Posted: 24 September 2011 at 6:28am | IP Logged
Originally posted by momma1128
While Barun was brilliant today, let's face it - the best scene today was Anjali and Khushi - while ASR was doing a 'DOH!' face palm behind the palms. He also did a different take on this PH's obsession with freaking tom and jerry chases. So this time Tom (ASR) chases Jerry (KKG) to give him a piece of cheese instead of trying to hit him with a mallet. Now onto the topic.
I don't know how many of you have read Chitra Banerjee Divyakaruni's book that is the title of my thread but it is about the bond between two friends separated by an ocean and how in tune they are to each other's emotions and hearts. In today's lingo - sister from another mother (although brother from another mother sounds much more poetic, whatever, let's continue). This is how I feel Anjali and Khushi are.
I thought to myself as I watched that scene between Anjali and Khushi (and choked up thank you very much), why is it that Khushi has not shared this ache with Payal. Why was it that when Khushi's orphan status was thrown in her face in the beginning episodes by the person she calls 'amma', Payal did not provide this type of support to unburden her sister? Yes her wedding was called off, but KKG ran out in the middle of the night with Payal's best interest at heart, so why not the reciprocity. Have there been moments between the sisters - yes - but not with this depth.
Somehow, I feel that the connection between Khushi and Anjali is stronger than Payal's (don't come over and chappalify me okay, it's only an opinion). I really felt like I was watching Khushi's older sister - a jiji in every sense of the word. I don't know if it is because of lack of writing or what have you, but in many circumstances, Payal acts like Khushi's younger sister. She is the one who needs to be reassured that everything will be alright. She is the one who sits at home with Buaji, worrying about money but not being proactive, Payal is the one who today - when Shyam asked who would take care of Babuji if she couldn't hold it together - is immediately reminded of Khushi.
It's probably a deliberate attempt to show closeness between Anjali and Khushi - so that the Shyam betrayal is even more bitter.
Great post Anu, ...the opening para is brilliant...and thank you for introducing a great author...sounds like she has written some amazing books...summer reading list done.
To your point about Khushi's instinctive connection with Anjali and it being closer than her bond with Payal...IMHO, it is nothing more strange than what say, a breast cancer survivor may feel an instant and close connection with another survivor even though they have met for the first time. The two may be able to relate and understand each other on that topic, better than with their other loved ones. That does not mean they don't have an entirely robust, satisfying and fulfilling relationship with their mother, or sister or husband...as the case may be. It is just a question of feeling the kinship that arises out of shared experience.
Anjali and Khushi feel that moment of total accord and complete understanding because both have lost their parents...seen them go, never to return. Payal still has her father and when he remarries, she has a loving mother too. Payal will never be able to feel Khushi's pain of being an orphan, even though the sisters love each other to bits and would do anything for each other.
Another example comes to mind...to those familiar with Harry Potter books, it is the kinship Harry and Luna feel...both have watched their loved ones die (their mothers)...the author goes one step ahead and makes this shared experience tangible in that it gives both of them the ability to see the Thestrals, who are invisible to all others. This connection does not in any way detract from Harry's extremely close friendship with Ron and Hermione.
And Anjali is that perfect elder sister, who is supposed to be older not only in age, but experience too, since she is the married one. In Indian culture, we place a lot of premium on the married state, whatever the rationale behind that one be...so even if a girl is younger in age, if she is married, she is considered more mature and is expected to take care of others.
The larger point about Payal being sort of useless as an older sister...that is true. But that is her character trait...that is who she is. Khushi has always taken the lead and Payal has always been happy to let her do so. She is the quintessential home-maker...like her Ammaji. It never even occurs to her that she can step out of the house and find a job...but if there is anything that needs to be done in the house, she will be the first one to take on the responsibility. Small things like calling Khushi...she asks Shyam to do...because her brain is wired to say that men should take the lead ...of course she will call once Shyam is not able to ...but her first instinct is to ask Shyam to make the phone call.
All this sounds almost alien to our sensibilities in this day and age, but there are enough girls/women who think that way even now.
Hope I have not bored everyone to sleep with this long tome