Posted: 21 September 2011 at 10:16am | IP Logged
Originally posted by momma1128
It's an interesting conversation going on.
It's just a matter of perception of what you consider mature and not mature. Justified behavior and unjustified behavior. 18 years old is not old, but it is also not young in the sense of understanding consequences.
ASR has always been a jerk to her and is pretty consistent with it. He also has moments of actual human behavior, with Anjali, with Khushi, with Mami and Mama and Akash. This flip side has been shown slowly and gradually throughout the show.
Khushi used to be consistent in her forwardness with ASR, and her avoidance of him. He would challenge her and she would rise to the occassion and give it back. He initiated and in those circumstances, she was absolutely right to not give him the time of day. But that was the old Khushi before she accepted the job at the RM. After that, I find her behavior puzzling.
She is shown to be very mature about certain things with all people, including ASR and the way she stopped him from continuing with his aukat rant (which I can't stand) and for apologizing. I think though this is where people find her incongruous. After realizing what kind of person ASR is - why do the very things you know will feed into his preconceived notion about you? As viewers we understand very well that ASR is not going to be one to let anything go and I believe Khushi understands that too. Lecturing him on his lack of character for live in, tricking him into aarti, and now planting the idea of marriage in La's head. She absolutely knew what she had done would have this effect, so yes, that is why it seems she is running from the consequences of her instigation.
And the CV's have further made it seem immature by having her avoid the conversation in a very calculating manner of faking fainting (I hope that there is a very good reason for this). Some people feel that it is quite within Khushi to avoid a fight, but the nuance in this particular instance is that she indeed had started it, whereas before ASR purposely brought the fight to her. I think this is what has rubbed most people in the wrong direction. At 18 years old, most people know, if you play with fire, you will get burned.
Anu(hope I have got the name correct.. I seem to remember the name from some of your other posts) , The only thing I would see differently here is that while the pooja thing khsuhsi defly did not have a strong enough reason ( I mean whatever supposed ishara from god) , the marriage is just part of her job ... She was not just out of the blue coming out and giving her opinion on that... she is asked to make la a sanskaari bahu who will be acceptable to ASRs family... and she did that... so it wasn't really done with the intent of initiating the fight... she was invited into the midst of a situation which her sensibilities find offensive... and the sensibilities of ASRs family also is very similar to Khushi... Every one had just made an uneasy truce with the situation and Nani had given a deadline as well of one month... so Khushi is doing a job... not with the intent of taking panga with ASR... true somewhere she must have realised it would make him mad... But I never felt that was the intent of her convincing Lavanya... she did not have any mean thoughts regarding the marriage thing... and while the fainting was defly not a nice thing to do... in my opinion atleast that doesn't make her a lesser person or a coward totally... you judge someone based on everything you have seen about that person... so I atleast feel that while the faint scene was totally avaoidable... that does not mean she has now become a coward or she is shirking responsibility... every time she has fought back when she had no other option... she is just doing the same now also... she wants to avoid him by hook or crook... that is all... so while I too had the discomfort regarding the fainting scene ( may be to a lesser extent than most of you) , I won't call her as totally ruined for me... or horrible or anything even close to that.. that is all...