Episode 764 :Maut Ki Aawaz 1.10.2011 (Page 5)

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Posted: 02 October 2011 at 3:15am | IP Logged
Originally posted by NandiniPS

Is it watchable online?
Don't waste your emotional bank balance.

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Posted: 02 October 2011 at 3:18am | IP Logged
Originally posted by visrom

Originally posted by NandiniPS

Is it watchable online?
Don't waste your emotional bank balance.


Ok I will watch reluctant killer instead
visrom IF-Stunnerz

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Posted: 02 October 2011 at 3:24am | IP Logged

Sorry to bore you...but this is the article on emotional bank balance.

I was relating these concepts to our(or rather my own) relationship with CID...
Sharing with you all.

When it comes to improving and maintaining our relationships with others, Stephen Covey's metaphor of the Emotional Bank Account is probably one of the most powerful ideas ever created for the development of interpersonal relationships. If you've never heard of this, it basically means that anyone with whom we have a relationship with, whether it be our coworkers, family or friends, we maintain a personal "emotional" bank account with them. This account begins on a neutral balance. And just as with any bank account, we can make deposits and withdrawals. However, instead of dealing with units of monetary value, we deal with emotional units.

The emotional units that Covey speaks of are centered around trust. When we make emotional deposits into someone's bank account, their fondness, trust, and confidence in us grows. And as a result our relationship develops and grows. If we can keep a positive reserve in our relationships, by making regular deposits, there will be greater tolerance for our mistakes and we'll enjoy open communication with that person. On the contrary, when we make withdrawals and our balance becomes low or even overdrawn, bitterness, mistrust and discord develops. If we are to salvage the relationship, we must make a conscious effort to make regular deposits.

This post will discuss Covey's six major ways of making deposits into these Emotional Bank Accounts and how we can avoid making withdrawals.

1. Understanding the Individual

In Covey's book, seven habits of highly effective people, one of the seven habits is "seek first to understand then to be understood". Truly understanding what others are feeling is not always that easy. We must remove ourselves from our egocentric viewpoint and put ourselves into the minds and shoes of others. I say minds and shoes because we must try to first understand the thought patterns and second walk in their shoes or empathize with them.

One of my major faults when communicating with others is, while they are talking I tend to think what I am going to say next. Truly understanding someone requires us to wholly and completely concentrate on what the other person is trying to say, not reloading, just waiting to fire off your response

(Refers to their understanding of the audience)
2. Keeping Commitments

Certainly when we break our promises to others, we make major withdrawals from their Emotional Bank Accounts. However, keeping commitments is not just relegated to promises. It also includes things such as arriving to work and appointments on time, fulfilling our duties, and living up to every word that comes out of our mouth.

(We are fulfilling our commitment by going to the TV every weekend at 10PM. Are they fulfilling theirs'?)
3. Clarifying Expectations

There is nothing more frustrating in a relationship than not understanding what is expected of you. Although many of us wish we could be, we are not mind readers. And because each of us sees life differently and has different backgrounds and life experiences, expecting someone to just "know" is not only unfair but completely unrealistic. It's important that the person with whom you are dealing with, knows exactly what is expected of them. Doing this will keep them out of the dark and allow them to relate you confidently, knowing that what they are doing is in line with your expectations.

(We shouldn't expect them to understand that we don't like OTT episodes or unconnected scenes and crappy team distribution)
4. Attending to the Little Things

Little courtesies, kind words and warm smiles are at the heart of the little things that brighten up a relationship. It shows recognition and an awareness of others. It's interesting, but within our relationships, if you want success, it's the little things that really become the big things.

(They need to know this for sure...but they are ignoring this aspect nowCry)
5. Showing Personal Integrity

Nothing is probably more damaging to a relationship, then a lack of integrity. Being that the Emotional Bank Account is based upon trust, you could essentially be doing all of the previous things, but without trust, it is to no avail. Integrity means wholeness, completeness, or soundness. In this case soundness of moral character. Integrity is the rock-solid foundation upon which all successful relationships are built.

(They are showing us over-hyped promos and creating expectations and letting us down again and again. We really doubt their integrity now Ouch)
6. Apologizing Sincerely When We Make a Withdrawal

Granted, we are all mortal. We make mistakes. That's part of life and learning. Knowing when you are wrong and admitting your mistakes prevents the wounds that you've caused in others from festering and allows them to heal. When appropriate, sincere apology will keep your relationships accounts in the positive, allowing you to maintain the balance that has been created in your application of all of the previous steps.

(Here 'we' should refer to FW. I doubt if this will ever happen. They repeat their mistakes week after week, month after month)

Edited by visrom - 02 October 2011 at 3:27am

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Posted: 02 October 2011 at 3:31am | IP Logged
Clap Vis ... I must award you patience ... to actually sit and research on FW style of playing with our emotions ... and all ...

I loved the comment in red you've given for the second point !!! More than a necessity I believe it's now their duty to respect the viewers who've stood by the show always in all times ... we criticize but still we sit in front of out TV sets because we value this long relationship we've had with the show and the hardwork our actors put in ... wonder when FW will Ouch

anyways thanks for this !!! 
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Posted: 02 October 2011 at 3:32am | IP Logged
I didn't research for this episode. I had learnt all this in a training session long ago.

Edited by visrom - 02 October 2011 at 3:32am

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Posted: 02 October 2011 at 10:43am | IP Logged
Though it was a disaster but Purvi managed to showcase her in every scene like Attendance Girl..AG..LOL

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