Originally posted by xx-Rai-xxhey everyone
i have this confusion in my life
i am dating this guy who is in the same school nd grade as me nd we have lunch together
so we always see each other and i dont know about myself but he definitely likes me a lot
like in all his status, its something about me and his friends tell me that he is crazy about me
nd i used to like him too but i dont know if i still do??????
i mean i get the feelings now that i dont like him anymore
i just want to be friends with him but i dont know what to say to him
i mean i m his first girlfriend nd all nd i dont want to break up with him nd hurt his feelings
but i also dont want to fake about my love for him
i used to like him but now i started to realize that i dont like him that much
if i break up with him, he will be really hurt nd i dont want to hurt him but i dont want to fake with him either
if i break up with him, he probably wont be my friend anymore
so what should i do
please someone help me
i really need help soon
Rai, I think you should be honest with him and tell him how you feel.
It would hurt him, but like you said yourself, not telling him would mean that you'd be faking it. I honestly think it's wayyy better to tell him rather than fake it.
But that's just what I think. Maybe I'm a bit extreme. I guess a good idea would be to wait for others to comment on this thread. It's always useful to have a number of opinions before you act...
I also think that even though he will be hurt and might break off all ties (including friendship) maybe that will just be temporary?
If you do tell him, make sure you're very gentle about it. He may take some time to understand, he may refuse to understand, he may become very obstinate (and annoying).. whatever the case may be, make sure you remain patient with him .. assure him that it's not his fault, that you do like him and would really, really not want to lose his friendship.
Then, I think (and hope) that, with time, he would recover and you guys could become really good friends again.
I'd say, three things that you should emphasise, if you do tell him, would be:
1. that the friendship means a lot to you
2. that the reason why you want to stop dating him, is not because you want to get rid of him, but because you respect him too much to lie to him
3. that maybe you guys aren't meant to be, but there would be someone out there that's totally made for him and would deserve his love much more.. (it sounds super filmi but it's true.. you only realise it when it happens).
And then, just give him some time and space to get over the hurt feelings, and let him know that you will always be there for him. Hopefully, he'll come round soon..
It's not an easy thing to do, and it would hurt you as well.. but in my opinion, it's the right thing to do. All will be fine with time. Just never lose hope.
All the best! Whatever you decide, make sure it's what you really, really want! Follow your heart, no matter what
Ps. Are you sure, sure, sure you don't like him in that way anymore? Sometimes people become so familiar that we start taking them for granted.. That's not the case here, hey?