There is just one catch in forcing someone to give their jewellery and them giving it willingly (what mohan did is wrong not justifying that but just explaining why kastur may have done it. If Kastur had not given it, i don't think Mohan could back off from the wedding, so the regressive message in my opinion did not come in, since he did not threaten her that if she does not give it he will not marry her or anything, like people do in real life. He was in a mess and Kastur is blindly in love with him so much so that for 4 years of life she has seen nothing but him, so when he comes and asks if you trust me give it to me and did not even lie to her, infact he clearly said i don't want to lie to you but i can't tell you the truth ... after that it was completely her choice to give or not ... but kastur's blind love for him made her do it ... i do think many in her place would do what she did (except the women who love nothing but money and jewellery) but yea they would be curious to know why he wanted them though, its human nature.
But I don't think we can relate this to the dowry thing or men forcing their wives to give their jewellery thing, as this was quite different in circumstances. So atleast in my opinion it does not give a regressive message because the purpose here was to show kastur's blind love for him and how she can go to any extent for it.
I feel this is how her character has shown to be ... her world starts and ends with Mohan. Also saw your other post .. now connecting the two ... she has imagined and dreamed so much and have seen so many movies (thanks to baa i guess
) that she has a certain image of married life in her mind of which doing ding dong the very first night is part of the deal, hence her desperation. But her image is quite unreal and needs to change because practical and real life is far from it.
Edited by Soaps1 - 14 October 2011 at 9:03pm