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loveneha_r Goldie
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Posted: 24 February 2005 at 5:59pm | IP Logged

Hi Princess...

i never had idea u went through so much pain..but pls believe that God is not mean to you..just believe in him and pray for things to be alrite. I will also pray for u... just wait and watch things will get better!! we all love you here at IF...as kfan said u are OUR PRINCESS!!!

 



Edited by loveneha_r - 24 February 2005 at 6:03pm

Princess IF-Veteran Member
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Posted: 24 February 2005 at 10:03pm | IP Logged

Hey guys,

Thank You all for your support. You don't know how much this means to me. It's not that i don't have any hopes. Something inside me is always telling me that i will walk 1 day. But then there are sooooooo many problems i have to deal and those problmes upsets me sometime.

But i'm doing a lot of things, to make life eaiser for other people with disabilties. I wrote letters to newspapers, i did a documantry, i was in the newpaper and i do advocacy for people with disabilties through City Hall. I do as many things as i can to get noticed so that people can change the way they think about people with disabilities.

Once agian, Thank you guys, your support means a lot to me and thanks to all those who sent me PM's.

Love u allSmile

 

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Posted: 24 February 2005 at 10:23pm | IP Logged

Hi Princess...wow i never knew anything like that would happen to a princess lke u, u are a princess and u will always be...u are a great human inside and out and nothing can ever change that, i have seen many people woth disibilities, as i watch people make fun of them i watch them performing a great life and having a blast in there life....i see them as the best people that live in this world....just because u have disabilities does not change the way u live and the way u are...Princess u are a great person in anyway! Good Job with all those letters!Smile

*Priya*

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Posted: 25 February 2005 at 12:05am | IP Logged

hey princess, i m lost of words, after reading ur post, all i can say is, u r the most  praise worthy person on this forumThumbs Up, u have a real swt heart, just like in ur avtar. u r so special, dnt think dat u hav a disability, i can bet on it that u have more talents than any1 of us in this forum. like every1 has said, we all love yaHug, u r a real princess Clap

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Posted: 25 February 2005 at 1:58am | IP Logged

 

  Dearest princess...,

                                      I never thought that you are like this,   you came across to me as a nice, warm, caring person to me,  and we all like you so much... I dont know what to tell u, but i think u are a great girl. And never say God is mean..He's not, from my small experience. I hope God talks to u real soon, and princess, i'll pray for you, and count me as u'r friend..

                                                            Love, sanya.

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Posted: 25 February 2005 at 2:17am | IP Logged
 Oh princess,that is such a wonderful thing you are doing.You really are a princess.Smile
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Posted: 01 March 2005 at 10:05am | IP Logged
Dear Princess,

I can see how you've been inundated with love, good wishes, promises of everlasting friendship, sympathy, advice and much more upon your deep confession. I know I'm late, but something about your post disturbed me and has been churning around in my mind for a few days now.

I wish I could say I understand what it's like to be physically disabled. But I don't. I wish I could say that I'm aware of your ordeal, the everyday trials and tribulations, the constant reminders of your limitations. But I'm not.

What really bothers me is that you honestly believe yourself a good candidate for mercy killing!!!!

Let me tell you about my sister. When she was 18 ...my pretty, outgoing, academically proficient and ambitious sister ... right after gaining admission into a prestigious med school, was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. Fyi, RA is incurable, causes acute inflammation and disfigurement of the bones and joints, is more painful than anything you can imagine, and capable of reducing a human being to a vegetable within the span of a few months. The only way to survive it, is to live out every day in the hope that you will go into remission, and hopefully stay there all your life. My sister spent those agonizing days with full-blown RA in her hostel 2,000 kms from home, trying to get past the excruciating pain and concentrate on her studies. There were days when she popped 10 pain-killers a day and yet couldn't move a leg to stand up and walk to class. Days when she would go into the bathroom to have a bath and start sobbing inside because she couldn't turn the doorknob to open the door. Days when she couldn't hold a pen to write her exams and despite being a bright student, had to suffer the ignominy of asking for extra time, with someone else writing for her while she dictated. Days when the pressure of studies was so intense, yet she couldn't study while the rest of them were cramming throughout the night because her senses were focused so relentlessly on the savage pain, she was only dimly aware of the outside reality. No doctor was willing to guarantee a recovery. Don't you think that by these standards, she was an excellent candidate for euthanasia as well??

Inspite of the odds, my sister passed 5.5 years of med school with flying colors and went on to complete her Master's. Today, she is in remission. She has some deformed bones, like in her wrist, which means she cannot lift up and play with her own baby the way 'normal' mothers do. She has a husband who fell in love with her and has supported her unconditionally. She has authored several papers in international journals and is at the forefront of thalassaemia research in India. Yet she still has trouble doing simple tasks like wearing her clothes and fixing her hair. Her life's not perfect, but then who's is?

She could have, all those years ago, just thrown up her hands and died. She was a doctor - she knew that she only had to inject herself once (or request another close doctor friend to inject her) with XYZ chemicals and it would all be over in a few minutes.

Princess, disability or no disability, life is a struggle. The nature of the human spirit is such that it can triumph over all odds, if you teach it how.

I do not know how much physical pain you have to endure everyday. But you are causing yourself great mental distress, restlessness and pain by being afraid. Imho, the worst state of human consciousness is when it's mired in indecision. What's worse Princess - the fear of living, or the fear of dying? Obviously, the fear of dying, or you wouldn't still be alive. And the fear of dying is very healthy, because it shows that your instinct for self-preservation is intact, which is very important for survival and progress.

Why don't you take a decision about what to do with your life? Standing at the edge of a cliff can't be fun. Jump. Jump if you have the guts, if you feel there really is nothing to live for. Or go home, and celebrate the joy and beauty of being alive. Give up or buck up, it's as simple as that. And once you take your decision, stick to it!!!

It's wonderful how many people you have been trying to help out by engaging in community interaction. It's equally amazing how these sessions havn't seemed to help you get over your feelings of resentment and anger. Remember, your first loyalty and responsibility is towards yourself. It's time to do what helps YOU. Forgive me for shooting off my mouth but I don't know where you got the strange idea that being able to walk again will miraculously make life worth living, will make your body and spirit whole again. The concept of being 'whole' differs from person to person. If this is the way God has made you, then you are, by every means, 'whole'.

There are people in this world who are healthy in every way and yet their cup of worries overfloweth. Yes, walking again might mean you could join the football team and sashay down the ramp in tight jeans and be the cynosure of all eyes. It might mean the cute guy at the next table will give you the once-over and ask you out like he would any 'normal' girl. How important are these things to you? If you want to live beyond the realm of the superficial, then start thinking beyond it too.

It's easy to invoke sympathy and a lot harder to invoke respect. If I were you (I'm not you, I can never be anyone else but me, but assuming for a few seconds that I were...) I'd be trying my hardest to take control of my life in every way. I'd do things to make sure no one could ever talk down to me... maybe I'd find something in this world that would interest me so much that I'd master it. Could be anything - but I'd know so much about it that I could blow your socks off. Most importantly, it would make me HAPPY. I'd harness the power of the Internet to read stories about people like me. Join a support group. Talk about my feelings with people who CAN put themselves in your shoes, and thereby give you hope. I'd find out whatever there is to know about alternative medicine, such as Naturopathy and Reiki and present my parents with a case on why I should be visiting such healers. I'd dream big and think bigger. Even if I all I aspire to is an ordinary life and not any form of greatness, I'd make sure it's a life well-lived.

Princess, one thing that always comes across in your posts is your gentle sweetness. No doubt those are virtues, but anything in abundance can become an impediment in your path to personal growth. Mental toughness, grit, tenacity and a strong will that can bend anything in its path, are also virtues. I know u're only 17, and questioning just about everything in your life. This too will pass. You will find some answers, some you'll have to strive for..... but with every passing year you WILL learn to value yourself and your own life.

I'm sorry if I came across sounding like an arrogant Ms. Know-it-all. Maybe if we'd been in a room together you'd have given me a resounding slap... maybe I'd deserve it too... but Princess.. I'm merely trying to tell you that the joy of living is also an art.. and a life skill... one that can be learned.
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Posted: 01 March 2005 at 6:18pm | IP Logged

QueenbeeCryCryCry

I'm touched.........................your sister is soooooooo brave...............i can't imagine what it would have been like to be in her postion. She REALY is VERY BRAVE.

Thank you for making me realise the meaning of life...........and how important it is...........................I do try not to think about that topic and let me tell u this........that since i started this topic and read everyone's comments i don't feel as bad or unwanted as i did before........

I want to live.............but sometime things are NOT going right at all and life is just tooooooooooooo hard.................those are the day when i just want to give up everything and die...............but i don't i'm still here and living.

Thank you once again Queenbee. You did not upset me at all and i'm not mad or anything like that. You didn't say anything wrong.................but i'm glad u said all this.................thank You sooooooooo much.

And thank you to all the other members who has helped me understand the importance of my life...............

And guess what...........i'm again going to be in the newspaper................and with who you might ask................People from City Hall. The counsel from our City Hall. I feel so proud because i'm getting to the top and important people.

Smile



Edited by vijay - 02 March 2005 at 7:17pm

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