Originally posted by heroin.
I had a fight with my mom recently and it left me thinking - 1) Why do parents get so mad at 'talking back'?, 2) Do you think kids should never talk back?
Basically, we were both very tired. She asked me to do some chore and I said I'll do it later. She got annoyed and started making faces. I was in no mood to talk it out with her so I just told her that there was no need to make faces. She exploded in my face and started yelling for no reason. I tried explaining in a calm manner but she wouldn't listen. She said some hurtful things and when it got too much, I told her not to cross the line.
But when we tried to talk about it the next day, she kept saying 'you were talking back', when I wasn't, I was just explaining calmly. So I don't understand, why do parents get so annoyed even when you just open your mouth?
You come across as the mom and your mom, the kid - the way you've described the incident.
Why only single out parents? Don't we all in general get a bit mad whenever we are talked back. It has essentially to do with the fact that we try to impose an opinion on someone and when a person questions it, it hurts our ego.
However, i do agree that the present generation is much more open to debate than the previous generation. It is all a part of cultural shift. The parents, typically, are more orthodox than us because they were brought up in a more orthodox environment. The definition of open-mindedness changes with each generation. I am sure the present generation, however much open minded it might consider itself to be, will find certain acts of the next generation ridiculous and similarly, the next generation is bound to find the present one rigid in many departments.
As regards, talking back at parents being considered- I believe, one should obviously express his/her views, but never forget to give them the respect they deserve. In general, my observation tells me that we tend to be harsher while dealing with our parents than while dealing with anyone else, while it should be the vice versa. Never take them for granted, and if, perhaps they are against your "talking back even when you were only explaining" ,give them a break ; they have given you many !:)