Posted: 27 May 2011 at 11:07am | IP Logged
Originally posted by osama-bin-joe
Originally posted by *Woh Ajnabee*My motto stands as if you wouldn't do it in real life, don't do it in virtual life.
Following that helps me because I do realize that it is pretty easy to lose yourself online and to allow yourself to believe that what happens here doesn't matter. At the end of the day, it does matter. You may think that logging off/editing/self-banning yourself will make your actions go away, but this is still real life. What you do and how you behave all stays with you. Yeah, no one else may come and ask you why you said what you said, but do whatever it takes to keep your conscience clean.
that's also a pretty bad idea. By doing that, you are treating your virtual life on par with your real life, which causes you to take it too seriously. There's no need to turn into mr. hyde, but there's no need to stay Dr. Jekyll either on the net. For example, I make the rudest comments on youutube or IF, which I wouldn't dream of saying in real life, apart from a few friends that is. Virtual life is a relaxed version of reality, where you can sweep a few dust pieces under the mat. A few.
Don't make me pull out those "few" pieces that you have swept under the mat because I promise you it will come back to haunt you, li'l boy.
And I disagree with you here, why won't your VL personality be the same as your RL personality? This forum just allows you a chance to discuss your ideas with a bunch of nameless people online, but it's not meant for you to develop some form of an online personality that you wish you had but really don't. Why would you make rude comments on Youtube? Well, I guess it is you
, we're talking about!
Think about it this way: suppose instead of IF, you were having this discussion (or any debate) on Facebook with people you know in real life and people you will have to see again. Will your style of debating change? Will you say things differently then you would here on the forum since you know that you'll have to see these people tomorrow at school, at work, etc.? The answer to this question, for me, would be 'yes' - does it get me into a lot of trouble? Yeah, that too, but it's also who I am. And that doesn't change depending on who I am talking to.
But yes, I will agree that it is easier to say something more direct (be it rude or just blunt) to someone you don't know, someone who's feelings you don't care about, and someone you won't have to deal with once you log out than it is for someone you do know and will have to face.