Great Post tinoo!!!!
Just loved your post - in fact I was just thinking of making a post regarding this
Great people think alike - hehehehe
I have always maintained that J or A had the full right to choose their life partner which was not
given to them by their family .
In our country, we do have arranged marriages where two almost unknown people gets married but then the marriage happens in adulthood and both partners know the pros and cons of married life. Also few aspects like career path, life plans are quiet clear to both partners when they marry each other even if they don't know each other personally. So they take the vows of marriage knowing fully well what marriage is.
For example, J could have turned into a businessman or a drunkard instead of being a doctor - but if JA would have got married in adulhood, at least A and her parents would have a fair idea what kind of person J is even if it would have been arranged marriage.
But in child marriage, there is no idea how both the boy and the girl are going to turn; no idea what career the boy will choose; no idea how the nature of the boy and the girl will be. Most importantly, the boy and the girl are conditioned to love each other like husband and wife.
A's conditioning was successful but not of J. He romanced with A because since childhood he was told that A is his wife and he did not question it until he reached Mumbai. It was in Mumbai he realized that what he really wants.
A also has loved her husband and not exactly the person J. If she would have been married to Lalsingh, she would have loved him in the same way as she loves J now. What would have happened if J and A were just friends? Would she have
accepted J as her husband after she would understand the ambition of J
or his nature?Has anyone thought of a situation where J and A would have been told that A is his
mooh-bola sister? They would have behaved like mooh-bola brother-sister, it can be guaranteed. Or if
they were ONLY friends, would have J romanced with A? If he would have romanced with A after just being friends, then it would have been his own
decision. But this has not been the case.
So what's wrong if he feels that A is not the right girl for him.
Of course, CVs ruined his character by making him spineless and cheat.
Even I hated that he never got the courage to own
up things, he hid facts from A for years, he blamed A for his actions,
he made some dangerous goof ups like marrying G by giving bribe or
without consulting lawyers.
So when J chose G, I had no problem. In
fact, if Anandi would have chosen any other guy, it would be absolutely
right IMO. Only it could have been done in a better. amicable way.
Similarly, I don't understand why everyone is blaming J for aspiring a city life? J is not the only person, but in every house, there are boys and girls who leave their family, their city and even their country for their ambition. So if J is wrong, then each person, who settles in other places, should be blamed.
They could have serve their own village, city or country in their own way if they would not have settled elsewhere.
Being a doctor does not mean he has to forget about his own ambitions. Yes - doctors should be made to serve in villages also but then it's a matter of infrastructure and rules and regulations.
Also, as I remember from earlier episodes, J never told that he is planning to settle in village. It was Anandi and family who always thought that J is going to serve his village. Moreover, I don't remember, when A or Singhs mention about J's career in village in front of J.
Why would J be expected to stay in village just because he has become a doctor? But again, J's point of view was never shown in positive way - he was shown to be a man who despises village life and hence his aspirations for city life is also never understood in right context.
Edited by doyelpakhi - 15 October 2011 at 3:23am