Originally posted by napstermonster
I wanted to slap someone today, and it wasn't Shyam, or Arnav. It was Khushi.
Seriously, you know how you can watch CNN or Indian News or whatever, and social issues are being covered-there is that one question that VICTIMS of sexual violence are almost inevitably asked- when they get harassed, or raped, or molested whatever-no matter where they are-the west or the east, they are asked-What did you do to make this happen to you? Basically saying, in another way- "she asked for it."
Having worked with victims of rape, I can tell you, this question will inevitably be posed. By someone, usually a man, almost always a person who thinks that rape is about sex and not violence. But there are danger signals, especially when it comes to acquaintance rape. The signals include a steady increase in harassment, starting with lewd looks, then following, then inappropriate comments, then forced touching, and then physical assault. Shyam is following the classic pattern.
This is HIS sickness, she is not encouraging it, you can say.
YEAH she is-by not revealing what he's doing, screaming, asking for help, telling someone in authority, (ASR, Nani, for god's sake at this point I'd take Payal and Aakash) for NOT going crazy on his ass! By not yelling in his face, standing up to him, telling him in screams not whispers that he CANNOT do this, by not using a fear of being caught to make him back off, since he is shameless!
Dont tell me about protecting Arnav or the family or Anjali's unborn baby! What will happen when Khushi is raped which is where this would normally end up in real life? Which of these stupid concerns will help her deal with that trauma? What part of this will be soothing to her husband if his is wife assaulted without even knowing that she COULD have been protected because she didn't f**king tell him about her harassment?
So, out of SHEER ANGER at seeing what is drummed into women every day, about being careful, about being conscious of their rights, their control over their body and over who gets to goddamn touch that body, seeing that IGNORED today, I have to ask:
Are you asking for it Khushi? Are you really so goddamn stupid that you don't see danger signals from this insane perverted creep? Granted, slapping him will literally turn him on. Granted you are in a public place, and you can't do anything right away. But you are in danger and you know it, because your BODY tells you you are-YOUR INSTINCT is screaming warnings you are ignoring!
I'm worried because kids watch this show.
They will think, rudeness and being direct is worse than saying NO and walking away if they are made uncomfortable by someone or by some situation (Shyam/Khushi, and Anjali's meds thing! W*F!!)
They will think, a man can and will harass them in public, but they themselves should be soft and afraid of people's comments if they create a scene. They should quietly seek to escape, but never never create a scene since that is unfeminine/bad behavior.
They will think, a family member or family friend or an elder or someone important to their own parents/family should be given multiple chances simply because they are related or known, that they should allow the harassment to continue so people don't get upset.
They will think they have to fight such lewd potential rapists off by stupid means like dropping something heavy on their feet, or running away or using stupid avoidance techniques which never works because they are being STALKED as opposed to CONFRONTING such behavior, with an adult, or with someone who can protect them.
They will think its their responsibility to hide a pervert's behavior because it will hurt the pervert's family.
They will think the pervert's behavior will change if they stay away from him, or if he is given a warning. They worry their own loved ones they wont believe them and they'll be branded as a trouble maker.
NONE of these things are true, and Khushi's actions is perpetuating every last one of them !!!
Goddamit CVs, you've stuck it down our throats that this is a family show. Then protect the damn family values in this one instance, and give us a heroine who does the right, the ONLY thing she can and should do right now, which is to NOT let Shyam intimidate her, to NOT keep this a secret when its not her shame or her fault- LET HER FIGHT AND END HER OWN HARASSMENT!!!!
Mighty good question and I am happy you are concerned of the wrong messages these serials or this particular serial is sending to young kids...
But you think Khushi or the character of Khushi keeping quite with Shyam is only one sending danger messages?????
I fear girls may think contract marriage are in thing!!!!
I fear throwing someone from balcony or sending her on death mission will now turn girls on as they will think its hot to rescued...and will forget than no employer god even if he is God himself is capable of doing that!!!
I fear boys will think to protect their sister any girl in hand can be tortured!!!!
I fear now the elder sister will think interfering in their younger brother life is cool thing!!!
I fear that the so called people like Shyam who are married in to good looking girls but these girls are always obsessed with serial or their owe family their brother and their Nani will think its to parade around the wife brothers wife or with any other women!!!!!
I fear the young men will think its cool to abuse your wife as its a way of shoeing your love and young girls may take it like Khushi does!!!!
I fear young men may think shouting i hate you to wife is the in thing and the wife though hurt may take it!!!!!
So what do i do...then like CNN, IBN and everybody else say...the girl asked fro it...the wife whose husband has extra marital affair asked for it...
the guy who may in future end up losing his wife because thinking that he is acting smart and hot he abuses his wife...should i say he asked for it!!!!!!
Well dunno mixed feelings...so should love of a brother for sister...make the brothers out here hurt, abuse make fun out of marriage and do whatever they feel right to protect their sister by destorying lives all around!!!!
so should sister love her brother so much that her fainting may scare him...what does she have any pregnancy or blood cancer!!!
you mena hiding your illness from your loving family memebers that too simple illness esp when you are burdening a third person is right!!!
Is anjlai sending the right message to people...Seh freaks our when her Mangla sutra breaks and is always PDA in with her husband...he is god for her...is being like her right!!!!
Is entering into contract marriage for the sake of your sister right thing!!!
How is IPKKND sending message to anybody for that matter!!!!!
It just seems to have lot dysfunctional families and obsessed people!!