Posted: 03 February 2012 at 8:39pm | IP Logged
[QUOTE=Krrish87_sweet]I totally agree on the argument..what if he was part of dadi's family..ie. dur ka rishtedar...and 1 more thing: "WHAT if: Viraj became mad after marriage?? what if some sudden shock caused if I mean to say before marriage everything looked cool and disasters occurs in everyone's life...what if that is the situation?? " agar wo pehle se normal hota aur fir pagal ho jata to dadi kya kar leti uska??? wouldn't she have tried to cure her beloved Jamaiji??? I mean why DOUBLE standards??? Nything could've gone wrong..what if Jhanvi was at that stage where Payal was...kya tab bhi dadi esa hi kuch karti...would she have tried seperating Viraj from pagal jhanvi??? Nahi na!!! I mean lets be moral about it. If one of our's bro/sis is suffering from same syndrom would we just throw them in mental aslym?? or treat him the way he treat us..It's like biting a dog who bit u...what is the difference in us if we react/respond the same way as Viraj?? does it justify our mental balance??? where is our idividuality there??? if what he is doing is wrong, how right we can be if we treat him the same way??? *these questions need some real answers...* dadi is WRONG!!!! NO matter whatever her intentions on doing and saving her grand daughter...it's not right..she can be more genuine in her approach...I mean from what i have learned and grown up ...i noticed that elderly ppl always try to make peace in arrange marriages..they don't try to break it..they try to fix it. addition of kids also fixes some of it. I mean one thing is for sure that NONE of the arranged marriages are perfact! every now n then ppl do argue and they do end up with fight sometimes they don't speak w/ each other..domestic violence is extreme case... the reasons are many...in Viraj's case it's his disorder which is causing all this mess..but how justified it would be if Jhanvi just leave him??
It's like taking away the most precious thing from a person, becoz ur NOT OPEN MINDED to give it a chance to change that person.. * Ideally if parents are that careful there would be no violence anywhere in any mrgs, no divorce nothing..* but it's real world. If dadi is that concerned she would've been careful enough to Observe, learn the pattern in his behavior. finding out the truth was only part of her deed. but reacting on truth * i mean totally she overreacted..nyone could've on her shoe, by looking at payal's situation, but she freaked out and started stopping him w/o thinking the consequences that her granddaughter and great grand child would've face* if she was bit patient..knowing all the aspects, all clues, all posibilities to make sure what she thinks is right would be the way to go. *why not try the place where viraj was adopted, neighbour hood, see how he has grown, his childhood friends..but no...*
Great discussing post Sarcozee
, btw what's ur name?
I often wonder about this that whenever we see an errant husband, we always say that the wife should leave him but what do we do if there is problem in some other relationship where divorce is not an option. What would Dadi do if Viraj was related to her ?