Posted: 05 May 2011 at 4:32pm | IP Logged
I think more than likely everyone agrees with the following on this forum:-
1) Child marriage is wrong, both morally and legally
2) This show is fictional as are all events in it and on one should use it as basis upon to make life decisions
3) None of us would truly wish to ever see ourselves or ones close to us in either gulaal's or kesar's position today.
Now coming to why I personally watch Indian tv serials. Firstly yes they are a form of escapism to me, as they are to billions worldwide. I'll also admit I rather shallowly like to watch some of the more boring, un-entertaining one's just because I love the Indian fashion, and its away to keep up to date with it.
Coming to what makes a serial appeal to me, good actors with even better chemistry, great script, and amazing sets sure play apart in making a good show, but IMO those are just the outer skin of a show. The substance of the show is crucial, what the show wants us to see/hear, its message to us its audience, is what draws me to it. Do I want to see this story unfold? Do I want to listen to its voice? Those are questions I admit I sadly ask myself. Not initially, but after a few epis yes I do, because I want to know if this show is worth my time.
What's the point in watching something you've heard or seen a million times? What's the point in watching a show that portrays characters or scenarios that you can't relate to? What's the point in a watching a certain show when you know with a click of the remote you can watch something a hellva lot better?
Relating to a character or the situation they are in is important. If you watch a show and spend the whole time scratching your head wondering wth is going on or W*F are the characters doing, you might as well switch off. Agreed most people can't relate to a murder, rapist, or any criminal, but in some instances some shows do a decent job of showing how such a character came to be. So although you won't agree with or be any of those things, you get why some individuals come to be.
Ok coming to this show! Why I watch gulaal, was because I was drawn to gulaal's and vasant's characters. I enjoyed watching their romance blossum, and loved the gulaal/kesar bond alongside kesar/vasant rista. I might not agree with gulaal's decision to 'marry' kesar, but I get why she did it. She in her confused (I'm not ignoring the fact that she was recently bereaved and still grieving) head, perhaps honestly believed that she was doing the right thing.
But the point is she commited a crime. And I can't condone such crimes. Child marriage is classed as child abuse. I don't watch B.V and couldn't care less what that show portrays as an result. But gulaal quite frankly speaking upon 'marrying' kesar commited child abuse. And the whole village, that stood there and allowed and accepted it, are condoning a crime. No one on this forum can escape that fact because that is what it is a fact.
Agreed all love stories aren't convential nor perfect. Perfection is something all of us must strive for, and few will ever achieve it. Again none of us are suddenly going to stalk playgrounds in an attempt to find potential husbands because of watching this show. Nor are we going to view boys/girls kesar's age when he was married as individuals we may one day grow to love as life partners.
But yes, some people who do practise such customs, may well feel justified in doing so, because of this show. Again I'm not saying this likely but chances are it could happen. My point is whether you or I see this as show about child marriage, other people will, and some of those people might practice child marriage, and feel that 'yes we are doing a good thing'.
Furthermore think of the poor children who are suffering (suffered), the abuse of child marriage.What a slap in face this show and others like it are for them. Here they were lamenting their fate, when infact hey, according to this show, what's happening (happened) to them is actually a good thing.
This show is sending a social message and in this case if it chooses to portray child marraige IMO they should do the right thing and show it is wrong. No what ifs or buts, it is plain wrong. Its a crime, and everyone who watches this show realise this. Right now I think their glamourising this concept by showing the beautiful gulaal and hottie neil, having some grand love story. That is not the reality so stop showing it.
Just think if they showed up a screwed up G-K, as an result of such a marriage and just one, just one person changes their minds and prevents such a marriage from happening. Wouldn't that be a good thing? Wouldn't it be better knowing that this happened rather than seeing G-K romancing? And it can happen, yes it most likely won't, but it might.
Sorry I've just realized how long this post is! Sorry If I've offended anyone, that is definitely not my intention!