Posted: 12 March 2006 at 4:05pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by sowmyaa
Jav, I agree that it is not right now parent's part to
live "their" dream and ask their children to fulfil those. However, if
you are trying to say that parents should not push their children to
take some career in their life I would disagree upto certain extend.
Please read, I don't want parents to push their kids to an extend that
they hate such subject or that might lead them to depression. However,
I personally think that at age of 17-18 kids are not as aware of what
line to choose. And practically, what you like always is not a good
option. Sometimes parents should guide their children and encourage
them to certain field which is better for them. I wish sometime that if
my parents had pushed me little more and when I was in 10 or 12th grade
guided me and pushed little I would have been something different
today. I have a cousin who always wanted to be into music and his
parents always told him that whatever makes you happy do it. Today he
is having so much struggle in his life earning and running family. He
was intelligent and capable of having tension free and life without
much struggle, but just 'coz of her career choice he is what he is
today. I think at age 17 kids are not aware of long life atleast i was
not and if sometimes parents show them right direction it helps.
Soumya at 17- 18 its o.k for parents to guide and advise their kids .
Show then pros and cons of each choice . But not beyond that .
I don't agree that your cousin should have been pushed into
something that doesn't excite him . Maybe he is currently not doing so
well in Music . But people can make a good living out of music . Not
every one becomes a famous musician and life may be tough . But if
thats what you were meant to do ...........thats what you are doing ,
its good . How can you be sure if your cousin had taken up some other
field he would have excelled . You can't be !!
I was personally disuadded from a certain career too buy my parents as
they didn't feel too highly of it . I wonder till date what my life
would've been if i had taken that road .
Its easy to blame some one else for your choices !! We often blame our
parents . I don't blame my parents but do wonder what would my life
have been. Soumya at 17- 18 you are old enough to choose after you have
the knowledge put forth . Example schools have this career fairs and
parents will advise you too.
But here we are talking about pushy parents that decide for you whats
good as a career and whats not based on their experience , mind set
,and thoughts !! I feel thats not fair !!Just advise your children
.........but stop there !!Let them choose on their own . Once they
choose just be happy for them !! Often parents will be unhappy if the
kid doesn't follow their advice and in their passive agrresive sulking
way show their unhappiness . Thats emotional blackmail . You didn't
choose tha career path i advised you to ............i will not support
you emotionally any more kind of black mail .Thats so unfair.
Parents ought to learn how to draw a line.