1. do you think you can accept your spouse if he/she had lost her virginity before marriage? im not sure
2. Do you think it's ok if one looses his/her virginity before marriage or you think it is something not acceptable and not in your (Indian/Pakistani..whatever) culture? i dont think its acceptable
3. Do you think that we Indians/Pakistani should grow and try to broaden our mind in 21st century and accept sleeping/dating before marriage or you think no matter how much we grow we should not loose our sanskruti, our culture⦠and it is not acceptable to loose your virginity before marriage like in West. i dont think so cuz tat will encourage more kids 2 take wrong n incorrect steps n decisions in life.
Can people whose friends and family have had ex lovers and spouses contest that statementπ.
There are many women in my family that married in that typical marraige scenario which is still prevalent in India for various reasons. They dont like many things about each other and about their marraige. They dont have enough dislike or discomfort to leave, neither do they have enough love to stop them from a fleeting thought what if- when they are vulnerable and lost.
It's nice to know people marry for love and only love with understanding and the like but its not always that simple.
Life is more non linear than we hope and it's harder to solve and decipher that -Eureka, this is love and what else do I need-
What is love? Ive never been able to define it. I think there are so many colors to love.
I am not venturing that someone will think of their ex spouses in bed while they make love to their current partner. All I am saying is in my mind, with my kind of mentality and from what I have witnessed, IF you seal your relationship with a person with making love then to let it go is harder. Those moments will stay with you, especially if he was your first love. You cant just make a baby and not remember the father when you look at them or look at them with hatred.
The people I know do think of their ex fondly and definitely not like they were chicken pox. The whole family and I get to meet them every holiday season and we are very friendly.