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Posted: 18 September 2011 at 1:10pm | IP Logged

Losing a parent is traumatic at any age.  In this situation when both parents are lost, is it possible to overcome the loss within such a short period (hardly less than a month) and pursue one's dream.

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Posted: 18 September 2011 at 1:14pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by b2011

Losing a parent is traumatic at any age.  In this situation when both parents are lost, is it possible to overcome the loss within such a short period (hardly less than a month) and pursue one's dream.





Speaking from Personal experience, Yes !! it is possible ..Bas it depends on how focused and determined u r ..Much Like Arjuna and the eye of the bird  in Mahabarath !! Smile

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Posted: 18 September 2011 at 1:30pm | IP Logged
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Heyy My Lubbly Pals,


we have been going on and on about  how selfish, matlabi,khudgarz  Ankur is ?? we have derided him for not stopping over and allowing Sandhya  to fulfill her dreams ..But what about Ankur's dreams ?? ..Why r we not  looking at his dreams... hasn't he got a right to fulfill his own ..U may say not at the cost of Sandhy'a dream but then Can Sandhya  be allowed to fullfill her dreams at the cost fo Ankur's ??


As Ankur so rightly pointed out , getting into UPSC  is no child's play..sandhya may or may not crack it in the first year , her dream is a distant hazy goal ..it is not tangible  whereas Ankur's dream is already being realized ..it is tangible ...would not it be realistic and practical for Ankur to pursue what already is in his  hands than something which may never happen ..


Another pertinent point that Ankur raised was  Sandhy'a dream after her Marriage .. sad but true..many girls have given up their careers to maintain   their family ..what if Sandhya is forced to do the same  [  there is a high probability of this as her choice is rather different ]..then would not Ankur's sacrifice  be a waste ..this will definitely lead to resentment in his bosom ..


There is another  option that CV's have completely neglected to consider/tackle  .. That is the option of becoming a hosteler or PG .. This way both can achieve  their dreams and ofc we will not be gettin the DB LOLLOL


Di...agree with you...the only issue I have is the 15 day marriage ...No brother should force his little sister...just to fulfill his dreams...but why does he want her to get married? I mean Sandhya can start working and then continue studying...and as I have highlighted in your post..true...why cant she stay in a PG?

AS far as Ankur being selfish...well the only part made me Angry was the 15 day issue...other wise going to US for his career...its his choice and right...he is not selfish if he wants to follow HIs dream...

But the its star plus...so  LOL LOL




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Heyy My Lubbly Pals,


we have been going on and on about  how selfish, matlabi,khudgarz  Ankur is ?? we have derided him for not stopping over and allowing Sandhya  to fulfill her dreams ..But what about Ankur's dreams ?? ..Why r we not  looking at his dreams... hasn't he got a right to fulfill his own ..U may say not at the cost of Sandhy'a dream but then Can Sandhya  be allowed to fullfill her dreams at the cost fo Ankur's ??


As Ankur so rightly pointed out , getting into UPSC  is no child's play..sandhya may or may not crack it in the first year , her dream is a distant hazy goal ..it is not tangible  whereas Ankur's dream is already being realized ..it is tangible ...would not it be realistic and practical for Ankur to pursue what already is in his  hands than something which may never happen ..


Another pertinent point that Ankur raised was  Sandhy'a dream after her Marriage .. sad but true..many girls have given up their careers to maintain   their family ..what if Sandhya is forced to do the same  [  there is a high probability of this as her choice is rather different ]..then would not Ankur's sacrifice  be a waste ..this will definitely lead to resentment in his bosom ..


There is another  option that CV's have completely neglected to consider/tackle  .. That is the option of becoming a hosteler or PG .. This way both can achieve  their dreams and ofc we will not be gettin the DB LOLLOL


Di...agree with you...the only issue I have is the 15 day marriage ...No brother should force his little sister...just to fulfill his dreams...but why does he want her to get married? I mean Sandhya can start working and then continue studying...and as I have highlighted in your post..true...why cant she stay in a PG?

AS far as Ankur being selfish...well the only part made me Angry was the 15 day issue...other wise going to US for his career...its his choice and right...he is not selfish if he wants to follow HIs dream...

But the its star plus...so  LOL LOL




Mishti, Hug,


So happy to see u ..Big smile..

I think if the 15 day deadline [ now it is 11 day's BTW] had not been there, Ankur would never have bothered   to get her married and would have allowed her to pursue her dreams ..Perfectly accept that None repeat None shud be forced into a  delicate and fragile institution called Marriage ..

As for working and studying.. I think it is the conservative BG speaking...Sandhya is not from  metro where working and studying girls are common Plus how  much can she earn being a fresher... her  salary will not even be sufficient  for covering the expenditure on books ... Another issue is that of time..UPSC is very grueling exam..U have to spend atleast 12-18 hours just studying .. where will she find the time to study if she were to work ...  Above all where will she stay ..She cant stay on in the house without a chaperone ..and this people are not even considering the alternative..TYpical SP Muddle !! Smile

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Posted: 18 September 2011 at 1:54pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by tanthya

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Originally posted by tanthya



Heyy My Lubbly Pals,


we have been going on and on about  how selfish, matlabi,khudgarz  Ankur is ?? we have derided him for not stopping over and allowing Sandhya  to fulfill her dreams ..But what about Ankur's dreams ?? ..Why r we not  looking at his dreams... hasn't he got a right to fulfill his own ..U may say not at the cost of Sandhy'a dream but then Can Sandhya  be allowed to fullfill her dreams at the cost fo Ankur's ??


As Ankur so rightly pointed out , getting into UPSC  is no child's play..sandhya may or may not crack it in the first year , her dream is a distant hazy goal ..it is not tangible  whereas Ankur's dream is already being realized ..it is tangible ...would not it be realistic and practical for Ankur to pursue what already is in his  hands than something which may never happen ..


Another pertinent point that Ankur raised was  Sandhy'a dream after her Marriage .. sad but true..many girls have given up their careers to maintain   their family ..what if Sandhya is forced to do the same  [  there is a high probability of this as her choice is rather different ]..then would not Ankur's sacrifice  be a waste ..this will definitely lead to resentment in his bosom ..


There is another  option that CV's have completely neglected to consider/tackle  .. That is the option of becoming a hosteler or PG .. This way both can achieve  their dreams and ofc we will not be gettin the DB LOLLOL


Di...agree with you...the only issue I have is the 15 day marriage ...No brother should force his little sister...just to fulfill his dreams...but why does he want her to get married? I mean Sandhya can start working and then continue studying...and as I have highlighted in your post..true...why cant she stay in a PG?

AS far as Ankur being selfish...well the only part made me Angry was the 15 day issue...other wise going to US for his career...its his choice and right...he is not selfish if he wants to follow HIs dream...

But the its star plus...so  LOL LOL




Mishti, Hug,


So happy to see u ..Big smile..

I think if the 15 day deadline [ now it is 11 day's BTW] had not been there, Ankur would never have bothered   to get her married and would have allowed her to pursue her dreams ..Perfectly accept that None repeat None shud be forced into a  delicate and fragile institution called Marriage ..

As for working and studying.. I think it is the conservative BG speaking...Sandhya is not from  metro where working and studying girls are common Plus how  much can she earn being a fresher... her  salary will not even be sufficient  for covering the expenditure on books ... Another issue is that of time..UPSC is very grueling exam..U have to spend atleast 12-18 hours just studying .. where will she find the time to study if she were to work ...  Above all where will she stay ..She cant stay on in the house without a chaperone ..and this people are not even considering the alternative..TYpical SP Muddle !! Smile


Hmm...didnt think about that...i mean I guess if you have not lived in a small town...you wont understand the dynamics..I thought about how can CV's not think about PG...lol...whenI saw the 15 day episode... .that makes sense Di...conservative BG...

I am always there to read your posts Di... I alwasys do...Clap Hug Hug


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Posted: 18 September 2011 at 1:54pm | IP Logged
They are determined to get Sandhya married but at least can show all the alternatives of approaching some uncles, aunts or even Ankitha's family.  In today's society, people do not accept to take responsibility of girls, especially teenage girls, even if she is a close relative.

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Posted: 18 September 2011 at 2:04pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by b2011

They are determined to get Sandhya married but at least can show all the alternatives of approaching some uncles, aunts or even Ankitha's family.  In today's society, people do not accept to take responsibility of girls, especially teenage girls, even if she is a close relative.



Yes !! They shud have done that, Bharathi ...  I am sure each and every one of the relatives would have hesitated to keep a young,unattached girl for 2 years [ 6 months they might have agreed ]  ..Ankur then opting for marriage would have created a  slightly sympathetic impression's about him..

Teenage girls-yai vaikkradhu Madiyile thee kattindu irukira maadhiri ...Smile

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Posted: 18 September 2011 at 2:07pm | IP Logged
Thnx tanthya 
maine is point se socha hi nhi 
i guess u hv pointed out correctly 
he's not selfish in that way , he's doing wat sandhya's doing but h wanna fulfill thr dreams n ankur dnt asking her to forget al , like once he says that she can study even after marriage but ankur dnt wait its a golden opportunity for him, i guessankur is right at his point , now sandhya hv to think abt his it , but wat to say that broker will do a mess n sandhya will blame ankur for this n ultimately he'll be called selfish 

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