In India there is no greater event in a family than a wedding, dramatically evoking every
possible social obligation, kinship bond, traditional value,
impassioned sentiment, and economic resource. In the arranging and conducting of
weddings, the complex permutations of Indian social systems best display themselves.
Weddings are an occasion rich with traditions. Weddings bring with them celebrations and customs full of fun.
An Indian traditional wedding with its arrangements of RASAMS has an exigent role for every member of the family to play, therefore making the presence of these family members an important part of the whole affair. Have a look into the many rituals and roles playing in the whole wedding ceremonies.
We are beginning from the parents of the bride and the groom.
The father of the bride generally finances the entire wedding day ceremony. The most important of all rituals is the kanyadaan is performed by the bride's father.
This ritual is the symbolic of the fact that therefore now her husband must take her responsibility.
Among Hindus the father of the bride is supposed to be the one to
hand out the first invitation of this auspicious occasion to the lord of success and prosperity.
And besides this the father of the bride is the first one to perform the milni ceremony,
the custom to welcome the groom and his relatives.
The mother of the bride assists the purohit with the sthapna ceremony of LordGanesha.Also the mother of the bride performs the aarti to welcome the groom, after the milni ceremony is over. For the mother of the groom, the wedding of her son is the most important events of her life. When the groom sits on the horse, his mother feeds him sweets and wishes him good luck. She asks him to bring back a beautiful wife.
The brother of the bride and the groom, both play a very important role in a Hindu wedding.
The brother of the groom becomes the best man; being by his side throughout the ceremony .He is dressed as sarbala and accompanies the groom till the bride comes along with the groom.
And in all religions, the brother of the bride goes to bring back his sister
a few days after the wedding to her parent's house for few hours till
her husband comes to take her back.
the groom's sister ties sehera to his turban.
The duties of the sister of the groom begin after the wedding,
when her brother brings his bride home.
She welcomes all the guests by performing aarti and applying tilak.
And besides this, she is also supposed to decorate the bed for the
wedding night with flowers and the other decorations.
The first meal of the bride in her new house is shared with the sister of the groom.
An Indian traditional wedding with its rituals has an important role for every member of the family to play.
Making the presence of these family members has a vital role for the whole affair.
One of my favorite traditions in Indian weddings is that of "Joota Chupai" or stealing shoes.So the tradition starts when the groom sits for the puja,he takes off his shoes. At that point, his saalis or the bride'ssisters/cousins/bridesmaids steal the shoes and return them for some money. It is the job of groomsmen/groom's brothers/cousins to not let the bride's entourage to steal the shoes, and at the same time the bride's side has to try their best to get the shoes and hide them.Usually the bridesmaids successfully steal the shoes as it is a matter of their pride and honor. Once the ceremony is over and the groom needs his shoes back he and his family start searching for it. The bridesmaids surround him and ask for a huge sum of money which the groom pays them and gets his shoes back.
It is not about the money, but the fun that comes along with the tradition.The bride's side usually comes up with crafty ways of hiding the shoes.
In the movie "Hum Aapke Hain Kaun", Madhuri Dixit and other cousins of the bride hid the shoes in a "laddoo" box. Once the time comes to return the shoes to the groom, the "saalis" negotiate with the groom and his side for the money.
The tradition of "Joota chupai" is a really fun way of involving the family and friends in the wedding.
We would love to hear about your "joota chupai" experiences!
!! LOVELY IDEA !!
Me is Team Jeevika !! I wanna Be viren's SALI u see ;) AADI GHARWALIso tht later he can do my n Virats rishta ;) anyways ! in us arabs there is nothin like JHOOTA Stealing and if i tell u guys u will laugh !!its NOT the gurls Sisters Askin for money from the Groom !!in us Arabs its THE GUYS SISTER !! Askin for money frm her brother and there is NOTHIN like Jhoota STEALINGbut ripping his KANDOORA (the arabic guys clothe) off !if he doesnt give u ! so like 5 months ago ! on my cuzin Brothers weddinkamina was not givin us money !!WE ACTUALLY BEAT HIM up ! n Ripped his Kandoora Off n the cake we bought for him TO CUT !! we put it on his face !!LATER he gave us DOUBLE thn we asked for n ALL this HAPPENED in the HALL in front OF EVERY1 !! he didnt do anyfin tht time buh after his wedding !he beat the shit out of me !(as a joke) !anyways it was CRAZY I always love weddin ! n wats more xcitin me is ! its my cuzin sis weddin in 10 daysso there r crazier things we gona do !! n GUESS WAH ! we doin Mannu's Sangeet wala idea *EVIL* wait i talked alot thts it
Jeevika's side cuz
a) I have a girl crush on Krystle
b) Maanvi's more fun then the Vadhera's and
c) I refuse to be on the same side as Virat when soon me and him are eloping *hmph*
Wedding experience Well my cousin's wedding took place and her doli left from my house but I didn't pay much attention to it I helpedmake food though like mithai etc (since we usually eat langar at the gurdwara so not a lot was required)and helped decorate.In India though we wentto a wedding and was half asleep but there was a mishap with the guy's shoes Turns out he didn't wearthe traditional jhooti and wore running shoes cuz they were more comfyand the girl's side took the bride's cousin's shoes by accident ..They still got money though.
I'm taking Viren's side!
Obvious reasons, groom's side is always having a heavier playsince at the end of the wedding, they take the bride away
Well, personally, I have two elder brothers, so I never experienced beingin the bride's side, & maybe I am happier with the groom's!
My elder brother got married 3 years ago,
and when his haldi ceremony was going on, the entire bowl fell on him poor thing, seeing his face was worth a million dollar! good times.
I pick Jeevika's side because Manvi is there
...and i LOVE her...and...im always on the girls side!!my joote stealing story...ok ...so my cousin brother (Bhaia)dated and eventually married an old friend of mine
...keep in mind...we moved to the US back in '89
and i was never close to Bhaia until he moved out here in 2000but that Di...i had known her and she'd been like an older sister
to me since i was 4..so when the wedding rolled around..
i was on the girls side..we had planned on taking the shoes but it washard because my whole family was against me!! any way...come time for the wedding day and the Baraat just arrived at the hall...hum ladki wale are standing
at the door not allowing entry until a fee was paid
...we started bargaining and yelling and just having a ball...thats when another of my Bhaia's says...
"tik hai...hum paisa denge magar ek shart hai...tum ladkiwaloon ko dulhe ko godhi mein uttake andar lana hoga"
...us girls...freaked out...how can we carry my Bhaia...who isnt fat but "healthy"...lol...just then another Didi's husband comes (also part of ladki wale)
out of nowhere...he picks up Bhaia in his arms...how that helped us steal the shoes you may ask...well...the entire Baraati was still outside the gates...with Bhaia in Jiju's arms.
his feet were up in the air...i grabbed one shoe...and another of us girls grabbed another shoeand we ran...we ran for our lives!! oh it was hilarious...to this day...
best shoe stealing ever!! we also got around $1000 from him...
of course it was split many ways...but worth it...
Edited by -Sangs- - 04 December 2011 at 3:06pm