Originally posted by Opti
Ankur is selfish because:
1.He is forcing a marriage on a girl who is not ready for marriage only because it would leave him free to go to the U.S.
2.He has not revealed anything about the groom or his family either to his wife or his sister for fear that they may not agree to the match. This when he himself knows very well that his sister will be a misfit in the house she is going into because the groom's family wanted an uneducated girl who is good at managing a house and the groom himself has limited education.
3.As far as the question of exploring other options is concerned, he should have done so, which he did not because at the back of his mind, he never considered his sister's dreams seriously. Even before his parents' death, he had taken the liberty of finding a groom for her without consulting his parents or his sister. He seems like a real MCP who thinks women have to just tow the line drawn by the men in their lives, be it brother, father or husband.
4.After the loss of his parents he had taken a vow to fulfill the incomplete responsibilities of his father. Seeing Sandhya as an IPS officer was not only the dream of his sister but also that of his father. So what became of that promise?
5.He is selfish from the point of view of Suraj's family too because he hid the truth about his sister's educated status from them too. He knew if they are aware of the truth, they may not agree to the wedding and he cannot go abroad as planned.
Even if we presume that the town they live in does not have hostels or paying guest accommodation, he could have taken her to the nearest metro and found such a hostel for her. After all he did have 15 days to do so. Instead of trying to fix up a marriage in that time he should have tried to do this instead. In case of these efforts fail and he is not able to fix up a safe place for his sister, he should have stayed back. Being the head of the family he should have fulfilled his responsibility and sometimes responsibilities come with sacrifices. It cannot be helped.
At the end of the day he failed in his duty as a brother, especially one who had assumed the role of a father in the absence of his own parents. If today his wife is able to accompany him to the U.S. it is because his sister was willing to let her parents mortgage the house in which she too had a share.
As to realising his own dream, he could have done so at a later date also. It is not that he will never get another opportunity. He wanted to play God in his sister's life. I'm sure he will have a miserable life in the U.S. because the recession will break out and the guy may lose his job.
well said...hes very selfish in every aspect. marriage isnt the only option, and the reason he hid her passport was for his own selfish reasons too. as u said before he tried to marry her before too but her parents didnt allow it. the whole point of being the head is putting others priorities first which is wht r parents do for us and now that he was taken their dads place he shouldve thought of that. but no hes just thrown her with the orthodox rathi family with only two sane ppl in the family Suraj and Chaturi, God help his kid and his wife..and ur rite he will lead a miserable life...ppl jus have dreams to move to the usa and uk but its not all bud of roses its a tough life! esp if u dont know anyone there..the only one film that showed that was Love Aaj Kal they showed how unhappy he was without family n friends...i wish theyd be more realistic in dramas too