Naitik not my ideal hubby... - Page 4

Yeh ideal kya hota hai?😕 I have heard so much about this, ideal bahu, beti, pati, patni, jo bhi...🤔 Is there anyone ideal?😲 It's like the saying beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Similarly, what some may find ideal others may not. It's individual perception. What may be perfect for me may not be to others.

 

Akshara may think Naitik is an ideal husband but there are many here who think otherwise. An independent girl would find Naitik too clingy, immature, vagera, vagera...😆 But he is perfect for Akshara. Akshara is not independent; she needs someone like Naitik to take care of her & he does that beautifully most of that time. Yes, he has his off days but don't we all? 😕

 

We all beg the CV's to show something realistic. Is ideal pati ya ideal koyi bhi realistic? Everyone is flawed; Naitik is too😉 It's his flaws that make him a colorful personality. If he were ideal, he would be🥱 Like the guy Rashmi rejected, he was perfect & that is what she didn't like about him😆 Some here thought Rashmi was crazy but she is happy w/Nikhil & she thinks Nikhil is her ideal guy.  Isn't that what matters?

Person you thought was ideal may seem less than ideal few years after marriage...🤣 Tho kya usse chodke jao & go after the mysterious ideal man?😆 Nahi, you try to work around it & make it pleasant for both of you😃 The bottom line is, drama needs colorful personalities otherwise we wouldn't be watching it. So from time to time every character is shown to be less than ideal.

Edited by --Sari-- - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: --Sari--

Yeh ideal kya hota hai?😕 I have heard so much about this, ideal bahu, beti, pati, patni, jo bhi...🤔 Is there anyone ideal?😲 It's like the saying beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Similarly, what some may find ideal others may not. It's individual perception. What may be perfect for me may not be to others.

 

Akshara may think Naitik is an ideal husband but there are many here who think otherwise. An independent girl would find Naitik too clingy, immature, vagera, vagera...😆 But he is perfect for Akshara. Akshara is not independent; she needs someone like Naitik to take care of her & he does that beautifully most of that time. Yes, he has his off days but don't we all? 😕

 

We all beg the CV's to show something realistic. Is ideal pati ya ideal koyi bhi realistic? Everyone is flawed; Naitik is too😉 It's his flaws that make him a colorful personality. If he were ideal, he would be🥱 Like the guy Rashmi rejected, he was perfect & that is what she didn't like about him😆 Some here thought Rashmi was crazy but she is happy w/Nikhil & she thinks Nikhil is her ideal guy.  Isn't that what matters?

Person you thought was ideal may seem less than ideal few years after marriage...🤣 Tho kya usse chodke jao & go after the mysterious ideal man?😆 Nahi, you try to work around it & make it pleasant for both of you😃 The bottom line is, drama needs colorful personalities otherwise we wouldn't be watching it. So from time to time every character is shown to be less than ideal.

Edited by Snehabr - 12 years ago

I am a silent reader here but have watched the show for a long time.

Yes. No one is ideal and everyones perception of what's ideal is different. IMO Naitik is extremely needy. Like most Mama's boys he expects his wife to replace the role of his mother in babying him.

All preferences aside;

Think about it. In the Indian community, When a girl gets married, she becomes responsible for the happiness of an entire family not just her spouse. Juggling between inlaws, extended family and hubby is not the easiest task in the world. There are so many egos to tip toe around. It is obvious that in a conflict situation, she would expect maximum understanding from her spouse not the rest. The husband needs to understand this delicate balance that his wife has to constantly strive for and uphold.

Secondly, think about Rajshri's role here. She is the mother of the bride. She has boundaries and limitations. Obviously she will be extra careful with her daughter or else BM and G3 will be the first to taunt her. Remember BM's expressions when she heard that Rajshri allowed Naksh to go out. Rajshri has been very aware that it is not her house but her daughter's sasural. She did not go there willingly, she was asked. Secondly, she asked Akshara several times to get hold of Naitik to see if he could still make it to the doc appointment. If Naitik was such an ideal husband I stead of sulking and pouting and thinking ME ME ME, he should have already been aware of Akshara's impending appointment. Instead of checking the Internet about pregnancy, he should pay interest in when the next appointment is.

Akshara called him so many times when he was out with friends, he refused her calls. She tried so many times, with different methods before and during the doc appointment, he refused calls and when he did answer, he refused to listen. An ideal husband would have checked with his secretary and checked his phone for missed calls before jumping to conclusions.

THEY suffered a MISCARRIAGE for God's sake. Why on earth would you ignore your wife's call when she's pregnant? What's even more astounding is that he still thinks he is justified in his actions because his MIL is getting all the attention not him. He does not see how wrong he was in ignoring her calls when she was arrested. Is that an Ideal Husband? Btw, I am married to a very normal, not IDEAL man and if he refused my calls because he was sulking then we would definitely have a problem.

Naitik is lucky, this time when he refused Akshara's calls, she was just arrested, not lying in some ditch, bleeding to death.

he is not ideal husband for u and akshara...but for me he is...akshsara dont deserve naitiks love

Lol. Well Simran, he is a fictional character, but hey each to his own. Why don't you marry him? 🤣

Originally posted by: parri814

I am a silent reader here but have watched the show for a long time.

Yes. No one is ideal and everyones perception of what's ideal is different. IMO Naitik is extremely needy. Like most Mama's boys he expects his wife to replace the role of his mother in babying him.

All preferences aside;

Think about it. In the Indian community, When a girl gets married, she becomes responsible for the happiness of an entire family not just her spouse. Juggling between inlaws, extended family and hubby is not the easiest task in the world. There are so many egos to tip toe around. It is obvious that in a conflict situation, she would expect maximum understanding from her spouse not the rest. The husband needs to understand this delicate balance that his wife has to constantly strive for and uphold.

Secondly, think about Rajshri's role here. She is the mother of the bride. She has boundaries and limitations. Obviously she will be extra careful with her daughter or else BM and G3 will be the first to taunt her. Remember BM's expressions when she heard that Rajshri allowed Naksh to go out. Rajshri has been very aware that it is not her house but her daughter's sasural. She did not go there willingly, she was asked. Secondly, she asked Akshara several times to get hold of Naitik to see if he could still make it to the doc appointment. If Naitik was such an ideal husband I stead of sulking and pouting and thinking ME ME ME, he should have already been aware of Akshara's impending appointment. Instead of checking the Internet about pregnancy, he should pay interest in when the next appointment is.

Akshara called him so many times when he was out with friends, he refused her calls. She tried so many times, with different methods before and during the doc appointment, he refused calls and when he did answer, he refused to listen. An ideal husband would have checked with his secretary and checked his phone for missed calls before jumping to conclusions.

THEY suffered a MISCARRIAGE for God's sake. Why on earth would you ignore your wife's call when she's pregnant? What's even more astounding is that he still thinks he is justified in his actions because his MIL is getting all the attention not him. He does not see how wrong he was in ignoring her calls when she was arrested. Is that an Ideal Husband? Btw, I am married to a very normal, not IDEAL man and if he refused my calls because he was sulking then we would definitely have a problem.

Naitik is lucky, this time when he refused Akshara's calls, she was just arrested, not lying in some ditch, bleeding to death.

But the thing is no one's claiming Akshara is the ideal wife na.

Yes she has to prioritize. But she does not ignore Naitik all the time.

There have been episodes where all we hear is Naitik shouting Akshara, Akshara, Akshara and she is seen running around trying to meet his needs and HIS family's needs.

About BLAMING the husband all the time. I did say that in a possible conflict situation involving extended family (hers or his) she looks to him as her spouse for maximum UNDERSTANDING. If she really was the blaming type she would give him tit for tat everytime they had an argument and not kept silent or failed at explaining.

Yes a father wants to be part of the pregnancy, sonography included. But Naitik was not available. She even Told him to get to the sonography appointment when she finally got hold of him but he was too angry to listen. He refused to join her saying it's fine because she has her mum with her. Is that how much he wanted to be part of the pregnancy that he can't swallow his pride and join her?

Her mother is nit interfering in her sasural and husband matters, she is just caught in the middle by a sequence of events beyond her control. Rajshri did not insist on going with Akshara to the doc. BM insisted. When Naitik's phone was switched off, what should Rajshri have done, let Akshara go alone???

I am not a fan of Rajshri. She is too anxious all the time for my liking. Just stating my observations.

Again, I do agree Akshara can prioritize and learn to say no to others. She tries to much to be a people pleaser.

Originally posted by: parri814

Lol. Well Simran, he is a fictional character, but hey each to his own. Why don't you marry him? 🤣

Originally posted by: parri814

But the thing is no one's claiming Akshara is the ideal wife na.

Yes she has to prioritize. But she does not ignore Naitik all the time.

There have been episodes where all we hear is Naitik shouting Akshara, Akshara, Akshara and she is seen running around trying to meet his needs and HIS family's needs.

About BLAMING the husband all the time. I did say that in a possible conflict situation involving extended family (hers or his) she looks to him as her spouse for maximum UNDERSTANDING. If she really was the blaming type she would give him tit for tat everytime they had an argument and not kept silent or failed at explaining.

Yes a father wants to be part of the pregnancy, sonography included. But Naitik was not available. She even Told him to get to the sonography appointment when she finally got hold of him but he was too angry to listen. He refused to join her saying it's fine because she has her mum with her. Is that how much he wanted to be part of the pregnancy that he can't swallow his pride and join her?

Her mother is nit interfering in her sasural and husband matters, she is just caught in the middle by a sequence of events beyond her control. Rajshri did not insist on going with Akshara to the doc. BM insisted. When Naitik's phone was switched off, what should Rajshri have done, let Akshara go alone???

I am not a fan of Rajshri. She is too anxious all the time for my liking. Just stating my observations.

Again, I do agree Akshara can prioritize and learn to say no to others. She tries to much to be a people pleaser.

Edited by _charu_ - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: parri814

But the thing is no one's claiming Akshara is the ideal wife na.

Yes she has to prioritize. But she does not ignore Naitik all the time.

There have been episodes where all we hear is Naitik shouting Akshara, Akshara, Akshara and she is seen running around trying to meet his needs and HIS family's needs.

About BLAMING the husband all the time. I did say that in a possible conflict situation involving extended family (hers or his) she looks to him as her spouse for maximum UNDERSTANDING. If she really was the blaming type she would give him tit for tat everytime they had an argument and not kept silent or failed at explaining.

Yes a father wants to be part of the pregnancy, sonography included. But Naitik was not available. She even Told him to get to the sonography appointment when she finally got hold of him but he was too angry to listen. He refused to join her saying it's fine because she has her mum with her. Is that how much he wanted to be part of the pregnancy that he can't swallow his pride and join her?

Her mother is nit interfering in her sasural and husband matters, she is just caught in the middle by a sequence of events beyond her control. Rajshri did not insist on going with Akshara to the doc. BM insisted. When Naitik's phone was switched off, what should Rajshri have done, let Akshara go alone???

I am not a fan of Rajshri. She is too anxious all the time for my liking. Just stating my observations.

Again, I do agree Akshara can prioritize and learn to say no to others. She tries to much to be a people pleaser.