Posted: 24 May 2011 at 9:39am | IP Logged
Here are Anju's thoughts on today's episode
Dear Friends, I am so honored and touched by your love for me and
my posts. I had no idea that my posts and my thoughts were read by so
many of you and you liked them even though you might not have agreed to
them 100%, and that is absolutely fine as that is what discussions mean.
I am glad I have been able to have some impact on your life. I am sorry
for not posting this directly as I need some time off from the forum
but I am here with you all and you can PM me - I cannot leave CCBM and
NiVren and all the other characters who are doing a fabulous job
regardless of the story.
I saw the episode today after reading the update and the first thought that came to my mind was :-
"Essence of being a woman - So well described and said by Sushmita Sen"
"Just being a woman is God's
gift. The origin of a child is a mother, a woman. She shows a man what
sharing, caring, and loving is all about. That is the essence of a
And what is our dear Nivedita doing - getting rid of this very
essence. Is she really a woman? Does she understand what a woman is? She
in her so-called guilt is killing (yes this is killing and not
sacrifice) the very meaning of being a woman. There are so many millions
of woman who want a baby and nurture it but they cannot because of
medical reasons or other issues and what is Nivedita doing? What is her
reasoning for not having baby - that she has promised her Di that she
will take care of Dwita. WOW !!! Way to go Nivi. How do you know that
that was what Divya wanted? Did she ever tell you - NO. She asked you to
be away from her. And for past 2 days you have seen Dwita's father
taking care of her and he has in polite way told that Dwita needs her
daddy and she is very happy with him.
Today, I have to whole-heartedly appreciate Siddharth. He has
clearly understood the problem and he being the person who wants to keep
his family happy has taken the control of the situation by taking his
daughter in his hands and rightfully so. He knows Nivi well and knows
what the problem is - Nivi is getting possessive which is not good for
her, not for Viren and not for the baby too. And moreover Dwita is not
an orphan. She has her daddy with her. Who says that single parents
cannot handle babies and cannot bring them up? Nivedita will always be
mom-like and never will be Dwita's mom. The sooner she realizes this the
better it is for her and her mental being. She because of her guilt is
ruining Dwita's life too as such obsessive parents are not good and they
will never be able to give the proper space to a child that he or se
needs for the proper growth. Siddharth said the right thing to HL too -
Mein Dwita ka daddy hun aur uska pura dhayan rakhunga...
Nivi is getting the jhatkas but her jhatka of Divya's death is very
strong..So something unusual has to happen for her to come out. Looks
like HL and her talks always had a tremendous effect on Nivi so did she
then think that what will HL say when she comes to know that Nivi has
refused to have a baby because of Dwita?? Does she not know HL who will
again blame Nivi for separating Dwita from the rest of the family and in
a way to come close to Siddharth??? Why is it that she thinks that
whatever she decides or choses is the ultimate? How selfish she can be?
Whatever she has done in her life so far, she has made those
decisions and choices without taking consent or discussing it with
others who got affected by those decisions of hers. And now she is
taking an extreme decision of not bringing another life on this earth,
of devoiding herelf and her husband from the happiness of being parents,
of devoiding Sood family from their blood and ansh and maybe their heir
to carry on the Sood name. Is that justified? And that too in the name
of giving full attention and mamta to Dwita. Will Siddharth ever be able
to digest this and will he ever be able to get himself rid of the guilt
that it is because of his daughter that Nivi took such a drastic step?
Will Sood family ever forgive Nivi for doing this? Will she be able to
stay in the Sood house if Viren leaves her now because of her pagalpan
as he deserves to be happy too? Then with what haq will she live in Sood
house to take care of Dwita?
Dadaji saw Viren going down and figured something is serious
between the 2 and he spoke to him the next morning. I liked that he
called him to get the handle on the situation but what I did not like
was that he again asked Viren to bend and resolve the problem... Why
does DS think that it could be Viren because of whom the problem
occurred? I appreciate that Viren did not tell the whole story as it is
between husband and wife and he thought that now things are resolved.
But still DS could have said that Viren take care of the situation
instead of saying "ki takiya aur bistar lekar apni biwi ko chorna theek
nahin." This shows that he thinks that whatever happened is because of
him which is not correct. I would have appreciated if DS would have said
"Viren, mia-biwi ke beech mein baatein hoti rahti hain jinko milke
suljhaya ja sakta hai naki alag hoke." something of that sort. Here then
the onus would have been on both Viren and Nivi.
I loved the way the emotions were shown for both - Viren and Nivi.
They both acted well. Nivi is realizing that whatever she is doing to
Viren is not right, she is fighting herself and that is why she went to
him. The guest room scene clearly shows that they both love each other
and want each other and how can Viren not forgive Nivi when she is
admitting her mistake. This is sign of a healthy relationship and we all
saw what transpired next - their love, the stress buster.
And the morning, Nivi realizes that whatever happened in the night
could result into something that she does not want. And she takes the
extreme decision of getting herself operated so that there is no worries
later on. She wants the relationship, she has desires, she loves Viren,
she has feelings but she does not want to take the responsibility that
these desires will lead to. This is what I concluded today. She does not
believe herself. She doubts her love. Her love either for Siddharth,
for Viren and now for Dwita is weak. She cannot love more than one
person at a time as she thinks she will not be able to do the justice.
She is single-minded and can only focus on one at a time. That is why
she left Sid as she focussed on her love for Divya. Now she loves Viren
but when Dwita came her love focussed only on Dwita. And now if her baby
comes her love will focus only on her baby and she will forget Dwita...
So she can only love one person at a time.
If she had faith in herself and her love, she would not have said NO to others.
That is why she ran to the doctor to get her operated - future ki
tension hi khatam, na hoga baans na bajegi bansuri. Viren ka kya hai,
usko to mein roke sorry bolke mana lungi. Thora time tension rahega phir
sab theek ho jayega. How can she go to this level? How can she take
such a step without discussing it with Viren? And look at her audacity -
she goes and asks him to sign. WHat did she think that he will happily
I loved what Viren gave her back - "Sab kuch tumhare liye, Dwita ki
khushi ke liye...mere liye kya? I was remembering the time when she
said the same to him - hamesha tum, tumhari khushi, tumhari chahat...So
time has totally changed. It is now about NIVI only.
CTs destroyed Nivi's character also today. They have played with
each and every character and she was the oly one remaining and we got to
see her destruction too. The ones who have not changed are - HL and CC.
I am so utterly disappointed by Nivi. She does not know what a woman
is? What is the difference between her and Divya now? Atleast Divya kept
the option of having more babies later on by going for abortion and
what did Nivi do - take the step which will never allow her to come
back, no U-turn allowed once she gets operated. She could have asked for
time from Viren, to wait for couple of years till Dwita is little
bigger. Viren would have happily given that time to her. But she decided
to close all the roads..
Food for your brain - I am going to pose a situation here where your grey matter will have to work.
Say hypothetically as we all are seeing rumors or false articles
floating around that Viren will sacrifice and it might pave way for
Sid-Nivi reuion - Now if she gets tubectomy done and Viren sacrifices
her so that she is free from him to take care of Nivi and Sood family to
keep the respect and dignity of their family get Sid-Nivi married, so
that means Nivi is refusing Siddharth his haq of having 2nd baby too...
He cannot have another baby if he marries Nivi and Dwita will never have
a sibling... WOW... Then what is the point of this sacrifice??? Or is
it that she will not get tubectomy but still Viren will leave her as he
has right to live and be happy and Sid-Nivi get married and do you think
Nivi will still refuse to give baby to Sid so that her mamta and care
does not get divided between Dwita and 2nd baby????
I am so puzzled, confused that is why I posed the above question. I
know that is not happening ever as that is not the way but wanted to
get it out of my system.
Sorry for this extremely long post. Hope you like it and sorry if I
have hurt anyone. These are my POV, you do not have to agree.
Edited by Raj_Luv_NiViren - 24 May 2011 at 9:45am