Posted: 05 June 2011 at 2:11pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by gangubai1The two DILs of the Chaturvedi clan are two very strong women and a perfect foil for each other. While everyone is going gaga about how good Toasty is, despite her education and modern upbringing, Toasty is a big doormat. She has no concept of standing up for herself and needs to learn how to fight her own battles.
i personally thought she was learning to fight her own battles. there was a point in which pashu fought with chedi to send toasty-tej on honeymoon instead of building a room. Prachin who took her as a maid treated her so nicely. Chedi gave her his late wife's chain and keys to the house. She fought for herself in her own ways...
Int his respect she needs to learn from Malti. It should not have been Malti who pointed out their mistakes to the Chaturvedi clan, but Toasty herself, but all she's done is shed tears and sit in her bedroom, being miserable and making her family miserable. If she believed that things would improve with time, she should have made an effort to lighten the atmosphere in her own home, so that her mother does not get so hyper about Toasty being mistreated. If Sudha is hyper, Toasty is responsible for that, because the only time she shows some animation is when she is defending her family, otherwise she is listless and moping all day. Any mother would get worried seeing her daughter like that.
Must I remind you of Malti's mom? If Malti has any courage to speak up, its due to Toasty! Otherwise she wouldn't mum a word to her own "HYPER" mom! Toasty is not superwoman. She believes that first the men had to calm down a bit- at least Tej. As for lightening the atmosphere, that is impossible with SUDHA! She has been trying to not talk about Chaturvedi's but if someone talks bad about ur family, won't you rebel? Yaar, give her some time and stop reminding her that she her family ahs kicked her out! only then will she be able to get better!
Malti on the other hand has shown grit. While Toasty knows how to control her own mother, Malti is led totally by her mother and is incapable of thinking for herself or analyzing things and situations on her own. This hse has learnt from observing Toasty. So while Toasty's influence has been instrumental in changing Malti's character from outright negative to a woman with shades of grey. Now it's time for Toasty to learn her lesson.
Toasty needs to learn to assert herself, not just to her mother but also to her husband and his family. She needs to demand for her rights and ask to be treated with the respect she rightfully deserves. The older men in the family treat her as nothing but a glorified servant and the younger members have put her on a pedestal, but the truth is somewhere in between and this she needs to learn from Malti.
DEMAND for her RIGHTS, RESPECT? that's not something to be demanded.. its something you earn! and that's what she has been trying and succeeded if that one incident (pashu catching toasty with malti) did not occur. I don't see how the older men treated her as a servent.. initially yes but gradually everyone accepted her, EVEN PASHU! and i think thats why he was hurt when he saw her with malti. cuz he wanted the best for her and fought with his family too but he felt he was deceived when he saw the two together.
Personally i think only malti needs to learn right now... i'm not saying tanya is perfect but i see a justified reason for her actions... but thats my opinion and everyone is obliged to their own.