Originally posted by queenbee
Talking about Purab's friendship and his reasons, here's something I'm
copying and pasting from a previous post... to save myself from typing
it all again.. and becos I didn't get any answers... whewwwww😛
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Lets examine the facts. The first time Purab proposed to Jassi, she
said NO because she wanted them to remain 'just friends'. Then Jassi
came to know of Purab's so-called betrayal, and he left her a letter
explaining his side of the story - so far, so good. The next time Purab
wanted to get close to Jassi, he was crushed to discover she was madly
in love with Armaan. My question is - </span><span>why didn't he just leave her alone??</
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Instead, he ASSUMED that Armaan would never reciprocate her love (Jassi
has been guilty of the same assumption, but Purab should have known
better, considering that he was in love with her himself, so why can't
someone else love her too?? How judgemental!!).. then keeping that in
mind he went all out to woo her hoping she would give him some second
glances and second chances. In that sense, he was already setting
himself up for being Mr. Number Two in her life. How come a smart and
astute person like Purab didn't realize that? That was the very
foundation of his and Jassi's relationship!! As the wedding drew
closer, though, his euphoria at having won her trust and her friendship
faded away as he realized it was still her love he craved for, which he
couldn't have. If we assume that Meenakshi had a hand in changing his
mind, then we must try him in the same courtroom as Armaan who has
been
accused of allowing Raj to make his life decisions. If we assume
Meenakshi had nothing to do with it at all, Purab is at least, guilty
of not knowing his own mind and at worst, guilty of betrayal of trust
and the only explanation for both can be that he acted in a
self-serving way ... first by making all those assumptions about why
Jassi can be happy with him and later by not wanting to marry someone
who didn't love him back.</span><br>
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In his goodbye letter, Purab ended up sounding like a compete
hypocrite. He managed to save her from knowing that it was because of
her love for Armaan that he was leaving, but reinforced her own
impression of herself as a dowdy middle-class girl by explaining the
difference between hi-society and lo-society... now that didn't do any
wonders to her self-esteem, eh Purab??? I thought love was about
sacrifice, about giving.. but you only managed to leave Jassi feeling
even more unworthy of love. Not very laudable!! </span><span
>So what</span><span
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if he had told her the real reason why he was leaving??? Jassi would
probably have denied it, saying it was over with Armaan.. Purab
wouldn't have believed her.. Jassi would have righteously asked that he
knew about her and Armaan all along, so why ask questions now.. and
Purab wouldn't have an answer to that, which would end up making HIM
look foolish and indecisive and insecure... so why not just avoid these
uncomfortable questions and make it a one-way street so that Jassi
dosn't even have a chance to present her side of the story!!!! If that
isn't selfishness, </span><span>what is</span><span>!?!?</
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Try as I might, I can't think of Purab as a good friend..😕
