@mini..Totally!! Putting live-in & wedlock at par dilutes the sanctity of marraige.There is no status called as 'almost married'.There cannot be any ad hocism in a contract like marraige. If its easty to change one partner for another,where's the incentve to develop a staying power in a relationship.The debate can never end, Live-in is easy to establish for many reasons , a strong one is physical pleasure without any commitments,space,choice,personal responsibility does not legally commit and dissolve easily if not smoothly. The pros and cons of both arrangements have always been before us, it is just that we do not fear the consequences any more. For those who believe it's a cultural violation it would never gain respect and for those who are moving with the times, "It is part of life and it's ever changing face!!" Like it's said, "Nothing is right or wrong: Thinking makes it so", if you feel you can't handle the responsibility, the apparent monotonous tone of married life and you need space, freedom, you may live-in; you might not be welcome but you won't be renounced either. And the debate of which is a better deal, still continues. I am a woman of old thoughts many may say, still believe in the sanctity of marraige.And love the commitment , enjoy the stability and adore the responsibility.Originally posted by: minimuffin86Great post and awesome POVs by every body!!! I just wanted to add one teensy weensy thing though:
The show is called Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon? And Shyam has given his relationship with Anjali a name which is socially accepted and approved by every body and has it's rights and obligations outlined for every one to know. This makes Shyams obsession with another woman with whom he has a relationship if a friend (a very grey relationship with no specific outlines) is unacceptable.
Arnav on the other hand not only doesn't recognize any other relationship other than his sisters as important he doesn't want to name it to make it important or inconvenient for his life style. Therefore it is easier for us to see him falling for some one other than La (as sad as that is for her) because they have a relationship which the law doesn't recognize and isn't binding nor does it have any clear outlines.
What I'm trying to say is if u don't give ur relationship a name it is easy to get out of and people to question and Judge u by it. But if u take the big step of giving it a name u are taking on the responsibility to be answerable for that relationship and everything u do with it. It's like u have a bas***d child and if u don't name him u have no obligation to him buy if u take the hard step of doing so u will always be responsible for him... Am I making any sense???
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