Posted: 10 January 2006 at 6:44am | IP Logged
This is indeed nice topic and thoughtful topic. But as some other memebers said yes, people are changing their attitude. There are families who treat thier son and daughter as same and give them same freedom and opportunities. Husband and wife are also seen living their life as life partners rather than one having special set of rules.
However, it is still very very common to see this kind of different rules for men/women, girls/boys. And I would like to blame women too on this issue. I take my own example, that my husband goes out for late night movie with his buddies sometimes, whereas when one of my friend asked to to go out for late night movie once I didn't even ask my husband and told her that it's not possible as I have to get my baby to sleep and I am not comfy. If my husband has to go out of town for his work conference he just inform me whereas if I have to go out for work conference I tell my employee that I will let you know next day and then I "ask" my husband if it's ok that I go for a day or two? Can you manage with our daughter? He never ask me if I can manage with my daughter!!! So i think it's not only men's fault, but also women who is so used to this attitude and trained from her childhood to "respect" their men and treat them as leader of the family. And sometimes if some women do not care to ask their husband or follow the same set of rules as men people talk about them being "extrovert" or not attached to family or not being good enough wife. And people who talk like this are also women. So i personally think we as a women also encourage such attitude in society- knowingly or unknowingly!
same goes with boy/girl. there are families who have different set of rules for their two offspring. with Boys-it's ok with they come home late, or if they have girl as a friend, or if they don't help in household chores. where as girls- it's not ok with they come home late at nights, if they have boy as a friend, or if they sit all day and don't help in household chores. This is sometimes to protect girls from evil in society. Sometime it is for reason. like if boy gets raped (which hardly happens
) it's ok he can still get married and no one would know..if girl goes late nights and someone rapes her her whole life will be wasted, no one will marry her and she herself will be tortured due to that incident. So parents would like to protect girls more than boys. I think from beginning they treat girls as someone else's "amanat"...she is there only for some years and then they have to hand her to someone else so they have to protect her and take care of her kind of attitude. Whereas boys are theirs for ever.