Originally posted by Relda
What the hell.. I will throw in my 2 cents
too.
Most Indians who repatriate back to India
are individuals who have gone to USA for studies or jobs. Most of their
families live in India, they have strong social and community ties with India
and their roots are firmly entrenched with their country of birth. First
generation Indians in USA who have a cursory and tenuous connection with
India and who have spent their entire lives with the culture, conventions and
mores of American society rarely move back to India ' it is not just
conventionally a feasible action for them.
Madhuri's husband is a first generation
American.. someone who I've read had never watched a Hindi movie or was even
aware of Madhuri as a Bollywood superstar before his marriage. Are you guys
seriously suggesting that a person like that, after spending more than half
their lives in USA would suddenly embrace the idea of moving back to an alien
country, just because his wife is missing the arc-lights? And please..
top-notch oncologists are hardly scarred by recession. People still get cancers
and need treatment at every kind of economic conditions.
So, I find nothing wrong with the
assumption that Madhuri is probably
moving back on her own.. which automatically begets the second assumption that
her marriage is on the rocks.
Have a friend whose daughter married a first generation American. He was given a really nice project in India by a company he worked for in the US. She has really affluent and supporting parents here. So they both came back to give India a try. They stayed here for five years, she had both her babies here, and then he said "enough"- the project was good but I think I am happier back home - so they all headed right back and have re-settled just as happily back in the US. A large portion of the success when here was because the influential parents smoothed out a lot of their settling in problems - something which Madhuri and her connections can do for her husband.
He is a cardiologist - we have more fat and unhealthy Indians out here. The good doctor can make good money here as well. Madhuri would not give up her hard won marriage and kids for anybody. And if the marriage was on the rocks, he would not let her move back - custody rights on the kids allow him to veto travel abroad.
Perhaps their marriage is strong enough and her influence strong enough that they think that a few years here for their kids would only strengthen the kids values and culture. She is a recent immigrant with really strong ties - I think he just wants to check things out. He is younger than she is and perhaps does not have a settled practice yet. I bet that they have done the math.
Edited by jjairam - 12 years ago