@Saazy (welcome back and I am happy to see you) and Gaayu,
Before you guys hurl back to me, I just want to say that this is in no way an attack to you guys. I have been questioned and accused for quoting people in the past so please this is not some special treatment or simply pointing fingers at you guys. This is only done for a healthy discussion for the valid points you guys have raised.
Very valid points raised and I agree 100% on this. Image is def. something that makes or breaks a person. If you are a celebrity of any kind then your image is important to your fans, no matter what number of fans they are.
Like you said Gaayu, we have control on our image only through our words and our doings but we have no control on how others interpret our words or how others see us as. It is in the hand of the observer to either believe the person who is speaking or to reject it completely and in no way we will change that observer's mind.
However, it is not his/her duty to inform us, the fans, that please accuse/defend me and my words due to some misunderstandings that were created. He/she doesn't ask us to follow/leave him or her. If we are a fan of his work and nothing more then we shouldn't be affected by his personal life to the extent that we openly abuse him and his character just because some article or some pictures were posted.
In case of Karan, as an example since it is the hot topic these days, following things have happened all together and recently stirred something that was not there. Not only that, his words, actions, and everything were used against or for him simply on what people saw or said. His words were twisted in many ways than one can imagine and his actions were misinterpreted as well.
Following are the examples of his words that were misinterpreted first by a print media (whom I still believe is not even believe able for the way it was written, a word for that is yellow journalism) and then they were misinterpreted by his fans:
- The article took his comment of never breaking friendships even after friends go away was used wrongly and declared him and his words for dating someone.
- His comment on his fan page, which was negative due to his personal life being displayed to the world w/o his knowledge, was about weather, which equally account for "No comments," was taken wrongly for not clearing things.
Let's step back a bit and go to his bday videos on IF where he clearly said he is single and no one in his life but people had, like certain gossip media, believed it otherwise due to some person's presence there created whispers and gossips among all.
Then came the pictures, which not only exploited his private life but they also added fuel to the already burning "fire." It created more doubts about him but yet the man stood by his words saying that he is single and not dating anyone and that certain someone is just his friend. The pictures are still up and he is still saying they are friends why? Because they are friends and he didn't lie because if he had then pictures would be down and he would've refuted the article's quote from him. Even the person concerned, who put the pictures, have now said they are friends.
So why are still going on and on about this Image deal? Well I don't think his image is anywhere damaged because the guy did everything to save it but it is not in his hand to make us believe it. It is by our choice that we believe him or refuse him but does the guy deserve all the lashings? Are we here to appreciate his talents or are we here to gossip about his life? Does he owe us anything to gossip about his life? Does he not have privacy? Yes I know being a star comes with responsibilities but if that star is behaving just the way he wants and giving explanations that he is single but yet the world believe otherwise then it is not his job to give further explanations.
I have always believed that when you are right, you don't need to justify your actions and if someone truly loves you or believes you then they will not even ask for justification from you. I mean that is how we have trust in families right? Then why not now?
Why are we hell bent on abusing him with gaalis that the man doesn't even deserve? Why are we blaming him for our own mental state of believing every word he says to the very core?
He is not a role model like Mendela, Theresa or Diana, who's great works spoke for them. He is an artist, whose work is to act and attract people through his acting and not through his personal life. Who he dates or what he says shouldn't be a concern of ours then. If we love him and believe him then it is simply our choice. If one thing breaks our heart then he didn't ask us to fall in love with him due to his personal life. If he had messed up in his acting then it is valid to hate him but not due to his personal life because we are not going to meet him or ask him to please be our bestest friend in the whole wide world. Yes vent ur frustrations and move on but not to the point where some stupid dream runs ur life that u start believing his every word like he is ur best friend. He doesn't owe u an explanation for his actions. He had already explained himself so it is our turn to either believe him over others. It is by choice we believe or reject him and it is by choice that we abuse him but we shudn't do it to the extent that we are tarnishing our own views in turn.
We are putting a black spot on our image for a person who is not there to tell us how to run our life in the first place.
If he is not interested in his image then who are we to question him? He knows that he will lose fans if he doesn't clarify so why wudn't he? Coz he already has.
I am concerned with him and his life as well as his work and to me I believe him but that is my opinion. Even if he had said he is taken then I wud behave the same and say hey he is acting well so watch him for that.
True fans stay there with you when you go through rough times, others just abandon u the first moment you hit something (same philosophy applies to real life relationships.)
It is all in the eyes of an observer that the image is seen not the star (not so much at least).
I am only making points not pointing fingers.