@Parri
Please it is not just about Suchi only. It's also about remarks on understanding, background, being not in touch with reality, or taking into account condition of poor people, psyche etc. That one statement by Suchi was used by Anjani only as an example!
Look at Tanvi also! She cannot take even counter arguments. But she commented about my lack of understanding of psychology of women and apathy towards condition of poor people.
I did not name her, else she also comes in and takes it as a war! So I gave an example of nature of posts but did NOT name anyone.
If I feel bad about personal talks about her age-group. I also say she is also indulging in it.
There was one member who seemed new, he/she instantly ''derived'' the meaning that Anandi is being called gawar - even though I had only talked about negative portrayal of educated girls or urban city people. I had not mentioned Anandi anywhere in it. Still I got this stuff about having mentality of underestimating rural area people!
Similarly in past, some other less active and new members have talked about personal-sounding stuff (not just for me, but in general) - about understanding, experience, age, education, environment or background of a person etc. - and all such assumptions related to a person just on the basis of his post!
Counter arguments - but making personal assumptions is no way of countering arguments! Or is it? If it is, then let me know that it is and I need not feel anything wrong in it, nor does anyone else!
She and I have stated many times about several like examples being there.
When did I say there are cliques? I only asked even in initial post - that are we always supposed to be under labels of either a fan or hater? That is because strong and extreme responses make it seem so! A discussion about portrayal of social reform, is taken as an attack on Anandi, same case if a discussion on medical profession is taken as an attack on Gauri! So I sought answers to get more clarity!
About the post you quoted -
I responded earlier, and I tell now - I don't expect everyone to make their separate threads or let fans of a particular character do whatever they want. Counter threads are OKAY! I did say that! But I do have problems mainly with indirect referencing and snide comments in other general threads.
It is also gets strange when counter threads are made in case of one person but not the other. I am sorry, I may have been wrong in feeling like this - but that is what I asked Suchi, why no counter threads in reaction to Vasuja's funny thread? But a quick counter thread when I or Tinoo post?
That is what I ask! At least when GAGA fans make counter threads - they make them to counter a view and don't make any discrimination between members. They will regularly counter anyone and they also openly declare they made it to counter other thread! Even if they report someone, they openly declare they did it! That openness leaves no room for any feeling of misunderstanding at least.
You say you or Antara did not trivialise it. Sorry to say, it does look like trivialising only, if whole responses are based on a small thing called like button!
If you want to refute the questions, will you deliberately flare up petty issues to defeat the topic and make it look like a petty personal war thread?
Why are you only asking questions to me? Please, it is not about me or what I want!
I had created the thread to learn what everyone (all not just you or Anandi fans!) wants!! I am being interrogated as if I need to spell out what I want in each aspect!
About the intent of the topic or my reasons for not taking names, please see this part of my response to Antara:
It is not like I have never directly talked to people. I have done it, not just with Suchi but other members too. But I did not have the energy to clarify myself or take ''such'' posts regularly. So I thought of creating a generic topic, to have a wholesome discussion on what is acceptable or what is not, so that such situations never arise or at least reduce in future!
Why just Suchi? I created this topic, and deliberately did not mention names or quote posts because I wanted to get feedback and honest discussion from all fans - even GAGA ones! And finally reduce or put an end to such underhanded stuff, later members taking it up with other members and others simply saying they did not mean this or did not mean that or that they got emotional out of favouritism.
The reaction to a post about Anandi in a funny thread was about Khusi - she (and I guess one other member too..don't remember the id) had told me to go a bit easy on her. I appreciate that she opened up in this thread and replied honestly about her feelings, without taking it some other way or doubting my intention.
There's some more too. But I am MORE INTERESTED in talking about the underlying issue, rather than making it a war or complaints between certain people! And as far as I know, EVERYONE knows what the issue is! I have strove to talk only about the issue in each post in this thread. Not due to double standards but due to an issue which does pervade the forum and could do with some reduction or complete end!
So don't think of me doing the same thing which I am seeking a solution to resolve.
I am sorry if I was unable to convey the intent of the topic and seemed like preaching what I do not practise, but honestly that is not what I had intended to do.
It is not supposed to be a personal vengeance thread - I never made it with such an intent.
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I admit with bowed head and folded hands that I do not intend to fight or take it any further. I have realised I should not have created such a topic in the first place itself! I have also realised it would be useless on my part to repeat same things again and again.
Such, or any post from my side, shall not happen again in the forums. Sorry for bothering. I HONESTLY QUIT.
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