Posted: 05 October 2011 at 3:11am | IP Logged
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I want to put some educative information on love and relationship issue we faces during break ups. I am reproducing this post from my blog. If any administrator ve any issue, they can tell me.
Caveman's Stone 117 reads ## ''Love is not that blind as over projected in popular media, it is very much simple and can be diagnosed and cured provided one dare to and have courage to.''
Out of several positive and negative emotions , human population have not been mesemerised more than anything to extreme but the feeling of love, intimacy, attraction of the opposite gender. In Love one sees winds and listen to the iris colors. This is an established age old fact not an opinion. Morover, this is a natural fact which is with us since the pre-historic times. I would not be the first neither the last to dig out that this will be continued till the last couple on earth exists. It is the love [ or lack of it] defines the multitudes of horizons, meanings to our otherwise aimless lives. But falling out of love is the crux which has not been addressed since date pathologicaly.
Any modern media illusioned folk would jump in and interrupts :- '' But you stinky Caveman, true love can't fade till last breath.''
Caveman stretches his eyelashes a bit and spank the illusioned ass with his stick, says: '' Everything in nature is doomed to change and your dear love [and beloved] too come with an expiry date, you fool.''
And when expiry has tresspassed your relationship's radius, you again see the winds and hear the colors alike the start of relationship. Only dichtomy is the start and end but the rush of emotions is the same.
Caveman's cave will vitalise all the poor souls drenched in the agony of break-ups with the life saving inscriptions:-
1.Chase/Stalk/Cling : Familier with these demonic words? Must be. Just do the opposite of these words especially when an Ex is getting distant from you. Chasing, Stalking,Clinging will make them more distant and leave your heart with more dents. These denotes the needy behaviour and bad news is that our dear bollywood song's description of grand love includes neediness which do not work in mother nature of mating. So cut these, amputate these from your brain. When you would stop this behaviour initialy, your Ex [ or soon going to be an Ex ] would wonder that in their mind :-
#what is hell , why he/she is not chasing me now?
#Has he/she moved on?
#Has he/she can do without me?
#Has he/she started seeing someone else?
...and if you have already doing the same as thought by them in above questions, bet, you won their mind's fading attention and successfuly instilled some feeling again.
Course duration:- Minimum 10-17 days from the day of symptoms appeared.
1.1 Enduring: In these 10-17 days my dear souls, endure yourself physicaly,mentaly and emotionaly. You are about to think :- How to endure? Right , here is the way:
#Check out the movies you have not seen in last couple of months, try even boring ones.
#Do you work out? Start that. It releases the 'Happy Hormones' from brain which would counter the depressive chemicals causing you to make needy. Jog, Walk, Swim, Gym are the ways, you know, just enroll daily atleast for 35 minutes and see the change in yourself.
1.2 Acceptance: While away from your ex or current partner, ponder what particulary made him/her attracted towards your personality in the start of love game. Ponder, ponder and when you hit the nail of this question, just subscribe again to that trait,hobby,passion. It is the core which brought the other person towards you. Start it again in a way never to betray this in your life and you would see your exs are in crawling back mode. Acceptance is just the opposite of 'Denial' in which you are now. Denial is detrimental in getting back with partner on track.
2. Never Beg:- Either you are a man or a woman, just understand that the act of begging love from an ex is the filthiest , unhuman behaviour. Under the pain of death, never commit to this grave mistake. It ingest all the self-respect and respect in the eyes of a lover and ex-lover. In love, contrary to popular projection of media, self-pity never works. Especially Boys keep in mind that girls would never showers their love to beggers. It generates only the feelings of disgust in her heart about his man.
3.Communication: Rather the kind of communication during rough times matters most. Never give your ex or lover the feeling that their behaviour or actions have hurt you. You tone should be firm, confidenced and unshaked. It would generate or regenerate the aura around you. But always keep in mind never try to prove yourself through words. It is fatal. Don't explicate your achivements rather demonstrate. Always keep your communication in the soul of brevity and laconic.
4. Crying:- During emotinal charging, at the thought of loosing someone fires the tear glands in your eye globules. Crying for man in front of a love interest is like igniting our own body to flames. Its weakness and you are a man. Want to cry, can't handle it? Do it in your room, bathroom, with friends but not at all in front of an ex or estranged love. When a woman see his man crying , she may symphathise for a moment but she in the core of heart would despise such a man and would soon leave him to oblivion. Would you want that? Whereas crying is concerned women can cry without any reason and sometimes just to pass their time. There is nothing much in those tears most of the time. Its their nature.
I know it was a long read. But I had to make it very short so that you dnt ve to bored.