Originally posted by sowmyaa
You are very right dolly. When two plp are truley in love then sex is an expression of love and is wonderful thing between the two...i totally agree...all I am saying is then why these two people asked by their parents hide that they had any sexual relashionship. That's where I have a problem. Why do you need to hide things from soceity when you think you are right. If there is no "guilt" or "shame" when you are in early 20s that you invloved in physical relashion with your bf then it's totally valid. We all know that people in West do date, live together and have sex before marriage and I don't think that's wrong. If I was living here I would be totally fine having sexual relashionship with my boyfriend and even living with him before marriage. But I was not comfy with such relashion when I was 20 and when I was in India. Aparna, is right...girls and also boys are brainwashed from childhood that to indulge in sex before marriage is not good. That's also one of the reason the whole society is formed with this belief. I don't think there is anything wrong in controlling your sexual urge until you get married. One cannot express everything they wish and they want to. Like you cannot wear a bikini in India and sit outside for sun bath. I don't think anyone would do that even if they want to. It's just that all country have different society norms. I know some are really rigid and over the time we can get over it..however, its hard for girls and boys to rovolt against soceity at young age and do what they want to. It is therefore better not to loose your viriginity till you get married.
Friends, This is quote I wrote earlier and this is exactly what I personally fee. AS I said in my previous post that this is my personal openion and I do not expect society or everyone to follow the same norms and I do respect individual's choice and this is why we have "debate" as not two people are similar which is totally fine. The reasons why "i" would not indulge in loosing virginity is my above para. To me anything i personally feel that my heart says this is wrong is just vanilla wrong. If I think this is right I am doing and eventhough society syas its wrong I dont care and thats right for me. so just going with heart and your culture your parents have passed you is what I believe in...if some people thing loosing virginity is totally fine and not a taboo its really not ....i respect what everyone's heart says..its just individual's choice. i guess i've said all i wanted to say so Guess I am retiring from this topic.
Edited by sowmyaa - 03 February 2006 at 5:31am