Posted: 04 May 2011 at 11:05pm | IP Logged
Very well said!
Pammi for a change is not just a character but a woman on the show many Indian women will reckon with.
There are many Pammis in the real world who are brought up to take care of the welfare of their families. They are moulded such that all they know is to selflessly give themselves for their families without expecting anything in return.
Pammi too here is focussed on giving... she is selfless, loves her family but all she get is a life that she can share with no one. No one is plain bothered about her wishes, her life, her likes and dislikes. The aristocratic male dominated society embeded in the Indian culture has never made any probations for the women in the household. And more so when the women is the daughter-in-law of the house. What Beeji does for her daughter or her niece whom she considers like her own daughter she doesn't consider the same for Pammi... Why? coz somewhere she is still an outsider!
Teji cannot bear someone mistreating his sister but fails to see what he's doing to his own wife. for he has presumably taken her for granted. She's suppose to bow down and oblige. I remember when she had gone to her brother's place when there some problem in her maternal home... teji had ended up admonishing her... how hypocritical! but thats how the male dominated society works... i can for sure vouch for the authencity of this character coz i have seen such cases... i have seen worse... thanks heaven for i have been brought up to stand up for myself! but all women are not so lucky.
Also in yest's epi Pammi mentioned that this would be her 9th KC... and as we see she is not yet bestowed upon with the blessing of motherhood... this can be the one possible reason for their indifference towards her too. Reason be whatever the society always blames a woman! i just hope that Geet be able to help her and knock some sense in the thick head of her brother!