Does Abstinence Before Marriage Make You A Better Person?
No, it is just a choice you have made for yourself and does not make you better or worse than someone who has chosen to have sex before marriage
Does Abstinence Before Marriage Make Your Marriage Better?
No, it is not contingent on whether you were abstinent before marriage. It is contingent on what kind of partner you are to your spouse and whether you have the fundamental components to a good marriage- Love, Respect, Compassion, Communication, and Loyalty. What you want to avoid before marriage is going into it with the wrong attitudes... and what are those?
Nice Topic👏sowmyaa; coming to the point, whether "loosing" virginity before marriage, i went through various dictionaries to understand the meaning of the word "loosing", Webster defines it as "To release from anything obligatory or burdensome; to disengage; hence, to absolve;
Putting the definition in the context, I firmly believe marriage is a scared thing and an institution unto itself atleast in india, and hence being a virgin does matter. It would be difficult for me "personally" to accept sex before marriage.
Quoting dolly;
"Sex is an expression of love"
I do not agree with the above statement, love is something which is very scared and comparing it with sex would be sacrilegious, I believe it is not necessary to be in love to have sex, but the opposite is not always true.
"If making love is something regular in your married life, isn't has to be important??"
I personally despise when people compare "intercourse" to making love, further I also doubt whether daily routine can be important, especially when it is something regular in a relationship.
"I mean why it is admirable to abstain?? Because the majority don't?? And have you ever questioned why they did it? Society is what tells us what's bad and what's not but, what about what we think?? What we really feel??"
Well why do people abstain is a question of personal choice based on human values, just because somebody abstains that does not give anyone any right to question him or her, I believe cherishing ones values is a achievement and falling prey to temptations should not be used as garb to justify one's preferences.
*A young mind is a wondrous thing, and can as just easily be persuaded in the wrong direction as it could be in the right direction. *
Exactly that is where our values and culture come to one's help to decide, which direction to follow right one or wrong.
Very well said 👏 it is resisting the temptation which is an achievement, justifying gratification is an indicator of the guilt.
Yes indeed god has blessed human beings with an option to make choices, and the burden is a perception and should not be used as garb.
Commitment is important or else, even the people in flesh trade do this routine, atleast with an objective of supporting one's lives.
Yes indeed it is the values which makes us god fearing and these are the values which guides us to the right direction and having pre martial sex is something which was always looked down, the very fact that it is being debated is reminder that pre martial sex is a no no.
Exactly, judgment is something which is better administered by the all pervasive almighty god, we human beings are just his creatures with various desires and strengths and the values help to enhance the right strengths and controls desires.
I am a firm believer that it is what we stand for, is the identity for oneself and dignity is something which is compromised on most of the occasions, when pre martial sex is a norm.
Yes indeed as the word goes, deeds are something done by oneself and hence the consequences cannot be someone else's.
Well I would prefer to be called conservative then to indulge in something which is against what I was taught when I was pure and away from all the evils of the world.
you said it sowmyaa, i envy you for the choice of words,very well written👏.Indeed what you can give to oneself and other as you enter into a proposed long lasting relationship is a gift and if you loose this most precious gift then i would believe such a person is a pauper.