Originally posted by crazyfairy
Hi Tanthya!π
You have put forward your points really well, though we do not seem to agree totally.
Sandhya never demnded her brother to give up his dream but she can rightfully expect him to be a responsible guardian as she is not yet financially independant.
Why is it that Ankur thinks that marriage is the primary concern for his sister's future?
He as a brother should believe in her and encourage her.
It is so bad of him to marry off her in 15 days and leave for U.S. What if the family is not good? What if Sandhya needs him?
There is never any compulsion to agree with one another, Crazyfairy..we each can be right when viewed from our own POV or we might shed some new lights or force one another to see from a different angle..that is the beauty of the forum..It allows us to discuss various points π
No, dear ..it is not the question of demands..it is the question of duty .. The duty of an elder brother is to see that his sister's future is settled and that she has a companion who will love her, cherish her, protect her for life ...And Ankur was discharging that ..he was not bothered about his sisters dreams , for in the final tally, the society will not judge him on his fulfilling her whimsical dream but rather whether he made an effort to find an able partner and set her own home ..Remember he is from a small town , has conservative ideas and is from a conservative background..So his thoughts and actions when viewed from his POV is correct ...
That is the issue here, Crazyfairy..he does not believe her dreams !!
That is the reason he went to the same family cos he knew that family..he went thru the brokers when that alliance fell thru ..I do not think he is in the mind frame to think of the longer consequence..right now he has one agenda to go to US and He sees one obstacle ..Sandhay..His only thought is how to remove the obstacle ..