Posted: 19 March 2006 at 9:16pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by sindoorfan
After marriage, I personally think that a woman's best friend and confidante is her husband. But then, not always this happens, because all men are not as understanding and caring as we would like them to be. But if you are among the lucky ones and do have a supportive husband, make him your best pal and be absolutely honest with him. That way, if something "ouch" happens with your in-laws, you will always have him to help you out. Our parents love us unconditionally, we are what we are because of them, so I absolutely don't believe that after marraige they become "paraya". At the same time your in-laws are your new family and you have to come there with an open mind and heart. We should never forget, no matter how much "weird" they appear, our darling hubby is what he is, because of them. Respect and responsibility towards them should be as important as towards your parents. I personally feel, after marriage your family is your hubby, kids, and you. Both your parents and in-laws, are extended families. You love them, respect them, share your responsibilities, but always set some boundaries. That's the secret of balancing things. You can never make and keep everyone around you happy and contended. Trying to achieve that would only result in going complete nuts yourself. In our culture, a married girl's parents are hardly ever demanding, so its much easier keeping them happy, however, more often than not, thats' not the case with the in-laws. So you might have to work harder at it. Just be honest with yourself, the rest will slowly fall in place.
So true i totally agree with u