The case: Phooli Vs Gauri

Posted: 12 years ago
There may be several similarities between Phooli & Gauri,social status wise.

What are the differences between them legally n morally ?

What's the way out for both?

What can Anandi do judiciously
where as she herself is a victim of injustice by male chauvinistic society ????
Posted: 12 years ago
humm..similarity to hai!..

its something like...some snake has bite both of them..but the difference is..phooli didn't know that its a snake which is biting her..and gauri ask the snake plz come and bite me!..😆 ðŸ˜† ðŸ˜†

legally i don't know if there is any difference between them..i think its same..they both will not get the proper rights..but may be there is some difference..specially in phooli's case..bcoz till now phooli don't know the truth of her husband, that his real wife is still there with him!...who knows the laws can say well..😊

i don't think gauri wants to way out!..😛 but phooli needs some help seriously!..she need her right over her child..otherwise they r all set to take her child..😡
i think there must be some way where she can put her husband and her mother-in-law in jail for not telling the truth...and they should go to jail for conspiring against an innocent family...taking advantage of them...

Anandi is the sarpanch now..i think she is the sarpanch of the same village where phooli used to live before her nata and her parents r still live there..so the case can come under her..

Posted: 12 years ago
Legally,  I don't see much difference between G & P's status, but while for Gauri, I don't see much way out, I do think that Phooli will get the rights over her child. I also think that Phooli's mother in law and husband, can go to jail for a conspiracy. For that matter Phooli's parents could also go to jail for forcing their daughter to accept nata pratha.

Also Phooli was fooled into this situation, but Gauri was not. So if one fine day J left Gauri, then G will be solely responsible for her consequences, and will have no one to support her,  while in Phooli's case, if her husband left her, she would still have people's sympathies. Or never know if knowing the truth, Phooli herself may leave her husband.
Posted: 12 years ago
Except legal status, i don't find any similarity between two.
Both r absolutely different case.
1. INTENTION. - first difference is the intention in both relationship. While Gouri intention was totally selfish, phooli intention was selfless. Phooli was against this relationship, but she sacrificed herself to save their parents life. Its very easy to say tht fight for rit and wrong, but whn ur parents life is on stake, its not necessary tht u wd choose rit over wrong. Very difficult situation for selfless people who value their parents more thn anything and choose to sacrifice thmself for the sake of their parents. Atleast they r harming no one but thmself to save their most valuable relations. So we can't blame phooli but only can sympathize.
on the other hand GOURI , no one forced her to inter in this relationship. She knowingly entered in this relationship, without thinking the effect of it on other concerned party. She even didn't feel necessary to inform the.concern parry and even her parents hd doubt but she used her intellect to convince thm. She thought only abt herself and ignore others interest but demanded her acceptance from everyone. So we can't feel sympathy to a selfish person whose even intention was selfish, thn why anyone sd try to understand her.

2. VICTIMIZATION - in phooli case she was victim of a wrong social custom. She was cheated by people. It was shown by her in laws tht they accepted her fully and no one is effected by this relationship. This relationship was not ruining anyone life ( as per phooli knowledge) , but giving only happiness to everyone, even if its not legal. Everybody Jd worn mask.
In Gauri case she was cheated only till she was unaware abt Jogia lie and tht was before she entered in this relationship. After knowing truth if she entered in this relationship, we cant say she was victimized. No one played drama tht they r accepting her and thn cheated. In clear words every body told tht she is not welcomed, but still she blame every one. If u didn't care to inform ur so called marriage to ur in laws, why u r expecting anything from thm. The only person who cheated her was her own husband, but his truth exposed not once before entering in the relationship and she hd all chances to walk out but she didn't. So in her case victim was not she but Anandi. So no sympathy for her.
In short except legal status both cases r absolutely different, where one is suffering for her good heart but other is for her selfish nature. For one we can feel sympathy but for other we want punishment.Edited by ankit111 - 12 years ago
Posted: 12 years ago
In my opinion, it's like a prostitution(illegal relationship)being tried hard to get legalized by J in G's case(with a fake marriage certification)& by parents of both sides in P's case.

If these are not shown punished,there's only a wrong message left with the show, that I suppose spoils the very purpose..what is the use of beauty n performance of a perfect cast when it's not supported by a decent story?

Dear CVs!
Wanna reiterate that v luv BV.& EXPECT MORE 4M IT...2WARDS a happy end...
Posted: 12 years ago
Legally Phooli and Gauri have same status but their conditions are completely different.
We could say tht Gauri's case would have been simlilar till she was unaware of Jagya's married status and his real face.
But now she has willingly gone into the relationship with him.She had several chances to get out of it but she prefered being mistress of a snake.
In Phooli's case she was forced into this relationship due to her parents and later on accepted it because of love and affection showered by her husband and in laws which was actually a trap.
Phooli is a victim and she needs help.
Edited by niharika_n - 12 years ago
Posted: 12 years ago

First of all, when Gauri entered into the marriage, she thought not only about herself but about J too.

We can call her dumb and has no self respect that she forgot J's lies of 5 years, but the fact remains that Gauri believed J's words - that he will leave A , no matter what G does.
 
Even if we consider it as a selfish decision because she did not coax Jagya to get back to A, but blindly believed him for her own happiness, even then it cannot be denied that she did think more about J in every step while taking her decisions.
 
After knowing her illegal status in Jetsar, G told J in the temple, that "marrying him was her biggest mistake"
 
Still she continued to live with J - what was her advantage to stay with J?
 
She was not exactly dependent on J for finance; she knew that her status is of other woman; she knew that she can take a call to leave J. Yet she continued her relationship. 
 
After this incident, we can call G a dumb woman; we can blame her for not having self-respect; we can even criticize her for supporting J in his illegal activity.
 
But can we really call her selfish? If she would have thought about herself and herself only, she would have taken a minute to leave J after knowing the illegal status.
 
But she did not do so.
 
Now coming back to Phooli - she was too weakened by her parents distress and got ready for this kind of natha pratha marriage.
 
If BV people wanted to show strong woman, then they would have shown Phooli to go against this arrangement, specially when she is an educated woman.
 
But then, we would not have seen the results of this kind of evil custom.
 
If we compare between Phooli and G, both of them choose their near ones over the right path, even if the near ones do loads of mistakes.
 
Phooli's parents had once tried to marry her off to a much older man, but that time, Phooli, in her innocence, showed more courage to be on the right track and told the truth before the police.
 
It's an irony - Phooli, or even Gauri and to some extent Anandi  showed more spark, courage, truthfulness and exercised their individual rights when they were children.
 
 
Now  we have to see what Phooli decides after knowing about the first wife. It seems she will only make a claim over her child and she should do so. 
 
BV needs to show Phooli fighting for her child and punishing the man if they really want to show some positive message of women empowerment.
 
Edited by doyelpakhi - 12 years ago
Posted: 12 years ago
Just imagine what Gauri will do if she were Phooli.

Will she blame the first wife or her husband or herself?

can we find any logic in blaming Anandi for the sins of her husband & herself for choosing a wrong person?
especially when she need not depend on first wife financially(irony is she continues same misbehavior with Anandi even after knowing she IS dependent on Anandi for her daily needs)

Gauri is judged by her nature, not for excercising choice of options.
Posted: 12 years ago
"Gauri is judged by her nature, not for excercising choice of options." -


Hehe, may be you are judging for her actions post marriage - but most people are blaming her for her choice of options.

Gauri is weak - her weakness is J. She forgot her self respect, her well-being. Personally I don't blame her for ruining A's life. It was J who wanted to marry her and not vice versa. She was gullible enough to believe J's speeches regarding his love for Gauri.

And Gauri is not exactly dependent on J's finance. She supposedly, gets help from Bade papa and gets her stipend. She can, if necessary, live on her own. So, it would be wrong to think that Gauri is with J for financial reasons.

Gauri infact proposed that she would ask bade papa to give her more money but J, in his ego, refused to take help from him and found it a better option to take help from Anandi.


Phooli, like Gauri, was weak too. She was NOT as HELPLESS as she has been portrayed. Anandi told her that she would talk with Bhairon regarding money but Phooli refused to take any further help.

Wasn't it a better option to take loan from friend instead of being selling herself through natha pratha?

May be it would have taken her whole life to repay the loan, but she could have found a job in Bhairon's business. Otherwise, there are lots of schemes for self-help groups. If Phooli did not even try to fight with the society's pressure and evil customs inspite of being educated, what was the point of being educated? What is the point of getting women educated if they are ultimately surrendering themselves to natha pratha?


In BV, it seems women treat education either for social service or for showing off to other women.


Social service is not a bad thing, but education should be first used for survival and for fighting with the evils of society.

Anandi is doing social service because she can afford to do so. Still now, she has not shown any intention of being financially independent which is the main tool of empowering oneself.

Gauri is earning money and will be financially independent, but she has proved herself to be dumb to the power of infinity and without any self-respect. She does not even use simple logic while dealing with A. So, her education is incomplete.


Phooli, inspite of being educated, did not show the spirit to fight with the society even though she had an opportunity,

It seems only Teacherji is the true, modern day, educated, financially independent woman of today's era.


Posted: 12 years ago
Yeah...teacherji is the role model of an independent woman.
Btw, did Anandi share her success with her mentor teacherji?
Had shivani happened to be mentor for A she'd have curtailed the damage to her marital life unlike Phooli who kept silent @the danger to her close friend A.

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