Originally posted by: Marybarton
<font color="#CC0033">Khushi took an emotional decision because she likes to see everyone happy. I don't think it was part of her lower middle class way of thinking. It is the same decision Arnav will take and he's not middle class either.
They are both doing it out of love, to spare Anjali because she is already damaged by her part. It is weakness on their part because they think Anjali's condition makes her more vulnerable.
While you put a good question, your criticism was off. I don't think there is anything wrong with middle class traditional values. In fact, they would say that Khushi tell Anjali the truth. Anjali's values on the other end are traditional. And perhaps a little too devoted and forgiving, but it does not have anything to do with class.</font>
Originally posted by: momma1128
@all - Is Khushi not putting Anjali's happiness with a dubious man ahead of the truth? Why did she not say why her engagement broke? Anjali does not know her fiance. But, my biggest issue with Khushi was not her silence, it was not her quiet on the broken engagement, it was her VADA to never let anything happen to Anjali's marriage. That put a whole different spin on it.
Originally posted by: momma1128
@all - Is Khushi not putting Anjali's happiness with a dubious man ahead of the truth? Why did she not say why her engagement broke? Anjali does not know her fiance. But, my biggest issue with Khushi was not her silence, it was not her quiet on the broken engagement, it was her VADA to never let anything happen to Anjali's marriage. That put a whole different spin on it.
Anu, as always an awesome post !
But I don't think Kushi kept quiet to save Anjali's marriage as she is traditional. Its only witnessing the hungama that Anjalai made, made her to go mute.But what about the so called elders of the family ? If Kushi is made to deal with a serious issue like this all alone, then why did buaji made all the decisions so far ? Is it not buaji's duty to meet naniji and tell the truth ? And wll anyone speak to a victim at the first place ?No brains and logic at all.
Originally posted by: momma1128
I did not say middle class is bad and never would. I am very middle class from the USA. And his entire aukat thing was disgraceful. But, ultimately, isn't Khushi agreeing with Garima, the lie wins, whether it be for the sake of Payash or Anjali. And it because the marriage means more than anything else.
Anu although I understand your POV i don't exactly agree with the whole bit.
I don't think Khushi being the martyr has much to do with middle class values and gender role.
I think her self sacrificing tendency is firstly a result of her being an orphan. She sacrifices a lot for her family, not only because she loves them but because she feels indebted to them.
Her decision of hiding the truth was a result of her caring nature combined with Anjali's extreme reaction after the mangalsutra incident.
If you notice carefully, she was rather shocked to see Anjali panic.
But the only thing I didn't like was that she didn't tell that she broke off the engagement. She could have also mentioned the guy turned out to be a fraud.
EDIT...Isn't La and Arnav doing the same thing by hiding their break-up truth ?
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