Posted: 16 September 2011 at 10:09pm | IP Logged
hmmm... legitimate topic.. lemme put it logically..
when D married.. She KNEW what not to expect from VV.. LOVE.. she was TOLD SO.. yet she did it for BBs sake.. I think everyone concurs on this..
Through her small journey with V she came to love him.. and who wouldn't.. he had once been her friend, philosopher and guide.. and once in love she started building some dreams.. had some hope that maybe he would be willing to give her a chance.. them a chance.. and hence she wrote the letter.. I have some dreams, some expectations from this marriage.. besides the compromise.. but if you DONT THINK SO.. then I will NEVER WANT TO LOSE your friendship and remain your wife socially but be your friend forever..
So WHAT CHANGED.. She found out.. WHO the past was.. and that She had no HOPE.. 2 very strong realization.. and the BIGGEST ONE.. The WHO-Sabina STILL loved him.. now break it up.. one you have given out.. the hope one.. she saw none.. fair ENOUGH.. now the WHO.. had it been someone she did not know... She wouldnt or couldn't have made a call like that.. but this was Sabina-ji.. someone she came to admire and love too.. and thirdly Sabina-Ji LOVED him too.. STILL DID..
Now.. She signed the papers.. but was it FOR HERSELF.. had reason 1 and 3 been different and if she had still divorced it would have been so.. but now it WASN'T.. the decision was made for VV and sabina.. as much as herself or maybe more for them.. when one makes a decision for herself its a stronger statement.. compare and contrast.. CP made a decision for herself.. LEAVE her domesticity.. did she look back.. at her 3 yr old daughter.. NOPE.. coz the decision as hard and rough it may be was for her peace.. now compare to D.. She still hasn't left.. is imposing her views.. waiting for Sabina to come back..
So in my mind its pretty established the decision was made much more for VS than just for herself.. She is used to do things for others.. She married for BB.. now is breaking the marriage for VS.. If she wanted to break free.. she wld have left long back.. disaccossiated with the family.. She told IMV ye ek adhoorey insaan ko jodne ki koshish hain.. so its meant for VV.. she loves him but cant see him in pain..understood..
Now.. If she made the decision for others.. V stands first in her priority.. granted.. but do BB, IMV, Charu.. everyone stand behind Sabina and VS in her priority list.. what they want.. how can she impose herself on them.. presume BB wont lose health over it..
Now coming to IMV.. he too has loved.. but knows that in spite of not being in love a marriage can linger and well enough in his standards of social codes.. he puts his empire, his legacy as a priority.. just as D is putting VS.. if she is right and doesnt wanna think of IMV.. why should he think about her priority.. which is NOT EVEN HERSELF..if her priority was herself.. she wld be thinking what next for herself.. IMV has asked her tht505373 times.. what will u do.. what will bb say.. where will u go.. wat abt yer business.. has she tht of any of that..in fact in his scheme of things.. D falls into a priority.. as she is CPs daughter.. and his bahu.. much more than D thinks for herself..
much as I understand about what you are saying that its tough to be in a loveless marriage.. D had prepared herself for it.. the day she did decide to marry... and if seen.. now its ever better coz she loves him.. her love cld be enough for both of them.. but nope only coz she wants Sabina and Vs love to be fulfilled she is doing such..
Lastly Sabina has less of a scope in this story.. coz she is NOT CPs daughter.. she hardly has any connection to IMV.. and Ds connect with IMV is stronger.. so D aint going anywhr from Virani household... with or without VV.. he either comes around or dies.. I see no possibility of a VS.. and if you have seen this show from the beg.. you will see.. NO ONE HAS LIVED WITH THEIR LOVE..
thats the whole theme.. Life is bigger than human desires.. and we work around it..