Would you ever fall for a man IF - Page 9

only if his family loves me and trust me more than him only then yes...other wise NOOO find another girl plz ...lolz

Originally posted by: trina2010

Well said Anu . Yeah there's a point of course. But I said NO MATTER WHAT. What bothers me here is Arnav is NOT saying anything to Shyam because of his Di where he has witnessed many times Shyams advances towards Khushi. Not even another warning or a SLAP in private. No harsh words . Its Khushi who is getting everything.
I felt bad for her today.hopefully as you said in future he would love Khushi and prefer her over Anji if needed.

Well, I don't exactly belief in relationships and love but if I ever come accross a real life ASR, then a definite no! U can consider me a smaller female version of ASR so it'll be an ultimate collision if I ever come accross a person like that!

Originally posted by: Marybarton

I would, in fact it think I would insist on him loving his mother and sister. Here's why:

1. A man who doesn't love and show utter dedication to the woman who gave birth to him and to the woman who helped raise him (sister) cannot understand love enough to give it to someone who is not his blood connection. So that respect for women has to be ingrained in him for him to value me (another woman building a bond with him that is not already set).

2. I would put my mother and sibling ahead of him, so it only seems logical. I cannot be selfish and think he will put me first if I put him second.

3. I cannot compete with a mother, she gave birth to him and raised him for say 30 years. So she has 30 years on me. This is something a lot of wives have trouble with and only understand when they become mothers themselves. I am not trying to be preachy or advocating whiny mama's boys. I am saying, someone like Arnav who loves his family and respects them is a good guy in my book.

4. All that said, the mother and sister has to give me respect as the woman in his life. We all occupy different roles, so we don't have to compete. I think Khushi gets this.

5. Oh one more thing, about HIM as a person and getting along. I am really like Khushi in real life, but not as tolerant. I, Mary would probably scare him in real life. I have a bigger temper and I would make this tiger a kitten in no time. So I am not afraid of the arrogance or rudeness. I can top it and badger him into politeness.

I should add, the guy has to be worth the effort.

Nope.. Been there, done that, and have the scars to prove it.. Never again..

Its possible since you dont pick who you fall in love with...

Maybe no. 

Very Good Question! 

Never

Yes..

ASR has been living with his sister since he was born, and most of it without parents, so of course a guy like him, would be super attached to his sister.. Think about it this way, If you had no parents and your brother or sister practically brought you up doing everything a parent would do, would you give them up for a guy you have only been in love with for the past year or so??? If yes then i'm sorry there's something seriously wrong with that.. If you pick someone who you have just started loving over someone you have loved all your life, then it just shows that relationships aren't of huge importance to you, and I wouldn't want to be with someone like that...

And it's not necessarily true that Arnav loves Khushi less than his di, imagine there was a fire and Khushi and Anjali were both stuck inside their house, do you guys really think it would be easy for him to pick who to save first?? I doubt he'd pick one over the other.. I think he just worries more about his di, than he does about Khushi...

Anyways my answer is yes I would be with someone like Arnav because if that person can stay loyal and devoted to his family then he would probably be the same with me..