Originally posted by: sree_20
Kiran, to more questions from me...
You said, you were very submissive in the early stages of your married life, sacrificed a lot to adjust to the atmosphere of your hubby's place... Can you give us an example where you thought you sacrificed? (If this is not too personal). Hmm..a lot. I didn't (I still don't) like the way she boasts about herself and the greatness of their family in such a way that my family is nothing infront of them. My blood would boil but controlled a lot.π
What do you think is the best way in which a daughter-in-law can win the hearts of in-laws? What if, the in-laws do not have a big heart? What should the girl do? According to me, the best way is to be submissive initially, understand them and win their trust first. Later, when your stands are strong, put your opinion across in a subtle way so that they have no choice other than agree to what ever you say. This works for most of them. If they are too hard to melt, seek your husband's help and ........pray God. π
Do you think in such situations, being patient and submissive will work out, or the girl needs to be dominant, agressive, to press home the facts? My above answer holds good for this question as well. Remember...you cannot win people's (not necessarily your in-laws) heart by being agressive and dominant all the time. You are going to a house which is entirely different from the way you brought up. Your MIL also came from a different place but she already made her ground strong. It's the DIL's turn now and it goes on like this.....
There is a saying that, The way to a husband's heart is thro' his stomach... Do you agree to this? π If yes, why? If no, why? I completely agree to this. My husband eats with interest and appreciates also. I can proudly say that he prefers my dishes when compared to his mom's.π
There are many inter-related questions here, so you can feel free to answer them in a para , rather than splitting them into seperate answers... I tried to answer my level best. Thanks for the questions.π
Will be back later... Today is Monday. I think it's time to terminate this MOW thread. If it's so...then thank you for this opportunity.π
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