First of all, about Anandi leaving the house. When anandi came to know that Jagya has married gauri and brought her to the house, she had packed her bags to leave the house. However, its the family that stopped her from leaving. Everyone in the house except Jagya, loves her. For everyone else, she is part of the family.
It is true that, she came to the house, though her relation with Jagya. However, these many years that she spent in that family has made her develop many ties with the family. From being a wife of Jagya(from the social view, not legally since child marriage is illegal in India) she has become a DIL, a Grand DIL, a Bhabhi, a Maasi. The culture, the socienty in India is different, try as much as u negate it or ignore it, It is not the same as the west, where DIL is just a position - 'The current wife of your son'. It is not just a position in India, it is a relation. It is not a game of "Passing the Parcel", where now that Jagya has brought Gauri, anandi should be thrown out and Gauri given the place. Then after few years, when Jagya gets another girl, throw Gauri out. and then after few years, throw the new girl out and so on.
A Dil has certain responsibilies to the family and vice-versa, the family too has certain responsibilites to the DIL. And in this way i completely support the Singh family, in not allowing Anandi to leave the house. Their son destroyed the life of Anandi, so it is their responsibility to help her make her life. And why is it, that Anandi has to leave the house and go to her parents, if she has to stand on her feet. The Singh family is ready to support and help Anandi stand on her feet. So as long as they don't have any problem in her staying there, no one should force her to leave. She can continue staying in that house, continue studying, find a good job, stand on her feet and later get married to a man worthy of her. I am sure everyone in the Singh family, except dadisa would support her, when she marries this new guy.
Now comming to Jagya, I feel he is a complete coward. Even if he feels that he doesn't love Anandi, she was forced on him, he still has few responsibilities. I donot find any fault in him loving Gauri - She is the girl of his choice. He can marry Gauri, however it should not be at the cost of destroying Anandi's life. He should have helped Anandi stand on her feet, helped her live her life independently not just throw her out in the open , in the cold. Shyam too married Suguna against his parent's wishes, however he did not destroy anyone's life. Shyam instead help suguna make her life, gave her son his name, hepled her stand in the society. That makes him a hero. Jagya is just a spoiled brat, who wants to keep his cake and eat it too. He doesn't have the courage to face the consequences of his action, doesn't have the courage to set things right.
And now Gauri, she lost my respect, the day she agreed to marry Jagya. And now comming with Jagya to his house and meeting his ex-wife, demanding his family to accept her as their DIL, Rubbing salt on the wounds of anandi by her lovey-dovey actions with Jagya - I feel its very selfish of her. And if she feels she has not done anything wrong, in marrying a man and living with him, in front of his ex-wife, then she should have known that - "when a man marries his mistress, he makes a position vacant". So why is she feeling insecure,, when he consoles anandi. She has hurt the feelings of his family, ignored the feelings of another girl, who was jagya's wife, in eyes of the society, then she should also face the music when the family members hurt her , ignore her.
Though everyone here felt suguna's comment about washing the clothes again as too hard, i felt it was right - it was a tight slap for gauri - who not only was a part of destroying another girl's life but had the audacity to come in front of her and rub salt on her wounds. I feel it is only the most heartless of women, who can do such a act, and such a woman does not require any sympathy. She has herself made the target for any level of hurtful words or action. Pardon me for my harsh words, but the least she can do is get out of that house. Though i am not sure if she can still live with that guilt of destroying Anandi's life.
Edited by lakshmim_84 - 12 years ago
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