First of all, when Gauri entered into the marriage, she thought not only about herself but about J too.
We can call her dumb and has no self respect that she forgot J's lies of 5 years, but the fact remains that Gauri believed J's words - that he will leave A , no matter what G does.
Even if we consider it as a selfish decision because she did not coax Jagya to get back to A, but blindly believed him for her own happiness, even then it cannot be denied that she did think more about J in every step while taking her decisions.
After knowing her illegal status in Jetsar, G told J in the temple, that "marrying him was her biggest mistake"
Still she continued to live with J - what was her advantage to stay with J?
She was not exactly dependent on J for finance; she knew that her status is of other woman; she knew that she can take a call to leave J. Yet she continued her relationship.
After this incident, we can call G a dumb woman; we can blame her for not having self-respect; we can even criticize her for supporting J in his illegal activity.
But can we really call her selfish? If she would have thought about herself and herself only, she would have taken a minute to leave J after knowing the illegal status.
But she did not do so.
Now coming back to Phooli - she was too weakened by her parents distress and got ready for this kind of natha pratha marriage.
If BV people wanted to show strong woman, then they would have shown Phooli to go against this arrangement, specially when she is an educated woman.
But then, we would not have seen the results of this kind of evil custom.
If we compare between Phooli and G, both of them choose their near ones over the right path, even if the near ones do loads of mistakes.
Phooli's parents had once tried to marry her off to a much older man, but that time, Phooli, in her innocence, showed more courage to be on the right track and told the truth before the police.
It's an irony - Phooli, or even Gauri and to some extent Anandi showed more spark, courage, truthfulness and exercised their individual rights when they were children.
Now we have to see what Phooli decides after knowing about the first wife. It seems she will only make a claim over her child and she should do so.
BV needs to show Phooli fighting for her child and punishing the man if they really want to show some positive message of women empowerment.
Edited by doyelpakhi - 12 years ago