I too am realising that Gauri's desperate need to be accepted by the Singh family arises from her childhood trauma of being left outside in the rain utterly alone knowing that her only hope of survival lay in the haveli opening its doors and letting her in.
That night when she must have been so scared and bereft, must have been awful for her is actually a gross understatement. And as a child she was too young to understand that the fault was not with the haveli not knowing she was freezing outside but with her parents who callously abandoned her there telling her this was her new and true home...
One can bury one's past and make a new present yes - but old places can bring back old memories...She could have run far far away from Jagya and tried to bury it again or she could try to face this demon once and for all. I think she is in her own unclear way trying to win this battle. But she will need to step back a bit and rethink about this whole thing. Her conversations with her mom are not going to help. Maybe her talk with Anandi will be the trigger - Gauri may try to see what actually happened that night and how she did get a better deal. Currently she is very very alone - am now feeling sorry I did not see her behaviour as a result of her PTSD earlier..
I hope Anandi will be her usual calm self and talk to Gauri if she initiates any convo...am glad DS is not being her drastic self and has just chosen to let them stay and see what happens..