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Posted: 19 June 2011 at 2:12pm | IP Logged
Edit:
Sorry folks, after I read the whole diary, I think that guy indeed deserves a very strong punishment (effectively responsible for the death). He shouldn't have married if he loved his GF that much.
Hi parents also deserve some punishment for asking that money/furniture etc, although it didn't lead to the actual death (since it was mostly before the marriage)...!!!
Of course, she should have just walked out instead of killing herself. He was indeed a jerk, probably the worst one have every read/heard about...!!! And she was indeed too good for him...!!!

Indeed, really a sad story... everyone should read it.

After a long time, I had my eyes full of tears after reading that diary...


Edited by aj.fathers - 20 June 2011 at 8:35pm
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Posted: 19 June 2011 at 2:39pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by aj.fathers

I think Fragrance and return_to_hades are being a bit too much dramatic...!!!


Perhaps I did not explain my views clearly in my previous posts. I agree with Souro that the death is unfortunate but too melodramatic. I also agree with most others that her parents are abusing the dowry law and being ridiculous.

My first point is that a system of accountability needs to be set, because India suffers too many unfortunate forced marriages. Perhaps not as melodramatic as this one. However, many young lives are ruined because some stubborn beliefs held by parents. Many Indians families rigidly stick to a system of forced marriages. Due to this problem, I think we need to have more stringent laws to prevent forced marriage - and make parents as well as children think twice before forcing or succumbing to a marriage.

My second point is precisely related to the abuse of dowry law. People are abusing it. We need to replace it with comprehensive, pragmatic domestic abuse laws that are gender neutral. Men and women are victims of abuse, sometimes so are parents and in-laws. Sometimes men and women are trapped in bad marriages. I think we need practical laws that treat things on a case by case basis, rather than having blanket laws that force the burden of proof on the men and their families.

Taking this situation, in what I propose - there would be no question of dowry law abuse. The only charge would be forced marriage, withholding information and perhaps emotional distress of some sort. The husband and his family would face the consequences of a forced marriage (whatever it be determined by law) - and not subject to any sort of liability of a harsher criminal charge like dowry death.

If ever a dowry death occurs, there would be domestic abuse laws and domestic violence laws to address those charges as they come.

Edit: FYI - The involvement of parents is not an assumption. The information clearly states that his parents knew about his relationship with another woman, but forced him to marry a girl of their choice. They also never told her parents or her about his relationship (nor did he). If his parents had no clue about his affair then its 100% his fault. However since they knew and they forced him the fault likes 50-50.


Edited by return_to_hades - 19 June 2011 at 2:42pm
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Posted: 19 June 2011 at 5:23pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by souro

Tragic yes but too melodramatic. Stand up, walk out.


Rightfully said. If he did not care for her when she was alive, I doubt he's going to give a damn that she killed herself over him. Parents (especially desi parents) need to raise their daughters as strong, independent individuals who can overcome such heartbreaks of adulterous husbands and cheating boyfriends. While her death is unfortunate, I cannot help but wonder why she would give up something so precious as her life over a man who did not respect or care for her.

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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 3:27pm | IP Logged
She should've kicked or batted him hard in the middle damaging his jewls for life.


Edited by P1nk - 20 June 2011 at 3:28pm

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Posted: 21 June 2011 at 11:23am | IP Logged
Originally posted by *Woh Ajnabee*

Originally posted by souro

Tragic yes but too melodramatic. Stand up, walk out.


Rightfully said. If he did not care for her when she was alive, I doubt he's going to give a damn that she killed herself over him. Parents (especially desi parents) need to raise their daughters as strong, independent individuals who can overcome such heartbreaks of adulterous husbands and cheating boyfriends. While her death is unfortunate, I cannot help but wonder why she would give up something so precious as her life over a man who did not respect or care for her.
Because she did not  respect her own life herself.

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Posted: 21 June 2011 at 3:34pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by P1nk

She should've kicked or batted him hard in the middle damaging his jewls for life.

Yes chop it off, like what I read in a few cases.
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Posted: 22 June 2011 at 12:45am | IP Logged
Originally posted by *Woh Ajnabee*



Rightfully said. If he did not care for her when she was alive, I doubt he's going to give a damn that she killed herself over him. Parents (especially desi parents) need to raise their daughters as strong, independent individuals who can overcome such heartbreaks of adulterous husbands and cheating boyfriends. While her death is unfortunate, I cannot help but wonder why she would give up something so precious as her life over a man who did not respect or care for her.


@ bold , Agree with you.

P.S:  I don't care if any one find me dramatic, But the way things is changing , desi parents need to change their mentality. I'm saying that as i'm 23 yrs old girl, whose parents are searching an ideal or should i say suitable boy for her, and ready to all the necessary ( you people have your word here) that they can afford. They still give priority to a marriage than the financial independence for a young girl . 

Edited by -Fragrance-- - 22 June 2011 at 1:36am

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Posted: 22 June 2011 at 5:19am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Summer3

Originally posted by P1nk

She should've kicked or batted him hard in the middle damaging his jewls for life.

Yes chop it off, like what I read in a few cases.


That's exactly it sir. If you don't know how to use it you have no right having it. Approve

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