Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon

India-Forums

   
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon

Would you ever fall for a man IF (Page 18)

SoShy Goldie
SoShy
SoShy

Joined: 16 March 2012
Posts: 1060

Posted: 08 April 2012 at 10:56am | IP Logged

Well... maybe not...

The following 1 member(s) liked the above post:

trina2010

xAaliya IF-Stunnerz
xAaliya
xAaliya

Joined: 28 October 2011
Posts: 38976

Posted: 08 April 2012 at 10:58am | IP Logged
NO! I don't care how good looking he is.

The following 2 member(s) liked the above post:

trina2010SanzBarbie

subiaman Goldie
subiaman
subiaman

Joined: 16 September 2009
Posts: 1760

Posted: 09 April 2012 at 1:50pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by rina25

Originally posted by binsur

Originally posted by trina2010

I have a question to IF members
. Would you ever fall for a person like Arnav in real life considering this that he would always put someone else(sister,mom,dad anybody)over you all your life no matter what?


P.S.Now maybe the person is as handsome and rich as ASR.Answer based on this please
 
I fell in love with and married a person who had deep relationship with not only his family but his friends. When we were dating, he always gave priority to others. When somebody is in need, he just has to help- mostly at the expense of our little plans. But I always liked it and it is this trait that attracted me to him- in the hope that one day, I will  be in the list of his top priorities. To this date (10 years), he has not changed. Now it is no more fun-  I always make fun of him saying "you are a best friend, neighbor, son and brother- but not a very good husband and father"
Coming to the point -my advice to all those who answered YES- "The no matter what" in Trina's question matters most. We can hope that he will change and will give priority to us one day- that is fine... But if they remain the same "no matter what" - you are not going to love it!!!!!  As a wife, I can vouch to you that you would want your husband to give priority to you one day...
As for Khushi and Arnav- he may be head over heels in love with her- but she does not know that. If you imagine yourself  in her shoes, you will understand it. At this point she has no reason to beleive that he cares for her or will care for her ever...she does not know many things that we veiwers know...Inspite of that, she loves him and I really like her character for that. As someone said- love is blind... when you fall in love you really fall in love... that is why I still love my husband...
 
Hi 
May be i am not the right person to tell this as i am not married but you know you should love somebody who they are & you do it. then you wanted change the habit which makes you fall for him. if he change is there any assurance you will still love him if you do then you did not fall that reason at the same time love has no reason.  

when you teach to children it better to tell them do speak the truth than do not lie. i think between you & u r husband mu is sarcasm. sarcasm in love certainly will backfired. if you think he dosenot paid attention to you say it boldly may be he did not know it by himself. 

if you both are hurt by his behaviour then talk to him make him talk to you if he dont just tie him make him lesiten to u Wink
there is always other way around i write this becoz i think i sence pain in your word. it does not mean that if he put others front he dose not love u. it just he dose not show u.

Leave him for a day then u will know how much he loves you needs you. see how he forgets every habit of his becoz u r his strength without you he cannot help himself then how can he helped to others. Smile 
Hi,
 
Thanks for the advice. But I guess you have misunderstood my words... My husband and I have no problems. We have no MU. We both certainly understand each other very well. We both love each other inspite of the differences in personalities. There is not even a single fight between us that has not been resolved before the day ends (so far...). We are kind of like Arnav and Khushi in that we are exact opposite and our views differ on almost anything under the earth. But we communicate with each other very well. We express our displeasures to each other so that each know the other inside out. My colleagues say they have never met somebody else who talk to their spouces (on phone) so much every single day. We miss each other if we do not talk to each other (in a busy day) on the phone...We call up the other every few hours and if there is nothing else, we will just fight about something LOL.
Coming to your point I do not want him to change but what I was trying to say was that it is easy to make claims and difficult when you have to live with it!!! I saw many  claiming that they want their husband to put their mothers, sisters or somebody else before them etc etc... Having been in that position years ago and having faced the reality, I just wrote my opinion. I was also an idealist. Reality is different...As a wife you would want your husband to give you top priority (maybe not at the expense of others). As a husband he would expect the same from you. Ask any man...
What I was trying to say to people who claimed that they do not mind their partner to give prority to others NOW in the hope that one day they will become his top priority was that- It might not happen in real life.. Do not be disillusioned in such a  case...I was just trying to quote my case as an example...not to bring my marital problems into the picture...

The following 2 member(s) liked the above post:

rina25trina2010

subiaman Goldie
subiaman
subiaman

Joined: 16 September 2009
Posts: 1760

Posted: 09 April 2012 at 2:28pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by serialjunkie

Just want to ask everyone here, how many of you will be comfortable living in a joint family with lots of sisters, mother, other relatives whom your husband will always put ahead of you, every single day. Will you be good with that situation? If the answer is yes, then you are ready to love a guy who will put his family ahead of you. If the answer is no way i cannot live in a joint family but i dont mind him occasionally putting his family ahead of me,  you are not ready to love a guy like ASR because you cannot pick and choose when you want him to put you ahead of his family.

Lets say you need his support to study further but he always wants you to assist in household chores and help his sister because she is pregnant. would you be willing ot make that sacrifice?

lets say you plan a nice twosome vacation and your sister in law and her kids want to tag along and he says yes because he does not want to hurt his sisters feelings, would you be willing to make that sacrifice?

lets say you want to work or run a business but your sister in law objects to it because she thinks a woman's place is at home, and he listens to his sister because he cannot hurt her feelings, would you be willing to make that sacrifice?

Lets say your mom or dad is seriously ill and you would like to spend some time with them, but your sister in law needs you at home because she is pregnant and cannot do much household work and he tells you that you should rather be home looking after his sister than spend time with your family because his sister is the msot important person to him, would you be willing ot make that sacrifice?

lets say you need money to buy a house/car/furniture/vacation/computer anything you feel is very important for you but your sister in law needs cash for sending her children to private school (a waste in your opinion because she can send them to cheaper but equally good schools) but she cannot afford to do so, your husband tells you to sacrifice your needs and sends all his money to his sister. would you be willing to make that sacrifice?

sure, you will be willing to make that sacrifice once, twice even three times but after the fourth time you can bet you all the good virtues in the world you will sure as hell resent him and his sister.
You put it in such a nice way... I almost thought you are talking about my husband. Ask me- I know it can get frustrating after a few times... Some men never change. They may love you but they have this overbearing sense of duty towards the family that they sacrifice everything for them- including their own happiness , which more often comes with the happiness of their wife/ children...
But it is hard to make others, especially the unmarried ones, understand. It is easy to be an idealist and live in dream world when you are unmarried... I was the best dreamer in the world. Carrying out those dreams in another thing!!!!! I saw people writing about the importance of your husband's mothers, sisters and family over others...They do not visualize the situation when they are part of your world. Your mother-in-law is just another person - a woman. Soon you will find that she has faults or shortcmings herself. just because she is your husband's mother does not make her the most lovable person in the world. That does not mean she always make the right decisions. If your husband allows her to make the decisions always and if you do not agree with them, you are not going to love it...Well, I think this has to be learnt from experience... No matter how much we say, unless you go through this, it is hard to envision the reality...But thanks for writing this, I loved reading your take on it... matches mine perfectly...

The following 3 member(s) liked the above post:

applenpeachestrina2010SanzBarbie

xsumi IF-Sizzlerz
xsumi
xsumi

Joined: 28 November 2011
Posts: 18555

Posted: 09 April 2012 at 2:32pm | IP Logged
my answer is a YES 
because ...we all knw ASR does love khushi
and maybe the guy i might marry..will show hate towards me but he will love me inside very deeply and he wont take his eyes of me LOL
nut ASR is a loving person...but u just cant see it ...deep down in his heart...there is love there

and the guy that i will marry ...deep down there will be love there

also arnav does rwegret wht he does to khushi 
soo willl the guy that i will marry

so i will personally will say YES ...

The following 1 member(s) liked the above post:

trina2010

2Desi4Life Goldie
2Desi4Life
2Desi4Life

Joined: 25 November 2011
Posts: 2124

Posted: 09 April 2012 at 2:44pm | IP Logged
no I would probably kill myself before falling for a man like that in real life

The following 2 member(s) liked the above post:

trina2010SanzBarbie

mariyakamran Senior Member

Joined: 06 February 2012
Posts: 546

Posted: 09 April 2012 at 2:44pm | IP Logged
THE ACCOUNT OF THE MEMBER WHO POSTED THIS MESSAGE HAS BEEN TEMPORARILY BANNED.

If you think this is an error please Contact us.

The following 1 member(s) liked the above post:

trina2010

ABCDesiGirl93 Goldie
ABCDesiGirl93
ABCDesiGirl93

Joined: 05 December 2011
Posts: 2073

Posted: 09 April 2012 at 2:46pm | IP Logged
LOL Hell No Wacko

The following 1 member(s) liked the above post:

SanzBarbie

Go to top

Related Topics

  Topics Author Replies Views Last Post
How to fall in a Guy's arm?~Experienced;)~

2 3 4 5 6 7 ... 46 47

Author: Meeph   Replies: 370   Views: 24100

Meeph 370 24100 27 April 2012 at 12:38pm by Crazy_1001
I M FALL IN LOVE

Author: CATZ..   Replies: 2   Views: 710

CATZ.. 2 710 07 December 2011 at 4:16pm by Asr-Ki-Sam
fall of the mighty ASR

Author: radiance   Replies: 2   Views: 1088

radiance 2 1088 03 December 2011 at 11:45am by noor123
How will Arnav fall for Khushi?

2 3 4 5 6

Author: JennyPenny   Replies: 40   Views: 12200

JennyPenny 40 12200 02 December 2011 at 12:03pm by goahem
Y chamkeli fall for our hottie?

2

Author: rushshri   Replies: 10   Views: 1890

rushshri 10 1890 28 November 2011 at 2:17am by MsCeylon

Forum Quick Jump

Forum Category / Channels
Forums

Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon Topic Index

Check these Celebrity also

Disclaimer: All Logos and Pictures of various Channels, Shows, Artistes, Media Houses, Companies, Brands etc. belong to their respective owners, and are used to merely visually identify the Channels, Shows, Companies, Brands, etc. to the viewer. Incase of any issue please contact the webmaster.

Popular Channels :
Star Plus | Zee TV | Sony TV | Colors TV | SAB TV | Life OK

Quick Links :
Top 100 TV Celebrities | Top 100 Bollywood Celebs | About Us | Contact Us | Advertise | Forum Index