Posted: 01 December 2011 at 9:12am | IP Logged
Originally posted by hooked
Originally posted by tanvismile
A has earned the love throughout years bt g isnt asking the same treatment bt atleast a human treatment dat she deserves to get ,she got hatred frm al the members,the treatment given was of a homebreaker ,she never ruined A Life ,it was much ruined 4 yrs before.may its society who blames women for everything.It is natural tendency for a person to revolt back when she is unnecesarily accused.
I normally try to avoid confronting pro-Gauri posts, but you do make an interesting point here, so couldn't resist.
U do agree that Anandi earned her share of love and respect thru time with this family and Gauri cannot automatically expect it. that is Good !
It is also true that Gauri behaved nice with everyone on her first trip and didn't not see her smiles reciprocated which hurt her. U see Gauri's effort and her hurt, but do you try to see how hurt the family was feeling due to Jagya's act ?
The family was super mad at Jagya for coming there and flaunting his brand new city wife in everyone's face and not caring two hoots for any of there feelings - including Anandi. The family was punishing Jagya by treating him like a doctor and a house guest - they were again n again referring to him even thru servants as a "GUEST" who is denied the privilege of a family member - example - eating with the others.
Jagya saw his insult and the reason and kept quiet - he did not confront it coz he knew he had caused a lot of hurt. and also coz he is a coward. Gauri also is a smart intelligent woman - U agree ? She SAW what they were doing to Jagya. She SAW that all her efforts at trying to be pally with the others were not working coz they wanted to maintain a distance with both JAGYA and his NEW "WIFE"...
Why did she continue to persist ? Being intelligent, shud she not have seen that the family was upset ? Shud she not have realized that they needed time to accept her maybe ? They were not even informed or invited to the wedding and she expected them to do all her "NEW BAHU RASAMS" ?
Tanvi - U have to agree - Gauri went a little too far, too soon. She shud hv waited n tried to let them get to know her a little OVER A COUPLE OF MONTHS atleast !!!. she wanted everything and she raged and screamed and was a complete out-of-control-freak !! G instead of endearing herself to even a single person, ended up alienating everyone by her irresponsible behaviour.
I like your points and also They were not even informed or invited to the wedding and she expected them to do all her "NEW BAHU RASAMS" ? this reason is enough for Js parents to be upset and not accept them immediately. .they are not ready to accept J, G is far behind..how can G expect that once J marries G they accept her and find faults in A and throw her out of the house because their son doesn't like A now, all the success that he is having now, the city life is because of A.
J was wrong and he knows that he never said that he doesn't like A because she is bad...he said his love is G that is all he is still sticking to that, but G wants to prove that A is bad and character less...
J is the main culprit, but G and her parents cannot escape just blaming J for everything...he fell in love with G and he did not tell her the truth, which she always reminds...firstly G did not fell in love with the J knowing that he is her childhood husband she never loves her childhood husband, she wanted to come out of that and marry a different person and live a happy life, but now she says that she married him not just she loves him but he is also her childhood husband...she thinks she has all rights because use ke sath anyaya huaa that jaab...then how can she say that child marriages cannot be accepted and A has to forget J now because he loves her now. G always cries that uskesath naaya nahi huatha choti se umar pe then does she thinks that she is doing justice to A...what happens to A if she was not brave enough...it is not easy in villages for a girl A to get married again...G ruined A life...if she was right person she would never allow J marry her or any one else leaving A...
she should have met A and J parents and said them what sort of person is J and warn them...
second when G and her parents think that what they did is right and wants all the respect like a wife...why didn't they inform J's parents or A about G getting married to J, why didn't G come to A before marrying J and tell her same thing and ask her to leave the house before she marries J.
Edited by jhansijhansi - 02 December 2011 at 4:43am