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Posted: 26 September 2011 at 7:23am | IP Logged
Originally posted by crazyfairy

Originally posted by tanthya

Originally posted by crazyfairy

Ankur has complete right to fulfil his dream. But overlooking his sister's needs just because she is vulnerable? Certainly not.
It is his responsibility to look after his sister's dreams.
Hurrying to marry her off so that he can go to the U.S.? That is plainly SELFISH and cannot be forgiven.
Another things, many Indians are too overwhelmed by the west but the truth is India is nowhere behind as far as quality of jobs and stuff are concerned...


Hi Crazyfairy Smile ..

Similarly Sandhya has no right to be a roadblock to his ambition ... As i mentioned in the initial post..there is a way in which both can fulfill their ambition  ...

I do not think he is overlooking,,,He is trying to do the best he can in the given time ... despiet her goal the  ultimate thing is Sandhya will get married, his thinking is   , she is going to get married anyhow so why not now ??

It is his responsibility to look after his sister, Crazyfairy and he is doing it to the best of his abilities

Absolutely agree, the decision of marriage is hasty and is unacceptable ..

Dear India leads in IT ..I know that  and lots of youngsters are now opting to stay over here itself..but in   small towns and rural areas US  is the proverbial El Dorado Smile
Hi Tanthya!Smile
You have put forward your points really well, though we do not seem to agree totally.
Sandhya never demnded her brother to give up his dream but she can rightfully expect him to be a responsible guardian as she is not yet financially independant.
Why is it that Ankur thinks that marriage is the primary concern for his sister's future?
He as a brother should believe in her and encourage her.
It is so bad of him to marry off her in 15 days and leave for U.S. What if the family is not good? What if Sandhya needs him?


 There is never any compulsion to agree with one another, Crazyfairy..we each can be right when viewed from our own POV  or  we might shed some new lights or force one another to see from a different angle..that is the beauty of the forum..It allows us to  discuss various points Big smile

No, dear ..it is not the question of demands..it is the question of duty .. The duty of an elder brother is to see that his sister's future is settled and that she has a companion who will love her, cherish her, protect her for life ...And Ankur was discharging that ..he was not bothered about his sisters dreams , for in the final tally, the society will not judge him   on his fulfilling her whimsical dream but rather whether he made an effort to find an able partner and set her own home ..Remember he is from a small town , has conservative ideas  and is from a conservative background..So his  thoughts and actions when viewed from his POV is correct ...

That is the issue here, Crazyfairy..he does not believe her dreams !!


That is the reason he went to the same family  cos he knew that family..he went thru the brokers when that alliance fell thru ..I do not think he is in the mind frame to think of the longer consequence..right now he has one agenda to go to US and He sees one obstacle ..Sandhay..His only thought is how to remove the obstacle ..

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Posted: 26 September 2011 at 4:59pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

I loved reading all the replies here except SOME you know..LOL
I am glad that our Forum has sucha brilliant people who understand and have great POVs about the showEmbarrassed
your answers actually answered some of my questionsTongue
thanks to you allClap.. for being sucha wonderful membersBig smile
 
I dont know what to say about AnkurErmm.. I guess first of all,, everything happened so fast and Ankur was probably not ready and not matured enough to think about what is wrong and what is right.Confused
and i am sure, as other members stated previously, Marriage was not the only option for Ankur.. Cry
he definitely has some relatives and he could have sent Sandhya to their house for 2 years. Smile
 
well.. i hope CVs will get new ideas by reading your wonderful thread TanthyaBig smile
Keep it up dearThumbs Up
 


Please try to make sense! Are all those faces the different personalities you possess or just the confusion you feel reading this topic and of course watching DABH!Tongue
if my posts do not make sense to you then please go to a scientist and buy a new brain
dont bother to reply to my post
it was not meant for you
i seriously hate when people reply to my posts because they dont have anything else to do..
to be honest, you yourself are a stack of confusion.
dont try to be over smart.. coz you are not
n last thing i want to tell you.. go into real world and learn how to behave with others
 
 


Well this forum is a small slice of the real world my dear, a very valid fact that clearly you find difficult to adjust to! I come on here as I really enjoy it as well as my job as an actor which if you had bothered to read the introductions you would know!  Do we really need to hear what you "hate" that's rather backward is it not?

You mention being "confused" and that its like a "stack"?  Prey tell do you work shifting hey from a field during the day?  I thought this forum was about DABH not about being unkind and unfriendly!  We are all entitled to our opinions are we not! 

With regards to your "over smart" comment about me I feel that is rather unfair as well!  How could you possibly know what designer clothes I choose to wear anyway? We can all look or sound like farm hands can we mahi!

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Dear that's not how you play cricket is it! Be nice now! Friends?Embarrassed
YEAH but thats how I play cricket with your head.. not with a ballAngry... n i guess thats baseball LOL
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Posted: 26 September 2011 at 6:15pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

I loved reading all the replies here except SOME you know..LOL
I am glad that our Forum has sucha brilliant people who understand and have great POVs about the showEmbarrassed
your answers actually answered some of my questionsTongue
thanks to you allClap.. for being sucha wonderful membersBig smile
 
I dont know what to say about AnkurErmm.. I guess first of all,, everything happened so fast and Ankur was probably not ready and not matured enough to think about what is wrong and what is right.Confused
and i am sure, as other members stated previously, Marriage was not the only option for Ankur.. Cry
he definitely has some relatives and he could have sent Sandhya to their house for 2 years. Smile
 
well.. i hope CVs will get new ideas by reading your wonderful thread TanthyaBig smile
Keep it up dearThumbs Up
 


Please try to make sense! Are all those faces the different personalities you possess or just the confusion you feel reading this topic and of course watching DABH!Tongue
if my posts do not make sense to you then please go to a scientist and buy a new brain
dont bother to reply to my post
it was not meant for you
i seriously hate when people reply to my posts because they dont have anything else to do..
to be honest, you yourself are a stack of confusion.
dont try to be over smart.. coz you are not
n last thing i want to tell you.. go into real world and learn how to behave with others
 
 


Well this forum is a small slice of the real world my dear, a very valid fact that clearly you find difficult to adjust to! I come on here as I really enjoy it as well as my job as an actor which if you had bothered to read the introductions you would know!  Do we really need to hear what you "hate" that's rather backward is it not?

You mention being "confused" and that its like a "stack"?  Prey tell do you work shifting hey from a field during the day?  I thought this forum was about DABH not about being unkind and unfriendly!  We are all entitled to our opinions are we not! 

With regards to your "over smart" comment about me I feel that is rather unfair as well!  How could you possibly know what designer clothes I choose to wear anyway? We can all look or sound like farm hands can we mahi!

Friends Now?Embarrassed
bakwaaas..
chullu bhar paani mein doob kar marja..
dimaag ka pech kas kar aa toh baat karna mujhse
ullu ka patha..
 


Great, so join my fan club then!Big smile


Dear that's not how you play cricket is it! Be nice now! Friends?Embarrassed
YEAH but thats how I play cricket with your head.. not with a ballAngry... n i guess thats baseball LOL


Oh dear there you go again trying to play with my balls! I know im hot and fit!!!! I love you mahi because your more innocent than you realise!! Big smile
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Posted: 26 September 2011 at 9:53pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

Originally posted by Angelbud

Originally posted by _mahi_

I loved reading all the replies here except SOME you know..LOL
I am glad that our Forum has sucha brilliant people who understand and have great POVs about the showEmbarrassed
your answers actually answered some of my questionsTongue
thanks to you allClap.. for being sucha wonderful membersBig smile
 
I dont know what to say about AnkurErmm.. I guess first of all,, everything happened so fast and Ankur was probably not ready and not matured enough to think about what is wrong and what is right.Confused
and i am sure, as other members stated previously, Marriage was not the only option for Ankur.. Cry
he definitely has some relatives and he could have sent Sandhya to their house for 2 years. Smile
 
well.. i hope CVs will get new ideas by reading your wonderful thread TanthyaBig smile
Keep it up dearThumbs Up
 


Please try to make sense! Are all those faces the different personalities you possess or just the confusion you feel reading this topic and of course watching DABH!Tongue
if my posts do not make sense to you then please go to a scientist and buy a new brain
dont bother to reply to my post
it was not meant for you
i seriously hate when people reply to my posts because they dont have anything else to do..
to be honest, you yourself are a stack of confusion.
dont try to be over smart.. coz you are not
n last thing i want to tell you.. go into real world and learn how to behave with others
 
 


Well this forum is a small slice of the real world my dear, a very valid fact that clearly you find difficult to adjust to! I come on here as I really enjoy it as well as my job as an actor which if you had bothered to read the introductions you would know!  Do we really need to hear what you "hate" that's rather backward is it not?

You mention being "confused" and that its like a "stack"?  Prey tell do you work shifting hey from a field during the day?  I thought this forum was about DABH not about being unkind and unfriendly!  We are all entitled to our opinions are we not! 

With regards to your "over smart" comment about me I feel that is rather unfair as well!  How could you possibly know what designer clothes I choose to wear anyway? We can all look or sound like farm hands can we mahi!

Friends Now?Embarrassed
bakwaaas..
chullu bhar paani mein doob kar marja..
dimaag ka pech kas kar aa toh baat karna mujhse
ullu ka patha..
 


Great, so join my fan club then!Big smile


Dear that's not how you play cricket is it! Be nice now! Friends?Embarrassed
YEAH but thats how I play cricket with your head.. not with a ballAngry... n i guess thats baseball LOL


Oh dear there you go again trying to play with my balls! I know im hot and fit!!!! I love you mahi because your more innocent than you realise!! Big smile
SHUT THE EFF UP.. dont make a mistake by forcing me to cross my limits and swear at you.. you nonsense bakra..
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Posted: 27 September 2011 at 4:34am | IP Logged
Originally posted by feeb

i agree both sandhya & ankur's wife have 4got10 ankur's dream. sandhya jsut happily assumed ankur will 4get about his dreams & help her . we have people saying if ankur loved his sis he would forgo his dream, why not the other way round, sandhya knows how imp going to USA is for ankur, she could have tried to convince him to let her stay in hostel or pg or get a job & wait for him to come back from the us ,so help her support her dreams
instead all they had were arguments, she could have convinced her babhi she will manage alone here, pls join my brother since my parents mortaged the house for ur trip. it would have worked out jsut fine, but after all this is a serial


@ Bold,,, that is exactly what is inexplicable..we have not seen her putting up  a passionate defense of her dreams..

and also y'day she will be seen to apologize to her father for not fulfilling her father's dream ..Excuse me... wasn't that supposed to be ur dream ?/ that dialogue of hers ..i am presuming was created to show the mahantha of the heroine , my only question to that  statement is.. what difference does it make to a dead man whether his dream is fulfilled or not whilst it makes a helluva difference to a living man .. since he can feel it ..That [dialogue]  somehow diluted her stance for me..

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Posted: 27 September 2011 at 4:50am | IP Logged
Originally posted by tanthya

Originally posted by feeb

i agree both sandhya & ankur's wife have 4got10 ankur's dream. sandhya jsut happily assumed ankur will 4get about his dreams & help her . we have people saying if ankur loved his sis he would forgo his dream, why not the other way round, sandhya knows how imp going to USA is for ankur, she could have tried to convince him to let her stay in hostel or pg or get a job & wait for him to come back from the us ,so help her support her dreams
instead all they had were arguments, she could have convinced her babhi she will manage alone here, pls join my brother since my parents mortaged the house for ur trip. it would have worked out jsut fine, but after all this is a serial


@ Bold,,, that is exactly what is inexplicable..we have not seen her putting up  a passionate defense of her dreams..

and also y'day she will be seen to apologize to her father for not fulfilling her father's dream ..Excuse me... wasn't that supposed to be ur dream ?/ that dialogue of hers ..i am presuming was created to show the mahantha of the heroine , my only question to that  statement is.. what difference does it make to a dead man whether his dream is fulfilled or not whilst it makes a helluva difference to a living man .. since he can feel it ..That [dialogue]  somehow diluted her stance for me..
 
Tanthya, I do not think so.  Children express their wish to the parents that they want to become this or that and they do forget too.  But when parents feel their child's wish is genuine, they nourish it, then the child is encouraged and its wish is transformed to an ambition.  So, it is the dream of both parents and child.
 
Regarding her not putting up passionate defense of her dreams, she is still young and just recently lost both her parents.  When a sibling 5-6 years elder to her is confused and leaving things to take their own course (he did not take his own decision in case of marriage to Suraj, he just let Kisna speak all those lies), then how can we expect Sandhya to defend her standpoint, at least she should have been given some more time.

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Posted: 27 September 2011 at 5:23am | IP Logged
Originally posted by poppy2009

Revathy has always been a dear favorite of mine! She has such an expressive face! Have you seen her directorial debut? Mitra, my friend! Another gem of a movie!
 
On another note, I will be away for about a week or so! (Travelling to IndiaDancing) So will be missing DABH, the show and the forum!
 
C you guys!Smile


Bon Voyage, Dear ..

 Enjoy urself ...Big smile
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Posted: 27 September 2011 at 5:27am | IP Logged
Originally posted by b2011

Originally posted by tanthya

Originally posted by feeb

i agree both sandhya & ankur's wife have 4got10 ankur's dream. sandhya jsut happily assumed ankur will 4get about his dreams & help her . we have people saying if ankur loved his sis he would forgo his dream, why not the other way round, sandhya knows how imp going to USA is for ankur, she could have tried to convince him to let her stay in hostel or pg or get a job & wait for him to come back from the us ,so help her support her dreams
instead all they had were arguments, she could have convinced her babhi she will manage alone here, pls join my brother since my parents mortaged the house for ur trip. it would have worked out jsut fine, but after all this is a serial


@ Bold,,, that is exactly what is inexplicable..we have not seen her putting up  a passionate defense of her dreams..

and also y'day she will be seen to apologize to her father for not fulfilling her father's dream ..Excuse me... wasn't that supposed to be ur dream ?/ that dialogue of hers ..i am presuming was created to show the mahantha of the heroine , my only question to that  statement is.. what difference does it make to a dead man whether his dream is fulfilled or not whilst it makes a helluva difference to a living man .. since he can feel it ..That [dialogue]  somehow diluted her stance for me..
 
Tanthya, I do not think so.  Children express their wish to the parents that they want to become this or that and they do forget too.  But when parents feel their child's wish is genuine, they nourish it, then the child is encouraged and its wish is transformed to an ambition.  So, it is the dream of both parents and child.
 
Regarding her not putting up passionate defense of her dreams, she is still young and just recently lost both her parents.  When a sibling 5-6 years elder to her is confused and leaving things to take their own course (he did not take his own decision in case of marriage to Suraj, he just let Kisna speak all those lies), then how can we expect Sandhya to defend her standpoint, at least she should have been given some more time.



Bharathi,

Agree with u that  she has lost her parents , but that must actually spur her to fulfill their dreams ..The desire, the need will increase  rather than weaken ..it will almost reach a frenzied level for a girl like Sandhya who dreamt about it in her dreams too ...Here she has just folded like a pack of cards which somehow undermines her obsession ...Notice the difference between ankur and Sandhya..both have lost their parents, in addition he is also battling a guilty conscience but  nothing is stopping him in achieving his goal ..It was that sort of determination one expects from a strong willed girl ..Big smile

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