Posted: 13 March 2006 at 11:53pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by ionia
Really well-argued Tulip. I think Mihir may be a gr8 father afterall but I only watch kzk so can't judge. But do u really think a woman should be a man's responsibilty. I think both men and women should help and support each other and grow together rather than a man supporting a women or treating him as his "support stick". Children ofcourse deserved to be looked after and cherished. You said everything very logically. Anurag Basu messes up. He does love his children though. Bajaj is more of an ideal dad but I think thats what makes Anurag's character more realistic. He screws up, he makes mistakes and he is far from perfect.
I think I would vote for Anurag. Logically, Mihir might be a better father. But I luv the Anu-sneha scenes. I know a lot of u think its melodramatic trash but the truth is the Anu-Sneha scene b4 her wedding really touched a lot of people. You could literally feel Anurag's pain in that scene or atleast I could. And then when Anu cried when Prem-2 destroyed Prem-1's memorial, you could see him beaten and a part of him destroyed. The thing is these moments make a mark on a lot of viewers. He is a beaten man- his daughter, his son, or his adopted son are no longer with him. He has to carry the baggage of his mistakes and yet he tries to make up. The world has no ideal parents. Parents do make mistakes may be at a much smaller scale than Anurag's but they do. They also luv their children a lot just like Anurag. Thats what makes Anu a gr8 dad- he tries to be a good and fair parent, he fails but he still tries to be good and fair parent. But Tulip wud surely disagree. But thats all right- ppl think differently. Well, may the best dad win.
Hmm...good one there Ionia:)
But treating some one, especially a wife, like a support stick really makes no sense at all! Ofcourse when you get married to someone, he/she becomes your responsibilty- I am not saying that it has to be that way but that is the way most of the people atleast here in India take marriage to be. Responsibilty not in the sense to feed, clothe and give shelter to- responsibilty in the sense- to give enough respect, to respect his/her feelings and emotions, giving them a scope to grow in each and every aspect of life, giving them all the love they deserve and making each moment spent a special one:))
And who says Rishabh's an ideal dad? I agree with you! There are no ideal parents in this world. Every parent has his/her flaws that somewhere hinder them- you cannot expect the same thing from each and everyone. Rishabh has his own flaws and they may be much more grave than the ones in Anurag but Rishabh never lets the situation reach such a point where his flaws get the better of him. If Rishabh'd be an ideal dad, he'd never have shouted that way on Sneha which he did when he was drunk. Rishabh never flinches to apologise, and that too- immediately, for his mistakes- THAT is what makes him gr8!