi for his di.
both are correct in this decision
and when comes to shyam isssue every one is angry because she is silent but arnav is doing the same if khushi is wrong then arnav is also at fault. if khushi is silent thinking he may change for his child arnav is silent for his di
and may he had the fear that she may accept her love for shyam but what diferrence it makes he already thought the same and punishing for it
then the last issue the trust
remember foom the start arnav always mistrusted khushi she is gloddigger which always proved wrong later even then he never  regretted
it is arnav who was mare attracted towards khushi but he never accepted and more over insulted herin every possible way
even then khushi always thought positive of arnav even in marriage decision only she wanted the reason but arnav always not only think negitive of her  and at the same time want her which is the main reason for marriage
being in khushi place she can never dream that he know about shyam and it is the reason of his hatred as  he is behaving normal with everyone and only hating her which is difficult to accept for and also confusing
if he only want to secure his di  there are many ways beyond marriage but their is one more reason which is his love for khuushi  which he never expressed but expecting khushi to understand it which is not correct because he always played with her emotions not telling the correct reasons
but when comes to khushi she always tried to understand him even trusted that their is hidden reason which now is  slowly  vanished with his ruthess behavior

Err I read ur first few lines and hence this response!
Are u trying to say dat by hiding truth she saved the destruction?!
The level has increased becoz the danger is lurking over her...And if u say dat itz coz Arnav married her, If a man tries to touch in her husband's/his wife's presence...nothing can stop this man(remember her dance practice?!)

Arnav chose 2 hid the truth cos of his sis pregnancy!

And Kh did had the doubt which was forced 2 b forgotten owing 2 other disjointed tracks


Edited by cindrella255 - 08 April 2012 at 9:26am

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Posted: 08 April 2012 at 9:25am | IP Logged
Thanks for posting this topic and I agree with you that in some of the posts/comments people have shown their frustration about Arnav's behavior and has said how inconsiderate he is. But just because a person is less talkative and less smiles that does not mean he does not have heart.

They both are wrong and have big ego and neither they want to compromise nor want to consider why they are doing this to each other. Honestly, the way Arnav said ki "baata deti to main.." khushi could have responded differently, make more sense if respond to a nice conversation nicely. I can not believe they both think they are smart and do not have ability to talk to each other about things when love so much. Khushi has time to write and think about how she can annoy Arnav but not for to find out about what has happened in those last hours on wedding day which changed Arnav behavior toward her. Arnav has time to yell at her about everything she does but not ready to find out the truth and can not use his mind to see her love towards him but not Shyam. Poor Arnav and Khushi have to listen all this about their characters when it all should be CV's and writers fault. Who knows what is going on in their minds, hope to see some practical things too in the story, i know it is drama and they can not finish/show every problem solved sooner but some practical things can also be part of drama too.

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