Posted: 15 November 2011 at 1:08pm | IP Logged
Now since it's confirmed that JAAN reunion is on the track ( if not complete reunion, at least Jagya is coming back to A) BV has made me realize that how good is to get married in childhood!
Bal-vivah is not at all a curse, but if some criteria is met, it's actually a boon!You see, Singh family of BV has showed us that marrying off your child is not at all bad if you allow your beendni to give examinations every year and if you separate them for few years during adolescenceSo what if I have not got the fundamental right to choose my life partner? So what if social conditioning has played a vital role in "loving" someone and I have been taught not to think about any man other than my beend since childhood?
Aree, BV has proved toh that childhood bonds are more stronger than the relationships developed in adulthood!!!
The "atmik rishta" ( soul connection), "gehra sambandh" (deep bonding) can only develop over a long period of time!
So it's important that the two persons should start living with each other since childhood - naturally, two children will be good friends and with time it can turn into "saccha pyar"
Even there was a dialogue in BV that when a girl gets married in
childhood, the image of her husband gets imprinted in her mind and she
doesn't look at any other man!! Kacchi umar ke pakke rishte!So what if I have to leave my studies and toil in kitchen?
You see, going to school was not an easy task specially in higher classes when there was pressure of studies, weekly exams, and homeworks
How good it would have been if I could spend most of the time at home - after all, I have a beend to tell me everything about the school!
On the other hand, learning to cook and doing household chores is extremely important - if one stays alone, it becomes all the more important! I don't know cooking still now and get bashed by my mom everyday
So it would have been good for me, if I would have started doing these gharelu kaam
since childhood. We learn things easily when we are children. So what if my husband starts having infatuation or start feeling for someone else when he grows up?
Aaah!! Infidelity and adultery happens even in all marriages!
Even people who get married after being adults, cheat the partners. So why blame baal-vivah! In fact, baal-vivah is good you see, because of the development of "soul connection" and "deep bonding"
So what if I find my husband's mentality to be completely different from mine? What if we are pole's apart in character which we got to know after growing up?
In every marriage, people have to compromise toh! After all, society has taught us to love our childhood bride/groom and to remain loyal. So even if there is some incompatibility, we are expected to follow the norms of society and fulfill the promises that others made on behalf of us. How can we even think about our own desires or even start using our own brain?
Seriously, BV team, through the Singh family has taught us the pro's and cons of baal vivah and I must say that they have shown more pro's than cons!!
Why didn't my parents got me married in childhood in a family like Singhs?!!!
Edited by doyelpakhi - 15 November 2011 at 9:29pm