Originally posted by: -pixie-
Relationships are complex or maybe we make them complicated...Maybe you did drop the hints in the story and we were unable to piece them together...
I think why get married at all (for Dev)- would remain a question whether he was cheating on her with a guy or a girl. I was expecting infidelity, and now think the gender is moot here after a point. The more I think about it, the more I feel- why infidelity at all? Maybe it was a dysfunctional relationship- never meant to be...with some mistakes from her side and some from his...Relationships like those always makes one uncomfortable- whether you see them on screen, read about them or even come across them in real life. You always expect the person to act- walk out, confront or do something? No, or am I the only one who feels that way?
As you said it, we can all debate about Dev's motivations for doing so- but thats a separate story! Who knows maybe you will choose to tell that one day too 😊
<I hope you consider this - equivalent to a rose bouquet and diamond bracelet😉😆>
The above underlined sentences compelled me to share something personal with you..it's something that happened to one of my family friends.They are settled in the US and have three girls,all happily married.I can't mention names,so let me call the second daughter, M. M had an arranged marriage to an Indian boy settled in US itself,hailing from a good,conservative family.Everything was perfect in the beginning..the only problem was that the guy refused to get intimate with her..he used to come up with all sorts of weird excuses. The first few months,she kept mum..She didn't even tell her sisters fearing what would happen if parents (both sides) came to know about it. Finally,frustrated out of her mind, she called me up..I suggested counselling..She called back saying he was not co-operating. After a few days, i got a call from her in the middle of the night. She was continuously sobbing but I understood this much..he confessed that he was impotent!! I consoled her,but felt that she should be talking this out with her family..She said she can't because he had threatened to commit suicide if she went open about this.
The guy I tell you was one smart cookie..eventhough they didn't get intimate,he somehow managed to get her emotionally involved with him..he could easily manipulate her..the next step he took was even more unbelievable..he begged and pleaded with her to go for IVF.I still don't know how the hell he convinced her. I was also totally unaware about this and got a rude shock when she told me that she was pregnant.Both the families were very happy..he was happy,she was also happy and I was the only one left sulking...
Anyways to cut the long story short,after her delivery within a couple of months,she discovered the truth about her husband. He was not impotent,he was gay..He knew that she wouldn't help if he told her the truth so did all the drama. She was shattered and this time had the sense to inform her parents.He did everything pssible in his power to stop this news from reaching his parents...you know the usual,suicide threats..emotional blackmail..when that didn't work...death threat!! He was mortally scared of his mother,it seems...Anyways,her family stood by her,she got a divorce..he was disowned by his family..he moved in with his partner..She met this wonderful doctor (a white man), who accepted her and the lil' girl whole heartedly..she now has another baby... but there is still trouble in her paradise,the former husband wants custody of their daughter..She doesn't mind sending her to him but the thought that he is living with another man ,is stopping her.
Sometimes, people can be so selfish that inorder to hide all of their skeletons in the closet,they don't think twice before manipulating and destroying the life of an innocent!!
Edited by tanya_vi - 12 years ago
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