CVs, STOP SENDING DANGEROUS MESSAGES TO KIDS! - Page 8

totally agree with you, it is disgusting and conveys a wrong message. I think you should write to Star plus about this, this <shyam thing is disgusting n shud npt be encouraged on powerfull media like TV. they have to do something about it,.

Originally posted by: sukri

 

Yeah tangam I also had problem with this part of Navin's post, but i was ignoring it coz I was concentrating on telling my real life incident here.

 

Why should Khushi be slapped for this.. whatever said and done, she is a victim, she makes lot of wrong choices in life, made decisions for other, but that doesnt me she deserves to be slapped for anything yet.  So have to agree with Tangam.

 

Infact maybe its her dark past you know, she is not able to feel close enough to anyone and is unable to share things that are too personal, shocking or pleasant with anyone.

She needs love and care for being treated such by her husband and a creep. Cant even imagine slapping a girl facing such a trauma ..

Here i agree tangam and subha

I bIame the cvs for showing it right on the part of the girI to toIerate being vioIated by two men in the name f Iove, just for the sake of famiIy , i find it BS because somewhere it is sending the message it is right to not taIk about it and keep it to herseIf Iike what khushi did yesterday in pubIic i think it is dangerous  

Khushi shouId be shown to handIe the issue first and formost taIk to her sister or somebody about it,

I reaIIy cannot understand the reason why she is toIerating this kind of abuse

As i said it is being shown as a househoId issue ,whereas it is not

It has reached the IeveI of crime, and aIso it is not safe to assume anjaIi is safe with this man

They wiII further diaIute the issue with some more comedy , i dont understand how can they shw her ignoring such a serious issue

Edited by tttttt1 - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: napstermonster

Thank you! I honestly thought I was losing my mind, that I was the only one who saw how DEMEANING this was for Khushi, not the fact that its happening to her, because it can happen to anybody! Good point on the dupatta-she was so aware that no one could touch her without her permission, she threw hot tea thinking Arnav had dared to touch only a piece of her clothing.

And now Shyam can do this in public, grabbing her wrist, hurting her, she acts like she cant stop it, or do anything to him, she whimpers and doesnt knee him in the balls? This is NOT Khushi!

She is supposed to be a girl with STRONG sense of right or wrong, so sure about her rights-i mean, the FIRST episode was about how she didn't want Payal's then to-be-husband to take Dahej, eight? Remember her introduction scene, on a scooter, rushing off to stop an illegal discriminatory practice of dowry that demeans women?

And now she silently tolerates this? GOD!

Nice post, Agree 100%!! Those kinda creeps, perverts & stalkers should not b encouraged, they r v dangerous ppl & completely wrong way of showing! Every girl should knw self-protection thats by being clear in words & actions! Pychos like shym take adv if they notice girl is afraid n play manipulation accordingly, they usually find girls who r subdued to b their victim so tht they can corner them n still they wont say a hing in nameof fami honor n all... So complete no no in dealing with such idiots n that would b putting a full stop to their actions by telling sum1 reliable who could help her thru this.Edited by OMG1nitya - 12 years ago

Thank you so much for this post - I've been stalked before, by a pervert and a creep and I still get the creeps from Shyam because of the things he does are so reminiscent of what I've experienced. The lechery, the following, the tracking, the refusal to believe the wrongness of some actions. I avoided dealing with it for two years but after the confronting and yelling failed, I avoided him. Only when someone noticed me freaking out about this incidence and insisted that I go to someone who would be able to help me, did this get better. 

Yes Khushi's reactions towards Shyam is really pissing me off😡  khushi is being shown as a dumb immature kid who is madly in love with another man handler Arnav. SP is so proud of Rishta Vahi Soch Nahi stuff...I really dont where is the soch nayi here.😕

Originally posted by: Rabba-Ve-Delena

🤗 I know you don't need comfort but this really exemplifies the REALITY of disgusting and unfortunate situations like this and what is shown on TV. Fortunately most of the forums members I've come across (no matter if I agree or disagree with them) seem like sane and reasonable people who can separate TV from reality and vice versa... but there is no denying that a majority of the audience of this show are impressionable and vulnerable .. Khushi remaining silent and wishing for Shaym's perverted behaviour to stop is not the right message to be sending out. I think that was at its peak when Khushi chose to remain silent after hearing about Anjali's pregnancy, I think the lines were something like "If this can be resolved without causing much drama, that would be better.." I mean for real?!?!😵 Lives can get destroyed by perverted incidents like this, people can be emotionally damaged and worst being physically violated and hurt which Khushi evidently has. I'm blaming Khushi here but the writers in general, the Gupta's choosing to remain silent?!?! Bua Ji threatening Shaym instead of contacting the police when she saw him disgustingly spying through the window watching Khushi. It's wrong.

Hello girls, There were many things I wanted to write but had to rush rush rush for my classes. I am back and guess what, first thing  I do is check the forum.

I was always uneasy with the depiction of casual violence and casual ignorance shown in the show.

There is no reason for khushi to be a victim. She does not need to handle all these on her own. That part I get and fully understand. She can easily confide in anyone older than her for counsel and support. No doubt about that, especially if she is capable of starting and running her own business, we know she is no wall-flower. That part I COMPLETELY agree.

What I am having trouble with is selectivity of forum friends on picking on Khushi to report Shyam, protest her inactivity towards him and let the entire episode of forced marriage slide as necessary to story. If the marriage and shoddy behavior of Arnav is necessary to the story, I would argue that having Shyam around is also necessary. If keeping khushi silent about Arnav's daily tirade and humiliation of her is necessary then Shyam's ludicrousness can also be called necessary.

See, when we agree to swallow a ludicrous story line in the name of drama, we cannot pick and choose the ludicrousness. It comes as a package. One ludicrousness riles on group of fan base while the others rile another group of fan base. Either we take it all as group and say that well its necessary for drama and characterization or we say, no, we prefer real-life types of drama.

 

totally agree coz he is harassing womens...and khushi is helpless.my 1 request is let khushi fight against shyam and arnav have to see this too

Not only by Shyam, she has been abused by Arnav all this time. Him holding her arms and wrists harshly up to the point where it starts to hurt or leave bruises and pushing and shoving her all the time are all forms of abuse as well. Arnav's anger issues to top all of it. But nobody says anything about that because he is the hero and "he is so hot" and he is her "husband". NOTHING justifies that kind of behavior.