Posted: 26 September 2011 at 7:23am | IP Logged
Originally posted by crazyfairy
Originally posted by tanthya
Originally posted by crazyfairy
Ankur has complete right to fulfil his dream. But overlooking his sister's needs just because she is vulnerable? Certainly not.
It is his responsibility to look after his sister's dreams.
Hurrying to marry her off so that he can go to the U.S.? That is plainly SELFISH and cannot be forgiven.
Another things, many Indians are too overwhelmed by the west but the truth is India is nowhere behind as far as quality of jobs and stuff are concerned...
Similarly Sandhya has no right to be a roadblock to his ambition ... As i mentioned in the initial post..there is a way in which both can fulfill their ambition ...
I do not think he is overlooking,,,He is trying to do the best he can in the given time ... despiet her goal the ultimate thing is Sandhya will get married, his thinking is , she is going to get married anyhow so why not now ??
It is his responsibility to look after his sister, Crazyfairy and he is doing it to the best of his abilities
Absolutely agree, the decision of marriage is hasty and is unacceptable ..
Dear India leads in IT ..I know that and lots of youngsters are now opting to stay over here itself..but in small towns and rural areas US is the proverbial El Dorado
You have put forward your points really well, though we do not seem to agree totally.
Sandhya never demnded her brother to give up his dream but she can rightfully expect him to be a responsible guardian as she is not yet financially independant.
Why is it that Ankur thinks that marriage is the primary concern for his sister's future?
He as a brother should believe in her and encourage her.
It is so bad of him to marry off her in 15 days and leave for U.S. What if the family is not good? What if Sandhya needs him?
There is never any compulsion to agree with one another, Crazyfairy..we each can be right when viewed from our own POV or we might shed some new lights or force one another to see from a different angle..that is the beauty of the forum..It allows us to discuss various points
No, dear ..it is not the question of demands..it is the question of duty .. The duty of an elder brother is to see that his sister's future is settled and that she has a companion who will love her, cherish her, protect her for life ...And Ankur was discharging that ..he was not bothered about his sisters dreams , for in the final tally, the society will not judge him on his fulfilling her whimsical dream but rather whether he made an effort to find an able partner and set her own home ..Remember he is from a small town , has conservative ideas and is from a conservative background..So his thoughts and actions when viewed from his POV is correct ...
That is the issue here, Crazyfairy..he does not believe her dreams !!
That is the reason he went to the same family cos he knew that family..he went thru the brokers when that alliance fell thru ..I do not think he is in the mind frame to think of the longer consequence..right now he has one agenda to go to US and He sees one obstacle ..Sandhay..His only thought is how to remove the obstacle ..